I'm a woman in my 40's and I'd like to start dating but I'm a little gunshy - how do adults become more approachable to other adults without having to dress sexy or any other crazy stunts?
What do adult men look for in adult woman? I'm up for suggestions, I'm just shy about asking them.
2007-07-26 12:56:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've tried the online dating and was hammered with desperate men - including needy ones....not very appealing.
2007-07-26 13:06:14 · update #1
I'm reading this book called The Manual and the author says that men pick up on body language and even your mentality. Assuming you are divorced or widowed, you've spent a portion of your life married or in a committed relationship, so you probably got pretty good at giving off "no thank you, I'm taken" vibes. You have got to change those vibes! The Manual also says to always look good when you go out somewhere (yes, even the grocery store) because you never know when you'll meet someone special and you want to give a good first impression. So, wear clothes and style your hair in a way that makes you feel good about yourself and that will show to anyone checking you out! Also, as you go into a room of potential suitors (say you're out at a bar) just remind yourself that you are a catch and you could have any of those guys and they would be lucky to go out with you. That confidence is sexy and guys will pick up on it and soon you'll be getting asked out.
Oh, another thing is to not think it's such a big deal. When you meet men, talk to them like you've known them for a while, don't make everything so formal with the, "hi, my name is..." Just go with the flow, men will dig it!
2007-07-26 13:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and be honest about what you are seeking. If you're just starting to date again, you probably aren't out to find a long term relationship or marriage just yet. Get out there and just meet other people, both men and women. Have fun and do some new things or go to new places to be out where other people are doing things you like to do.
Try an online dating site or two. That way you can find men who have similar interests as you do. Just be honest about who and what you are and make sure you meet who corresponds with you in a decent time frame. Don't keep it linger with online chatting and emails...if they do, it's a clue they're hiding something.
I don't know what men always look for in women. But the friendlier you are and the more honest you are, you are likely to attract that in your life.
Good luck. Just relax and have some fun.
2007-07-26 20:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by keyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. You become a women that attracts a man. In this state you are thinking primarily too much on yourself as a women that doesn't attract men. In order to attract men you have to think like a women that does just that. I've helped coach many women just like you to get over the fact that you can't meet men...You can. I've done this all through yahoo Messenger. Add me if you'd like. David_Sexton_phd.
David Sexton., Relationship Advisor/Author
2007-07-26 20:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Obvious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im in my 50's and i was not good at dating or at least asking a lady out --- i found some well one adult site that i found interesting for a while (until i met my lady) --- i met some ladies and there was no real long term connection --- then when i stopped looking i found someone that i was not looking for --- yet she is so very special ---- there are so many different things that guys say they are looking for --- i think keep an open mind and be aware that sometimes someone will just come and knock you off your feet before you realise it --- best wishes
2007-07-26 20:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be gunshy. I hate the whole dating ritual.
2007-07-26 20:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probaly online dating or going to clubs
2007-07-26 20:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Master 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋