I am 35 divorced for 2 years now. I think Im a relitivly attractive looking woman. I do have 3 kids. But all I seem to find is men looking for a casual/sexual affair.
I think I come off very easy going but Im looking for more than sex...I mean at least go into things with the possibility of it leading up to somthing..If it dosent work..fine. but sex is just talken too lightley these days. Am I the only one left with morals, that wants to share my life with somone?
2007-07-26 12:54:08 · 20 answers · asked by kim b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kim,
Your right to be selective ..... and one can scratch a itch. But that should be a special moment that embodies trust, caring and comitment .... not just cause it's Ladies night at the bar.
Your doing just fine ... and yes there are still a few older guys who don't expect or demand all the icing with out buying the cake......
Good Luck ...Be Safe !
2007-07-26 12:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 45 and have the same thoughts. I am afraid that it is our current culture. I guess the old saying is "Birds of a feather flock together" Think what your interests are and then try to go places that you will meet a kindered spirit. For example you will not likely find a rock star in church or a lumberjack at the opera. Set your rules and live inside. The bottom line there is someone out there for everyone. Do not go outside you standard unless it is to improve yourself. Good Luck
2007-07-26 13:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by arborsurgeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-26 13:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by heavymetalrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not alone. i am 35 with 2 kids and feel blessed to still be married...i have older friends who have this battle with men...i would be totally honest up front with any man.."Hi. I am 35 years old and have 3 kids. If all you want is a "good time" then you need to move on and not waste my time."
mean, huh?
actually, I do know a lot of people who have met online...I used to think it was a little weird, but it does work for many...
one last thing....will it be a good thing for your kids to have a man in YOUR life taking time away from them? will they be ready for it?
2007-07-26 12:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by isingmore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there are guys out there looking for a serious relationship but I think that having 3 kids might deter alot of them. I married my wife and she had one kid. It was hard at first being responsible for a child but let me tell you... when the child looks you dead in the eye and ask you, "Can I call you Daddy?" My life changed forever. She currently has 3 kids of her own and she never fails to tell me, "I am her Dad". Being responsible for a ready made family is scary for most guys but when it all works out... it can be a very beautiful thing.
2007-07-26 13:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Primalstorm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There ARE men out there who wouldn't mind the 3 kids situation. There are some men who can't create children, but they would love to be a dad, so I'm sure you will find a guy like that, but you will only find him if you keep looking. Don't give up!
2007-07-26 13:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think having 3 kids scares a lot of guys off. Look at it from the guy's point of view. That's a lot of responsibility they are walking into. That is also a lot of financial investment for a date (taking you and the kids out) when they don't know you that well.
That isn't to say there aren't guys out there for you. There are. You just have to be patient and keep looking.
2007-07-26 13:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Freethinker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not the only one and i find that as you get older (and im a lot older than you) sex becomes part of the relationship ---- it is difficult to explain how i feel --- i dont go out with a lady just to try to get sex --- if sex is there it forms part of the relationship and we see if the whole relationship is worthwhile continuing --- sadly so far they have not been worth continuing --- i do have high hopes that my lady and i can build something long term and very special together
2007-07-26 13:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I concur with you that most men are only after the sex...but the few who really want a realationship are interested more about you and your precious heart...It takes time to know a person like watching your kids grow up...realationships need time to grow and water the plants so to speak with humor and deep sharhing of your feelings..take care
2007-07-26 13:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by jesse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm looking for an open, honest,reliable woman who can make it in the world on her own. A woman who is past the school girl B.S. and is ready to settle down for life in a mutualy supportive relationship.Someone who is a friend,lover and companion.
2007-07-26 12:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Rouge Rocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋