Did our parents teach us wrong?

Question

I can't help to notice that most people thinks their parents made the wrong choice in how they raised them.

Christians believe that if their parents would have raised them believing in God they would've had less trouble in their lives.

Atheist believe their parents should have never taught them about God.

As parents how can we make the right choice? Should we just teach them everything? Or should we teach our children our own beliefs?

Answer 1

teach your beliefs but let them know, and respect, other people's view of things.

Answer 2

Good question. I came from a unique background. I grew up around Christians, Jews, and those of a nature based religion stemming from heritage as Sinti (gypsy clan from Austria). I was openly taught from each and allowed to chose from myself. I attended many different kinds of celebrations and am glad to have had such an experience. Unfortunately not all our children can have such a diverse experience. Is it wrong...No. Parents teach their children their values and beliefs...this can never be wrong. It is important that our children grow up knowing where they came from. The only question is whether the children, once having a basic understand of parental beliefs, are trusted to make wise choices for themselves. If the child/children make a choice, different than or separate from the parents' faith...the child/children should still be loved and respected. The only difficulty I have with this process is when I see a parent turn away from their child because the child chose differently.

I hope you find what you are seeking
Blessings

Answer 3

I am not a parent, but as a teen who had definitely raised the same questions before, I can say that the best thing a parent can do when it comes to raising a stable child is teach them everything you found to be helpful in life. I was raised a Catholic, and though there were times I doubted..I always took the good morals my parents taught me and applied them to life. Even if you don't believe in God, that doesn't mean you don't have morals and good judgment. Just teach your child what you believe is best for them.

Answer 4

In your view do you think that is possible really. I am of the view that My God for a reason gave me to the parents he did for a reason. I also believe that My God knows everything in advance and thus knew exactly what our parents would teach us and how it would effect us.

If that view is taken seriously, then how could our chosen parents teach us wrong. Besides even if the did in a view, can we not make a choice as to what we do with what we are taught.

Of course there are other views and other standards as to what is right and wrong. I do not expect all or anyone else to have my view or my standards. Thus I am not in a position to answer for others and also must refrain from giving an absolute opinion. So just see this as a comment from a "NO".

Answer 5

I don't object to my parents having taught me about God. It's the almost daily beatings to teach respect for God's paternalistic authority that got to me. It's the speaking in tongues and rolling on the floor while screaming at the top their lungs. It's using live rattlesnakes to test the faith of twelve year olds. It's visiting the schizophrenic ward at the State Mental Hospital and discovering every single patient has serious religious issues. More than anything, it's discovering my parents lied to me about almost everything. Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny and nothing but cruel lies. So is the tooth fairy. So is God and Jesus and the one who cannot be named. It's all just a pack of lies thoughtless parents brainwash their offspring to believe.

Do you want to be good parents? Fine. Don't lie to your own children, period.

Answer 6

Parents do the best job they can. Every person is so different. I've known families in which all the kids but one felt the parents did a great job, or only one of the kids did and the others couldn't stand them. So much depends upon the individual. Personally, I feel my parents did a good job.

Answer 7

You need to teach your children the correct path. Tell them about God and let them decide for themselves if this is the path they will take as they get older. If you don't tell them about him then who will. You can never go wrong in teaching your children about God at a young age, Jesus was preaching by the age of 9.

Answer 8

Personally I've done my best to encourage my daughter to see and appreciate the world around her, to be curious but respectful of others.

What she makes of it all remains to be seen. But so long as she remains interested she will continue to learn. Well, that's my hope.

After all, children don't come with an instruction manual. For the most part in parenting there are no 'rights' and 'wrongs'. We just have to do our best. And love them of course, whether we agree with their choices or not. That's important.
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Answer 9

As parents we are entitled to teach or pass down our religious beliefs to our children...whatever that may be. I am teaching my daughter, my religion (Christianity) I will teach her to be tolerant and not ignorant of others beliefs...If she wants to believe something different, I will still love her, but as long as she is under my roof or until she is 18 she will go to church with me and she will respect my rules. If she wants to blame me for whatever, that is fine.

Unfortunately human nature is that people do not want to be held accountable for their own actions or beliefs, and blame others for whatever issues they may have. There are cases when abuse takes place...that obviously can cause issues as a child grows into an adult....but for people who do not experience abuse at the hands of their parents, they still blame them for everything they do wrong...when really people need to look into the mirror.

Answer 10

our cultures have been inundated with the great religious lies.... so much in fact that our laws, and behaviors evolved around them. What we are missing is what life and nature really meant for us to be. The word god is christian, but the word nature is obvious for us all..... Someday we will be able to speak about what was before the onslaught of christianity on our cultures. Some day we will be able to understand what the medicine man and women, the shaman, the healers really meant to life through nature.

Answer 11

Jesus said, "If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth\
will set you free." John 8:32b-32
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Teach them the truth about God. It will be the best thing you can do for your children.

Josh McDowell - was raised not to believe. He set out to disprove Christianity and in doing do discovered that you cannot disprove him. You might want to read his "Evident Which Requires a Verdict."