ive just found out im pregnant...ive only been seeing my partner about 6 weeks (its definatly his as i haven't been with anyone else in a long time!) i don't know yet what i want to do and don't know weather i should tell him at all if i decide not to keep the baby what would you do?
2007-07-26 11:54:34 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, tell him. Talk to him about it--make this decision together.
Maybe adoption is the right path to go. Maybe not. Talk it over with him.
2007-07-26 11:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some women who decide to have abortions don't tell their partner and that is their decision to make. A lot of people on here are shouting about the fact that it's his baby too - but you haven't been seeing him that long so don't let that phase the decision your heart is telling you to make. Go with your gut instinct - whether it's keeping the baby, having a termination or giving it up for adoption. Whatever your choice, some ignorant, idiotic people will always judge you - but let them. It's your life. Your decision. Good luck.
2007-07-26 12:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by ainealainn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ... a big emotional toffee to chew over, eh? There are no right and wrong answers at this stage, it's simply all too early for you both. Saying that, you have absolutely no idea of his commitment to you and ultimately to your baby. The only way forward here is to simply tell him and promptly. Once told, talk it through honestly and frankly and with heart. As a woman, your intuition will tell you the best way forward. Don't forget, you have a big choice here as well. This man may be the best thing that has ever happened to you or he may not be ... your heart will guide you. If you don't feel ready, then you simply are not. And to bring a child into a premature, perhaps loveless relationship, is not good for anyone. I suggest you do what I suggest above and sleep on it all. But most important, listen to your heart. Emotional intelligence is a powerful tool, believe me. Good luck ...
2007-07-26 12:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my partner becasue being truthful the baby is also a part of him and he does have the right to know and plus a relationship is about trust and if you don't tell him about the baby then you are breaking the trust. If i where you i'd tell him and see where things go from there if he loves you as much as he does then he will support you in whatever you thinks best.
Good Luck
Hope i helped
2007-07-26 13:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't create this baby by yourself-it's a 50/50 thing so you need to tell him. sorry to hear that not keeping the baby is something you consider an option but since it is then some type of birth control is a must for you then you won't have to worry about what you should do.
go to the website that Sake recommended and see if this changes your mind
2007-07-26 12:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by JJDK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 weeks?! That's very early in a relationship! Still, if you talk about him as a partner, then he needs to know, whether your final decision will be to keep the baby or not.
I won't imagine he'll be thrilled, but at least, if he wants to make an exit, he won't be able to say that you have trapped him by telling him when it suited you.
Honesty is the best policy in this situation!
Good luck.
2007-07-26 12:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How is it that is takes two but not two for the decision. For you to have had sex in six week I assume you liked him and he like you. If that is the case then you should tell him, if that is not the case you should tell him any way.
I hope you mean not keeping the baby is adoption and not abortion. The fact that you called it a baby that would be murder if you aborted. Learn a lesson from this and let your next intimate encounter be with your husband and things like this will not be an issue.
2007-07-26 12:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by I Wanna Know 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. You should tell him. It dosen't matter how long ya'll have benn talking. Is his baby he needs to take care of his business now. And i really don't understand why you don't want to keep the baby. Whats u're problem? I mean you slept with the guy and now you don't want to have his baby?!!! And if i was you in the first place I would have not slept with him if I only knew him for 6 weeks!! S o now that you did pay the consequences. Why should the baby pay for a mistake both of ya'll did?
2007-07-26 12:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should discuss it with him.
He may react any number of ways. A good man will feel he is as pregnant as you are and will join you in seeking a solution. If he is not a good man it is best to find that out as early as possible.
If you don't marry him the best course of action is to have the baby and offer the child for adoption. There are thousands of loving couples who would consider it a blessing to have a child.
You can't get pregnant all by yourself, obviously, and it isn't just YOUR problem.
2007-07-26 12:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You def want to discuss this with him.After all you can't make a baby on your own.
Discuss your options together: abortion,adoption,keeping the baby.
Whatever choice you make is completely up to the two of you.But this also does not mean that you cant keep the baby/ or have an abortion just because he wants to do something different.It does come down to being your ultimate decision because it is your body.
2007-07-26 12:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is his baby too, he is just as responsible as you are. He also has just as much right as you do to decide what happens to this baby. You need to give him the option to raise this child if you choose not to.
If it were me (and it wouldn't be because I choose to not use my body in that way) I would either marry the father or if that was not an option, give the baby to a mother and a father who could raise it and love it. To me there would be no other option. A baby deserves to have a mother and a father under the same roof.
As for it's your body- your choice- You already made that choice, now it is too late for you to choose what happens with your body. Murder is not and option.
2007-07-26 12:13:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋