So I am a Christian, and know and believe that sex is to be conserved for marriage. That aside, I'm curious what others believe in regards to BDSM (bondage,etc). Do you believe sex involving any form of BDSM is God pleasing? Right? Wrong? Why or why not?
2007-07-26 11:42:43 · 21 answers · asked by wolfgirl1987 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Please don't just say evil or good.. give me a reason why. That's what I'd like to see: reasons for your opinions
2007-07-26 11:51:01 · update #1
Here's an answer to a similar question that is applicable to your question.
Is Oral Sex A Sin - What Does the Bible Say?
Couples often ask, "Is oral sex a sin?" The best place to look for answers is in the Bible. Hebrews 13:4 says, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." The first point the Bible makes very clear is that sex - all types - is designed specifically for married couples. Non-married couples are not to practice premarital sex.
The Bible never indicates exactly what a husband and wife are allowed to do in their sexual relationship. However, there are some sexual principles that we can consider.
Mutual Consent - 1 Corinthians 7:5 says, "Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." This verse indicates that each sexual activity should be mutually agreed upon.
Adultery is Sin - The Bible is very clear that any form of adultery is sin, even if both people in a marriage relationship agree to it. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God." Adultery also includes "swapping" or adding sexual partners.
Viewing Pornography is a Sin - Matthew 5:28 is very clear. "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Pornography viewed alone or together as a couple is sin. 1 John 2:16 says, "For everything in the world - the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does - comes not from the Father but from the world."
Is Oral Sex A Sin - Practical Application
When answering the question "Is oral sex a sin," it is important to remember that God created sex to be a beautiful expression of love for married couples. When the husband or the wife does not feel that sex is a "beautiful expression of love," then changes need to be made in that couple's sex life. Evidentially, the actions are not mutually beneficial to each person. Nothing in the Bible says that oral sex is a sin, however it may not be appropriate for every couple.
Is Oral Sex A Sin - Questions to Consider
Consider these questions when answering the question "Is oral sex a sin?"
Is oral sex voluntary and have both the husband and wife agreed to it?
Why do you want oral sex? Is it for pure sexual pleasure or is it to fulfill a sexual fantasy derived from porn?
Have you or your spouse been convicted by the Holy Spirit that oral sex is wrong?
Does oral sex edify and fulfill both you and your spouse?
While answering these questions, pray for guidance from God. He will reveal the answer to you - for your relationship.
2007-07-26 11:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Martin S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
PERSONALLY I think that if spanking, handcuffing, and dirty talk is what does it for some couples, great. I don't really care about what happens in your bedroom (but I don't want to hear about it either, okay?). If everyone is having fun and it is, as they say, safe, sane, and consensual, fantastic.
That being said, there are some elements of the BDSM lifestyle that are more extreme and I think are not appropriate for Christians. These would be the elements involved in 'slavery' and true Master/slave relationships. Dehumanizing the one you are supposed to love is not part of God's plan.
2007-07-26 12:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by LX V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe under any circumstances that any bodily harm should be done to a woman by a man. Man is meant to protect, support and love his wife. A woman is meant to love, support and obey her husband.
In some regards, you could make a case for dom/submissive behavior being very close to the ideal Christian marriage. The man is the protector, the last word, the dominant one. The woman is the submissive, giving, obedient one.
Personally I believe that the 'SM' side of BDSM is out of line with Christian marriage. As for the 'BD' side of it, again I don't see it having any detriment on a Christian relationship if it is accomplished lovingly, is intended for pleasure, and no physical harm is done.
"Physical harm" in BDSM of course would refer to heat, piercing, cutting, or anything leaving a mark. Although in BDSM relationships it is primarily voluntary on the part of the one receiving the pain, I do not see any benefit to it.
2007-07-26 11:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Christian Bdsm
2016-10-07 01:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a whole subsect of the bdsm lifestyle callec christian kink. it is bassed on the line in the bible where it says that women should obey there husbands. and I feel that anything done between two concenting adults that is S.S.C ( safe sane and consentual) is alright. and if you happen to beleave that sex should be held for marrage but have a lifestyle kink then marry someone in the lifestyle and hold off till marrage. what is done between a husband and wife in matters of sex is only wrong is one party does not agree to it and the other forces it on themmm
2007-07-26 11:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by slo18 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
My theological understanding as a former xian is that the marriage bed is intrinsically "undefiled" . . . there is no sin in any kind of consensual sexual activity between husband and wife.
My instinct as someone aware of the subculture would be to exercise caution . . . for a variety of reasons.
2007-07-26 11:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by Boar's Heart 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ummmm..... is it really that big a deal? why are we all so concerned about what goes on in other people's bedrooms? same goes for the whole gay marriage thing... you be concerned with what YOU do in the bedroom, what YOU think is right or wrong(for you) or what feels good/turns you on... people really need to learn how to MIND THEIR OWN GOD DAMN BUSINESS... oh, and in case you wanted to know, i really dont think there is anything wrong with bondage or kinky sex at all... you hardcore christians really dont know what you are missing!!! how can you even consider it a sin in the first place? how can you possibly compare that to murder, child molestation, REAL abuse?
2007-07-26 17:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2017-03-01 01:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having fun with your wife and not hurting anyone then it's no big deal.
It could be a problem if it causes you to think wrongly about all women and relationships.
Walking a fine line there.
2007-07-26 11:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that sex is sex and everyone has different tastes.we dont have to do it all the same.In sex you should be pleased and if thats how u get pleasure than so be it
2007-07-26 11:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by poopsywickle 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋