I am the most self conscious person you'll ever meet. Hence, me asking a question like this on the internet rather than in person. Well how am I supposed to dance in front of all these people I invited from work and stuff?? I'll freak out.
would it be crazy to have a shot before or something??
Oh the thought of me tripping. Oh & I can't dance. I when I'm embarrased my whole body turns bright red.
2007-07-26 10:56:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Practice a slow dance at home a few times before the wedding. It's not a Broadway show, or a dancing exhibition! People just want to see the two of you looking and each other lovingly as you slowly dance (step-touch, step-touch is all you need).
2007-07-26 11:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding is not the time or the place to do something you're naturally uncomfortable with! And adding alcohol to the mix isn't going to help - it's going to make things worse. Alcohol is going to make your feet even more bumbly and your skin even redder!
Dancing solo isn't for everyone. How about this. Pick a song that is about family, or friends, or inspiration ("Wind Beneath My Wings") rather than a regular love song. Have your DJ announce that you are doing something different -- that the newlyweds want ALL the guests -- the people without whom the joy of the day would not be complete -- to share the "first" dance and that everyone should come out to the dance floor. You won't freak out - the dance floor will be so crowded that you won't be self-conscious, and you won't be able to do much more than sway in each others' arms.
Good luck, and congrats on your marriage!
2007-07-26 14:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about everyone else, stay lighthearted and just enjoy whatever happens. If you expect to freak out, I guarantee you will. If you expect things to be wonderful, they will.
At my wedding I assumed everything would work out and was so excited, I didn't care what happened as long as the wedding took place. Well, I did in fact trip on my dress and nearly fall flat on my face walking down the aisle (thanks for holding me up, Dad!). I couldn't help but let out a little laugh at my own excitement and ridiculousness. Somehow everyone tells me that was just charming and how from that moment the wedding was lighthearted and joyful. I think I won some points with the in-laws by not getting upset or anxious. I guess my dress was a little too long, because during our first dance (a walz), I was stepping from one part of the hem to another the whole time and holding on for dear life. Apparently no one even noticed and I keep hearing about how beautifully we danced. Did I mention that I was an hour late due to hair and traffic?
At your wedding everyone wants to see you happy and they want to be a part of your happiness. Allow yourself to get lost in the moment. If you are happy and gracious they will only see grace and beauty.
2007-07-26 11:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by M L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most brides drink a mimosa to calm them down the morning of and I know a lot that had a glass of wine before they did the dance. My husband was embarrassed and we greeted our guests and talked for a minute before we did the dance. I've also been at several where they didn't even do a dance.
Don't worry about tripping. You won't. Chances are your dress is so big no one can even see your feet to know if you are on the beat or not and you'll just be swaying back and forth. Just remain calm about it. After all this is the happiest day of your life.
2007-07-26 11:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Breathe...there is no law saying you have to dance...but...if you would like to, you could take a class or two with your fiance to at least do the most popular ones. (mother/son, daddy/daughter, bride/groom first, etc) They aren't really expensive and might help boost the confidence a bit.
Hey, you might even like it!! Good luck :)
2007-07-26 11:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how much time you have, but how about some dance lessons for confidence?
2007-07-26 11:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if you don't want to dance, don't dance. It's YOUR wedding. DH and I don't dance so we didn't dance at our wedding and no one even noticed.
2007-07-26 11:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Meleah J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have someone teach you to dance ,a friend maybe?
2007-07-26 11:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by BAGO6 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋