My husband and I went to a wedding, it was his family.At the reception we had to sit at different tables, the wife planned it that way, and when he asked if he could sit with me his wife he was told no. Keep in mind this was his brother's wedding. We found it quiet rude! Another thing was as soon as my hubby and I got married, they got engaged, planned a wedding in 9 months, we feel they stole the spotlight from us.What do you think??
2007-07-26 10:52:43 · 13 answers · asked by J*A*K*C 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As far as being in the wedding, we were both in the wedding, including our daughter, and it was an obvious that the wife was planning it that way. It was her way.
2007-07-26 11:05:58 · update #1
I mean as far as her planning that we not sit together, it was delibrate!
2007-07-26 11:07:05 · update #2
Also, I sat alone with our 2 year old daughter.At the reception.
2007-07-26 11:07:53 · update #3
that b'tch was rude and inconsiderate. Who cares if you are in the bridal party or not, Family is family and she had no right making you guys sit apart. She must be jealous of you. Good luck to you and always remember to be friendly, respectful and not to be like her!
2007-07-26 11:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♥poppy honey♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, not having you sit with your husband is a little weird, but I don't think it is something to start a family war over. Probably they had some silly seating plan and it didn't work out as well as they thought, and they were too overwhelmed to re-sort it at their wedding. They included you in the wedding, so it doesn't sound like they were trying to slight you. I'm sure they weren't thinking about how they could possibly steal the spotlight when they got engaged. They probably saw how wonderful and in love you and your husband were at you wedding, had stars in their eyes and were inspired to follow suit. Take it as flattery.
Cut the brother and his wife some slack and let this one go.
2007-07-26 18:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by M L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were married before they got engaged. They didn't steal the spotlight at all. Everyone had already attended your wedding.
However you are new to the family and who did you get to sit with? People you know? I am newlywed and if my husband was not allowed to sit next to me--if i wasnt sitting with his parents or his aunt--we wouldn't stay long!
Like they said--if he was in the wedding party thats normal but if he wasn't that is very odd. I think you should always try to remain close to your sis-in-law. I had an engaged cousin in my wedding party and did everything so he felt included. He was an usher and sat with her with the bridal party. After all, in another year he'll be in my family forever and I didn't want him upset. Why would she want to offend her new bro-in-law and sis-in-law by refusing your reasonable offer?
They didn't steal the spotlight from you but I know I'd definitely hold a bit of a grudge about their rudeness. (just a bit though). Is she always like this or just being a bridezilla?
2007-07-26 18:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you were both in the wedding party, did she have all the women at one table and all the men at another? If that is the case that might make sense, but if not then it really does sound rude.
Another thing, once at the reception lots of people switch around and move tables. For her to say you couldn't sit together is a bit childish, but maybe she had her reasons.
As you know seating charts are the hardest part of planning a reception, or at least in my experience they have been.
I don't think they stole your spotlight, at least it doesn't sound like they did it purposely.
I hope things work out for you!
2007-07-26 18:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason in the world would justify not allowing a married couple to sit together. I would let them know that although the shelfishness made the two of you closer and stronger, you resent it still. It sounds to me like she is envious of you in some way. At the next family gathering when their wedding is being discussed, have your husband make comment as to how much respect and love he felt for you that day as he looked at you from across the room. See what her reaction is. I just don't see that there is not something behind that and I am a very open minded person.
2007-07-26 18:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was in the bridal party, then the bridal party usually sits together, but that would be the only reason that they would not put husband and wife together. As far as stealing the spotlight, I dont think so. They got married 9 months later.
2007-07-26 18:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe the two of you actually sat at different tables. I would have told her where to stick it and sat with each other, what was she gonna do about it, throw a tantrum. She would have come off looking like a fool. Now you both have shown her that she is always going to get her way. It was a stupid, thoughtless decision to make and both of you and your bil should have stood up to her. Yes she was deliberately trying to out do you. There is nothing you can do about it now, but in the future don't let her get away with behavior like this.
2007-07-26 23:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separating you at the reception was terribly rude! I'm totally ignoring your comment about them stealing the spotlight from you by having their wedding - you really didn't mean to say something so immature, right?
2007-07-27 09:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would of not tolerated that.
I am wondering why you and your husband did as there was no good reason for a husband and wife to not sit together with their child.
That is beyond boundries of keeping quiet about during reception etc.
2007-07-26 18:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was your hubby in the bridal party? If so that is normal for the bridal part to sit at one table.
As far as your "spotlight". You don't own the month or the year. YOu only get the one day. Everyone else can get married whenever they please.
2007-07-26 17:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by Meleah J 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋