My partner proposed to me and he gave me a necklace instead of a ring, I think this was sweet and he wanted to be different. BUT I have heaps of necklances and I dont wear my engagement necklance everyday. I am the only person that I know off that is engaged and didnt get a ring. Should this worry me? Theres no real law saying you have to have a ring right? Has this Happened to anyone else?
2007-07-26 10:30:31 · 18 answers · asked by Gem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it is original and very sweet. You should wear it every day. It is also probably less expensive than a ring. Maybe he couldn't afford a ring? Maybe he is saving his money for a really good wedding ring? Maybe he knows you are a normal female who wants to pick out her own rings?
If he can't afford one right now, or prefers to save up for a really good one, then maybe look into some high-quality fakes? That's what we did because we both agreed that we would rather have a house first, THEN get a fancy rock later, lol. People will only know that it is fake if you tell them. :-)
2007-07-26 11:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by Yup Yup Yuppers 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course there's no law saying you have to have a ring, and yes, there are a lot of people who got engaged and didn't get a ring. But I think the point is you need to discuss with your fiance what it is you want. He wanted to do something different, but was that what you wanted? It sounds like it wasn't. If you had wanted an engagement necklace instead of a ring, then I'd absolutely support you in that. If you want a ring, I think you should let your guy know that.
It should only worry you if it's part of a pattern of him doing what he thinks you should want rather than what you'd really like. If this was one thing where he and you were on different pages, then it's not a big deal. If it's part of an ongoing pattern, it could be an indication that you and he have a communication problem that should be addressed and resolved before you get married.
Most likely, though, I'm guessing your guy was honestly trying to please you and didn't necessarily understand what you wanted. I know my guy was flabbergasted when I showed him the ring I wanted because it was nothing like a standard engagement ring, but we usually get each other on a level nobody else does.
So talk to him. Find a solution you can both live with. I'm sure a little communication will make things right.
2007-07-26 10:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sweet that he was trying to be unique, I would be happy about that...a ring is no better than a necklace, it depends on the way, and the reason that it was given.
There is no laws at all pertaining to engagements...people can get married without being engaged at all...
If you think it's a big deal, ask him if it's a possibility to return the necklace (even though you LOVE IT) for a proper ring as you are worried that you may break the chain, and lose the necklace
2007-07-26 10:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by xylina_69 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it should be between the two of you, but personally, I've never heard of an engagement necklace. Also, if it is an "engagement necklace," you shouldn't take it off. It is supposed to have the same significance as a ring. The ring signifies that you are commited to someone. There no law saying you have to have an engagement ring. There's no law saying you need a wedding ring either. It's a choice the two of you have to make.
2007-07-26 10:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You wanted a ring didn't you? I can see that you did so I bet you're kind of bummed.
No, there's no law saying you have to have a ring. I don't even want one. And there are lots of people who give other things besides rings. In some cultures an engagement ring is completely weird. In america it's the norm though and many people will think it's weird if you don't have one.
My aunt was trying to give me hers since I don't have one. She just couldn't understand why I didn't want one. I don't wear rings often. They kind of annoy me. I have been wearing a ring similar to a simple wedding band and I think I'm getting used to it.
If you really want a ring then tell him that while you love your necklace you really had your heart set on a ring. This may hurt his feelings though...
I'm sorry I can't help you more. Good luck hun <3
2007-07-26 10:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, there's no law that mandates either an engagement or a wedding ring. A diamond engagement ring is only a tradition, and a fairly recent one at that. I don't see what you have to worry about; if you really want a ring, talk to your fiancé, and maybe you can pick out a nice wedding set (engagement / wedding rings together). Where I come from, there's no such thing as "engagement rings" at all - people simply get wedding bands when they get married.
2007-07-26 11:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a ring, and dont really want to have the whole, Give me a ring, NOW, Damn it ! conversation say something like Hey honey can we get me a ring to go with the necklace as a set. I would love to have a matching set and then have a wedding band that matches that, Look into it before hand. also. You dont have to go hog wild into a big diamond ring, remember life is much more than a 15K ring.
2007-07-26 17:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by rxing 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your partner and let him know that you love the necklace, but feel you will wear the ring more. Then talk to a jeweler about turning the necklace into a ring.
2007-07-26 11:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do you want a ring? i never heard of an engagment necklace. if that was your request i would feel better. is the necklace inexpensive? may be he is having financial crunch. i would not worry... i would be honest.. explain how lovely the necklace is... and different..but you are an old fashion girl.. and would like a ring in the near future.
2007-07-26 10:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think he probably should have consulted you or a friend/family member about your preferences before going the necklace route. HOWEVER, apparently he thought it was a token you would truly appreciate (perhaps he deduced this simply because you have a lot of necklaces). If you're really curious about his reason for giving you a necklace instead of a ring, be candid. Just ask him!
2007-07-26 10:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by frisky_critter 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋