My biological father was a drunk, violent, angry man.
every little thing would set him off. It got so bad that my mother and I (age 4) had to go into hiding from him. We couldn't go to family because he would find out, no we had no choice but to hide in a women's shelter. And still he didn't stop, over two months past thinking it was safe to put our life back together; he shows up again. By the time my step-father moved in, still it didn't stop. When it finally stopped two years later, I found I too started delveloping anger issues; angry at myself for not being able to do anything. Still I was the quiet kid in school always the butt of everyone's jokes untill I graduated from high-school found the young lady I want to spend my life with; and it scares me because I feel that I may become what I hate most. Now at 21&1/2 I can't take it anymore! I at one point wanted to call off my relation with my girlfriend to protect her. But I want to be with her... and she wants to help but..yeah.
2007-07-26 10:23:53 · 6 answers · asked by derek s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why dont you look into some counseling therapy or read some self help books. Shes willing to help so dont give up.
2007-07-26 10:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaude you that you are aware of your anger issues and that you want to protect your girlfriend by calling off the relationship. My husband grew up with an angry father and followed his actions too. Eventually he had to get help at a institution for his anger problems. Try counseling or a help group if you can to save your relationship and not worry about hitting or yelling at your girlfriend. For now, maybe get a punching bag or join kickboxing or tae kwon do to release any aggressive behavior that you might want to get rid.
2007-07-26 11:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely get some counseling!
Most health insurance will cover this.
Just by admitting you have anger issues and that you need help is 1/2 the battle. And children of abusive parents are way more likely to do it themselves.
It doesn't have to be that way though... and you don't have to be alone either.
Get professional help. Nobody on Yahoo Answers is going to have what you need.
2007-07-26 11:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by nephthys76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might try group, just because you were abused doesnt necessarily mean you will be abusive, although marrying at 21 to me at least is still quite young, you have your youth to enjoy before settling into the daily grind, being married isnt easy, ,there is alot of money stress, bills, apartment or house, food , gas,, car payments, insurance etc..
I think you have already Identified some things that set you off and you can control this through your brain, identify and stop,, soon it will become normal, just never act on anger,,, gets alot of people in trouble,
sorry about your childhood,, love your mom , she did her best,
2007-07-27 03:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling! You can be helped and you deserve to have the lady that makes you happy.
Don't be afraid to seek help!
2007-07-26 10:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to a phsychiatrist
2007-07-26 10:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by jreeses2673 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋