Even if his or her grown children disapprove?
2007-07-26 09:51:32 · 30 answers · asked by Anthony F 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it is appropriate just be careful not to compare them to your spouse. Your children should want you to be happy.
2007-07-26 09:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anthony it most certainly is. My father died when I was 3 years old and my mom was left a very young widow. She waited a number of years and grieved the passing of my father but eventually did date other males. Everyone wants to feel wanted, needed and loved by someone else in a relationship. And the fact of life is that these grown children should be adult enough to want to see their parents happy and not be so damn selfish. Also they will not always be there for the parents and as such they need some form of companionship.
2007-07-26 09:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that its inappropriate for a widow or widower to start dating. First off, God may have another person out there for him/her. When your married (for a long or short) period of time, sometimes you become so used to having someone around, that it seems odd not to have them. (more true for short periods of time). If the grown children do not approve, i think that there is a purely valid reason for it. First off, when you loose your mom or dad, they can't be relplaced. By remarring, sometimes children (even grown) may see that as thier mom or dad, trying to replace their spouse. I suggest sitting and talking it over with the children. Sit and come up with pros and cons, and make sure that all understand the other's point of view.
Good luck with this
Leelah
2007-07-26 09:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by Leelah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very appropriate for you to date. I have been a widow going on 4 years now, I started seeing someone 9 months after my husband passed away. Alot of people did not approve espically his familly, but you have to move on with your life, if I had not I would have missed out on all the LOVE that he (Michael) brought into my life. Just because your spouses life ends does not mean your life has to, you ony have one to live!!!
2007-07-26 10:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by co2crc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is respectful for a person to wait one full year after the death of spouse before doing anything that remotely resembles dating, even if the marriage was a bad one, but I am very old fashioned. I think that unless the person you are dating has some bad qualities that you can't see, your grown children should mind their own business.
2007-07-26 09:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by Janet M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. When the person feels like they are ready to move on, then they should. The widow should speak with her/his children about it and let them know how he/she feels. And also he/she will see the childrens point of view on the situation. However, a widower cannot bc they would be the one who died.
2007-07-26 09:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's ok for you to start dating even if you're children disapprove. Your children aren't going to spend every moment of their life with you to keep you company. They're either very young and immature or selfish, either way you shouldn't let them get to you. They should respect your decision to be happy in life. I'm sure your former spouse would not have wanted you to grieve and be miserable forever. Go out and date. Life's too short so enjoy it while you can.
2007-07-26 09:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Bats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on the person and when they are ready, could be 3 months 3 yrs or whatever is right for the person. It is unfair of grown children to dissapprove. Life is for the living.
2007-07-26 09:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Gayle L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a funny place to find answers about dating, but the old testament tells you that you should grieve for 1 year, and then you should move on with your life.
I think if you feel that the grieving process is done for you, and you want to start dating, then you should. The only person who is going to truly know when you're ready for a new relationship is you.
2007-07-26 09:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by ahab850 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends if your ready...Also as long as it wasnt just recently like in the past 6 months or so. Your children are dealing with different feelings also but if your ready and you want to date then go for it. I lost my son almost a year ago and his "fiance" didnt even wait 2 months. So, I know you are probably lonely but just make sure your ready.
2007-07-26 09:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by **Mishelly** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,first of all why would grown children not want their parent to be happy?If you don't date you will become lonely and the companionship may help you over the pain of your loss.It doesn't mean you loved your lost spouse any less.
2007-07-26 09:58:09 · answer #11 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋