I have had problems with her in the past but she still is in my mind. She lives in another state and I heard rumors she is pregnant by some other guy. Which i know my bf despises and i know how he feels about well kids and things like that he doesn't want them right now in his life. but anyway not the point but he still is friends with her and I can't really get a grasp on it but he says that i talk to my ex but I Know that nothing I mean nothing have no feelings about my ex's and he says there just friends, he was telling she lives in another state that i am being very ridiculous. I am sorry maybe the past has consumed me with her. What you think?
2007-07-26 09:30:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you worried about what she does and the better question if she is pregnant with another persons child why does your BF care.
2007-07-26 09:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jason J 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well like you said "he says that I talk to my ex but I Know that nothing I mean nothing" think about it for a second. He might be thinking the same thing about you. He might think that you still have feelings for your "EX". My girlfriend talks to her ex's and I don't really care and most of them live like an hour or two away. She did ask me if it was ok (I think if I said no, then she would talk to them when I was not around and hide it for me) my response was go ahead but just remember if you do it, don't get mad when I do it. Look the best thing to do is, if you don’t trust you BF then you shouldn’t be with him. Plan and simple. You need trust in a relationship; if you don’t have that then you got nothing.
2007-07-26 16:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by trinifourever 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's the way I view exes - your boyfriend is with you now - not her. They obviously didn't work out for one reason or another - tell him how you feel and then calm down. Trust has to begin by actually trusting him! You'll never believe anything he has to say unless you choose to. If he leaves you for her then he wasn't worth your time anyway. I know that it's easier to say that than live it - but it's the truth. You have to make the choice to trust him. Has he given you any real solid reason to doubt him? Wouldn't you rather just let it go and not have to worry about it all the time? Follow the old saying - set him free and if he comes back to you........blah blah blah. Trust and be trust worthy and you're life will be come much more enjoyabe and simple.
2007-07-26 16:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Margaret M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
here is the simple point:
It doesn't matter that you or him speak to your exes. I personally disagree with posters who say it is impossible to be friends with exes. Some of my best friends are exes, and a couple of them from serious relationships......but that is another post.
If you and him can't trust each other, give each other space and freedom....this will crash down. It is a personal decision who you are friends with.....not one to be decided by your partner.
If he or you want to be friends with an ex, then sit down and say so. It is not for the other to control. It is a personal choice, exactly like staying in a relationship....so if you "love him" and he you, you gotta let each other be yourselves and make decisions.
Neither of you control the other.....if you try to go down that road.......I am sorry for your hurt which will soon be comming
2007-07-26 17:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by someguy_in_halifax 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If his friendship with her is really nothing but just friends, then why is it so important for him to put her ahead of your feelings. I know my man would not do this to me. That is the problem here, he is not validating your feelings as important. I do hope you think twice about a future with him cause if you decide to stay with him, get used to his ex. Sorry.
2007-07-26 16:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've never understood the obsession people seem to have with their ex. Nothing good ever comes of it and no one is truly friends with their ex so why do they cling to them...?
You're both a little odd so maybe you're good together.
2007-07-26 16:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have trust issues."i talk to my ex but I Know that nothing I mean nothing have no feelings about my ex's".How come when you say it he should completely trust your word but when its turned around you have the right to call him a liar with no proof? Think about it
2007-07-26 16:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by con10twithlosing 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he clearly said that "your talking to your ex" so basically he can too.. how fair of you is that... to ask him to stop but you won't... stop talking to your ex if it is a problem and im sure he'll do the same..
2007-07-26 16:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by I Heart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....same situation here...but other way around..my bf his so insecure about my ex....actually we haven't talk for a while now cz he was upset cz of that....
anyways dear there's a reason thats why u called them ex's....
my advice don't pressure your bf trust him plus she a way from u guys....good luck
2007-07-26 16:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You think too much...
She is an ex.
Work on your relationship now...
2007-07-26 16:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋