I'm a sophomore guy who's in love with a senior girl. The age difference doesn't sound that bad, me being 15 and her being 17. I would give anything to date her, however, each time the subject comes up and we talk about "us", she stresses that she's going to be going through things as a senior - about to leave the world of high school and move on to college - that I won't be able to understand or relate to. I consider myself quite mature for my age, which is why we had a connection in the first place.
I'd change in any way possible to make it work, but I don't know if that would be enough. She's my best friend, so I know we've got a good foundation to build upon...
So my questions - is there really too much of a gulch between us to ever make things work, or can love overcome it? Serious answers please :)
Thanks for the help!
2007-07-26 08:53:39 · 7 answers · asked by Ron Winters 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe if you told her you feel like even though you aren't the same age or in the same grade, that you understand what she's going through and are willing to help her in any way that she feels she may need help to transition herself from her high school present, to her college future.
By seeing how mature and understanding you are of the whole "issue" of things, she may start to see you as more adult-like than she first thought you were and allow you to get closer to her and giving you the chance to ask for the opportunity to have an "us" with her.
2007-07-26 08:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not the age difference that is your problem, it is what she's going through that is the problem and it is not likely that wioll change any time soon. if she is your best friend then just be her friend right now because that is what she really needs and i know it may be really hard for you but most likely you are going to have come to terms with the fact that it just might not happen for the two of you. by the way you should never change for a relationship or another person because that is not real and eventualy you will grow for a relationship but changing yourself to fit the needs of another is not a smart thing to do they should want you for you and only you not the possable you.
2007-07-26 16:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by Reyna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want a serious answer? Chill. Stay her friend. She will be going through certain changes... eventually so will you... often it is easier for friends to weather changes and still be around on the other side, when the changes have calmed down... and then, who knows?
Changing in "any way possible" is never a good idea...
2007-07-26 16:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by aspicco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok honestly.if you people love each other it will work.just try to supporth her.us girls sometimes all we need is an "everything will be fine trust me i love you"
2007-07-26 16:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by l4cub4nit4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's always hope; and thing will hopfully work out cause u sound so sweet.
2007-07-26 15:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by Torturing Taylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh dont change cause being urself is what makes ppl lik u!
2007-07-26 15:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it could but she has to want that...good luck
see askmen.com
2007-07-26 15:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋