Children Services Is no help why do good people get there kid taken away from them but bad people don't?

Question

I have been involved with children services before because of false claims and although i havent had my child taken from me there were threats yet i know someone who has been investigated on several ocasions and she still has her kids? Also why is it that the very place that supposed to keep them safe is the place they end up getting hurt. It seems like anyone can be afoster parent theses days so where is the child better off?

Answer 1

I saw this question posted and felt compelled to reply.
I myself have been watch-dogged by CPS for almost 2 years now, and it's been a long, hard, painful process for my husband and I, and our two little ones. If you need any advise or someone to talk to about it you are welcome to email or message me. shadofire333

As far as the questions, there isn't really a good answer. The system Child Protective Services operates under is very flawed, and often times there are cases like you and me, who raise our kids well and watch other parents who should really be the ones under investigation get away with anything.
It's just the world at work; there will always be such injustices. Do the best you can, be cooperative with them (but don't let your guard down either) and ask God for guidance.

Answer 2

I seriously dont know,, I've had people tell me Im a bad mother because I cant control my Autistic son.

I had a neighbor who has since moved she was an awful mother. Her 3 year old son I found outside in March when it was 20 degrees outside with snow. He had no shoes on, no coat and his feet were purple. My husband called me on his way to work and said he seen the kid outside it was a half hour that he had been out there. I called the cops she claimed he was supposed to be taking a nap and she had to clean up a mess he made so it was his fault she didnt notice he was gone. Cops gave the kid back no questions asked... whats up with that??

Answer 3

I think thers always bad that comes with good. no system is foolproof. some childrn are abused and neglected, chidren like this really need a program like CPS, but I think that societey tends to get carried away as well. ohhh nooo that child is dirty (mabey they have been plying outside all day....children do that) Ild better call CPS. some people who have nothing better to do than be busy bodies use these programs as an excuse to call whenever they want. there is a fine line between neglect and kids just being kid. people just dont seem to agree on what that line is. To answer your question, yes I really do think that in this life, bad things are always happining to good people. I see this most in people with less money than outhers. its sad, but its how the world today is. in order to change that, weld all have to ban togeather, I dont see that happining anytime soon.

Answer 4

It is actually hard to be a foster parent, there are lots of classes to take, and backround checks etc.. It doesn't mean that they are wonderful though, there are always bad people out there. I work close with child services and they do their best to protect children. They have to follow the law though and be careful when it comes to removing children from a home. Out of the many many children I work with who have been removed from homes, I have never met one who shouldn't have been. Usually I wish they were able to remove more from what I see.

Answer 5

they're baby snatchers!!
they took my husband's child from their mother (they had broken up a few months prior because she found out she was pregnant with someone else's kid [which they took from her in the hospital the minute he was born] & boy does he regret leaving his son with her!) and they hindered every attempt he made at getting custody of them. He had at least 6 different case workers over the course of a year. they repeatedly lost paperwork that showed he took the required classes and did the necessary things. they didn't like his psychiatric evaluation results (which turned out in his favor) and made him get TWO more before they gave up on that route. they made him do the same classes as the mother (drug and domestic violence classes) even though it was HER & not him that tested positive for drugs and got in trouble for violence. (these were a couple of the classes that they "had no record" of him attending--which he did! i took him!). They would change visitation dates and times at the last minute, causing him to lose his job because he had no notice for time off, and causing him to miss visits; sometimes he drove all the way there to find out they had cancelled but didn't inform him (it was 2 hrs away). They eventually denied his appeals and terminated his parental rights, adopting out his son, and now he isn't even allowed visitation--but the abusive neglectful drug-addict mother who didnt' want to go through the trouble of taking the classes & paying the fines so just signed away her rights gets to see them on a regular basis!

it disgusts me.

Answer 6

Totally agree,Seems like a bunch of trash works at theCPS and anyone can make up a story about you and your family and rip your life apart while in the mean time the guy that lives next door to you starves his kids ,beats them and has had CPS a@ his house 12 times and then you see them on the news where he killed on of them!HHuummm seems like a bunch of really good detectives down there!

Answer 7

... so we should just *not* have Child Protective Services? Personally I'd rather have them investigate claims that turn out to be nothing, than have them turn their heads the other way.

Answer 8

I AM A SINGEL MOTHER AGE 22 THEY TOOK MY SON WHEN HE WAS 14OMS BECUASE THEY SAID THAT HE WAS NOT SAFE A ROUND ME I DID NOT KNOW AT THE TIME I WAS HAVEING A NEW BORN BABY I FOUND OUT APRIL 27TH MY GIRL FRIEND KNOW THAT I WAS PERGENT WITH A BABY GIRL SHE WAS BORN JAN 01 /04/2007 THEY TOOK MY BABY GIRL THE NEXT DAY WHEN MY SON TURN 21OMS OLD THAT WAS JAN 5TH THAT WAS REALLY SAD DAY FOR ME WHAT CN I DO TO GET HELP GETTING THEM BACK

Answer 9

I completely agree with you...I see these cases all the time. DCF jumps to conclusions with us good parents who are clean, feed our kids and clothe them, but then parents who live with roaches with no running toilet still have their kids. I belive that the system in America is completely screwed up and someone with some sence needs to fix it!