serious question, if i started a new relationship with someone i was extremely attracted to physically, i don't think i could last more than 6 months. not to say i put out on the first date either, but somewhere in between i suppose. what about you? and what religion are you and does that have any bearing on when you would have sex with a new partner?
2007-07-26 08:39:15 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
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2007-07-27 05:22:50 · update #1
One or 2 months. Religion is for weak little kids :)
2007-07-26 08:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 8⤋
LOL Well, you I would think a guy was weird if we were in a relationship and he didn't want to have sex after the first couple of months. Maybe I see sex definitely than some but it's not giving your soul away. As to when I'd leave that'd be hard to say. You know how you can tell that the person is the one, you belong together? I could hold out longer for that kind of relationship. LOL For that fact I've given in really quick with the relationship I'm in now.
2007-07-26 08:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by Janet L 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that I agree with you. I have never had a one night stand, or jumped into sex immediatly on the first date but I also would not want to wait for too long either. I think 6 monthes would be my limit as well but it is hard to say. When I was younger I could have gone longer but now as an adult I see no reason to put things off too long. My husband and I were flirting for a couple of monthes before we slept together and we have been togther for 7 years and married for 3. We couldn't afford to get married until we did and I would not have wanted to wait for 4 years! I have absolutly no regrets about when we had sex and if I had it to do again I would do it the exact same way.
As you know I am Wiccan.
2007-07-27 01:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by PaganPixiePrincessVT 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A lot depends on the amount of time spent together and the general level of affection in the relationship.
I always figure a woman knows within the first few seconds of meeting a man whether or not she'd have sex with him, so if things go on TOO long w/o becoming sexual, I assume either the answer's "no" or she's got some sort of hangup about it. Either of those are my cue to make a graceful exit---sex isn't THE most important thing in a relationship to me, but it's too close to the top of the list to go without indefinitely.
I'd say about a month, tops. And that if we haven't kissed by the 2nd or 3rd date, that's a *real* bad sign.
I'm Norse Heathen. Not sure it really has any bearing, other than that there's not a whole lot of hangups about sexuality in heathenry . . . we consider that a "rooftree" (personal/familial) matter, but generally speaking, think pleasure is a GOOD thing.
2007-07-26 08:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Boar's Heart 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Atheist - that depends on the person - One night stands kind of hint at doing it on the 1st date. So that would be a give me.
But rarely there is that someone that really gets you and you wan to know more than what they are like naked. Although that is pretty rare.
My wife (also atheist), I met her when I was getting divorced. I knew she was special right off the bat. I definitely wanted to see her naked too. However, she told me not until I was legally divorced could there be any hanky panky. I waited, and it was worth it. Here we are going on 5 years, she's 8.9 months prego and we are still in the honeymoon phase.
All I can say is every person and every situation is different, sex is freaking awesome, if your doing it right. So waiting can be the right thing to do. Bare minimum for respectful waiting I think is 3 real dates - Starbucks doesn't count.
If you hear people saying sex isn't important or it's not as good as everyone says - BULLCRAP - they just aren't doing it right or they are lowsy in the sack and know it.
Sex and love are two different things, but sex with someone you love - YEEEE HAWWW!
2007-07-26 08:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Atrum Animus AM 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Four dates or three weeks (which ever comes first) is the rule of thumb I live by. By that time you can make a fairly good determination whether or not you are (emotionally, intellectually) attracted to the person to the degree where sexual contact could be seen as a good thing to do.
Sex is standard in any healthy relationship. One needn't be married in order to engage in it. It's a healthy expression of your affection for your partner. Oh, and it's really fun and pleasurable too. There's nothing immoral in having responsible and selective sex.
Along with the religion of your respondents I think it would be a good idea to get an idea of their age. Single people who are 16, 17, 18 are *much* more likely to still believe in abstinence before marriage than is someone in their late 20s or 30s.
Oh, and I'm atheist.
2007-07-26 09:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Peter D 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sex isn't all there is to a relationship, but I'd have to say that after a month of no sex, I'd be concerned. If there were no medical issues with the other person, but they just weren't comfortable, it would hint to me that there were some other problems in the relationship that extend beyond sex. Those are the issues that would cause me to leave after two months, tops.
Now if I fell in love with someone who couldn't have sex because of an injury, that's different. I'd be able to stay with a person like that because the lack of sex in that case wouldn't indicate a trust issue.
For me, sex is not only about pleasure, but it is also about the ultimate trust. For me to truly enjoy it, I have to trust the person I'm with.
I don't have a religion.
2007-07-27 02:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by Avie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have always just had sex with someone when I felt it was right. I have never had to wait for the other person to be ready, but I am sure that is because I don't date religious people and all the guys I know are always good and ready.
I am agnostic so I don't care about what the bible says about sex and feel bad for all the repressed Christians out there. It might sound bad, but I don't think I have waited more then a month.
2007-07-26 08:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by alana 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Since February (but we haven't met in person yet- 2 weeks today until that happens :D).
I have had sex with new partners on the first date, and I've waited with others. It depends on the person. I'm patient, and I don't really spend too much time on people who can't hold my interest in any way other than sexually... If I don't think I would last with someone in a relationship, I don't date that person.
2007-07-26 08:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Aye, it all depends on the person. You'd never want to force a person to do something they ain't comfortable with nor would you yourself want to do something that don't feel right.
But yeah, if I was as you put it "extremely attracted" to a person I was in a romantic type relationship and they flat out refused over a long period of time to do anything at all, I'd be a might bit pissed off and I reckon I'd leave. I can't rightly give a specific time frame because like I said, it'd depend on the person and um also their gender. I'd wait for a girl longer than I would a guy.
2007-07-26 09:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
My religion has no name and it doesn't have any tenets that compel me to schedule sexual activities one way or the other.
I would wait until either the new partner made it obvious that they wanted to do that, or until I decided I no longer wanted to be in the relationship, (although the decision to leave the relationship would not be based on sex).
If one masturbates regularly, hormones and sexual urges are much easier to control, and they will not rule your mind or life. Give it a try.
2007-07-26 08:50:38 · answer #11 · answered by Azure Z 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋