I have 5 kids and i just found out that i'm expecting again instead of an abortion i though of allowing my little brother to adopt so the child stays with family.This might sound weird to some but i would feel more confident if i could keep an eye on this baby.
2007-07-26 08:36:09 · 35 answers · asked by veronica m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You sound like you want control of this child without having the obligations. If you let him adopt it should be with no strings attached, all the way to raise as he sees fit.
2007-07-26 08:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly sounds like a nice thing to do but it's not. There are lots of issues that you 'll need to cover legally, plus deal with your child's future when he/she grows up, will he/she ever know the Truth? how the brothers and sister would be about this situation? how would you feel ? he/she will call you mom? I can think of 1 million questions that will be trouble in the future.
I would not do it, you really need a tubal ligation 6 kids is more than a handful and I am surprise at you, still becoming pregnant.
You family, (cause I don't think you have a husband) possibly will be able to help you, you have a special brother, he's a blessing, he means good by willing to adopt. But this is not an answer, one day he'll be married and what is he going to say about this child? is the wife or girlfriend OK with this or she'll be grossed out? You as a mother are responsible for your pregnancy, you need to be woman enough to deal with the results of your decisions.
2007-07-26 08:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your doing the right thing by keeping your baby within the family. Instead of giving an abortion it would be good if you let your brother take care of your baby. The only thing is that since he is only 22yr old will he be able to provide for the child? That is one thing you might want to think about before making a decision like this one. Hope I was some help.
2007-07-26 08:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted to, though I don't know why you would. He's 22. He's in the prime of his life. Does he have a good job? Does he have a stable relationship? Is he done with partying?
At 22, I don't think ANYONE is ready for a child.
My advice? Either give the child up for an open adoption or keep the baby. How are you going to explain to the child in 10 years that you are his mother?
2007-07-26 08:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
family adoptions are allowed in the state of ohio but are very tricky. you said you would feel more confident if you can keep an eye on this child, it really does not work that way. as with any adoption you must sign off all parental rights to the child. your brother will be the childs father and you the aunt (im assuming your brother is married) his wife will be the mom and as we all know what mom says goes. you will have to learn to shut your mouth and let them raise the child the way they see fit. you will not be in charge they will. think it through
2007-07-26 08:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a recipe for disaster.
If you want to put your child up for adoption I think that's admirable. If you want your brother to adopt your child so you can 'keep an eye of it' you are going to create a messed up and confusing situation for this child. He or she would be way better off in an anonymous adoption situation.
Think about what is best for the baby, not what is best for you.
2007-07-26 08:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Morley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that sounds all well and good, untill the child gets to an age where it can start asking questions. If you plan on never letting this child know who the real parents are it might work but then you'd be living a lie. If you wait to long and tell them they might resent you and your brother for this. That is a very tricky situation. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-07-26 08:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
22 sounds awfully young to adopt a baby, does he WANT to adopt it? Or just doing it for you? It sounds like if you give your brother your baby it could cause some major problems down the road. What if you don't agree with the way he raises it? Seems like it could spur a lot of animosity.
You could look into letting someone else adopt it.
2007-07-26 08:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by chester 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound weird, but yes you could do that as long as the father of the child doesn't fight for custody. Why would you aborton the unborn child if what you want to do is keep an eye on it. You aren't making any sense.
Good Luck!!!
2007-07-26 08:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your brother is a willing party, then you absolutely can allow him to adopt your child. Courts will always give first priority to family members, especially when the parent is behind the decision.
2007-07-26 08:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋