Gracie, my 10 year old, is jealous of my 14 year old Catherine! They are both beautiful, but Gracie thinks she ugly! She hasnt begun "developing" yet, and Catherine has. She has tried to "stuff" her chest, and she'll steal Catherines makeup and bras and stuff!? How can I convince her that being grown up isn't all its cracked up to be!? Thanks!?
2007-07-26 08:29:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Younger kids are always going to be jealous of the older siblings. I would make sure she quit stealing her older sister's things though because that is not fair. Sadly you can not convince her growing up is not all it is cracked up to be. She will have to experience that for herself. But you can control her from taking things from her sister or wearing make up if you do not want her to. You are the parent and you are in control.
2007-07-26 08:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by holyterrar85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her act "grown up" for a day or two and see what she thinks, but she sees her big sis and just wants to be like her, you ahev years of jealousy coming up just think when your ten year old turns 13 and your 14 year old is 16, oh the fights you will have to hear, the nuber of lip glosses and clothes that will be stolen from each other... I too have all that to look forward to, I have 3 girls the first two are 20 months apart and the youngest is 4 years younger rhan the middle child, so I fear the teen years.
Just try letting her be a teen for a day or take her to the mall and let her buy soem stuff she thinks is cool that way she won't take sisters and let her get a bra, even if it's just a sport bra maybe it will give her a boost of confidence, just tell her not to stuff it and and she can wear it.
Good luck
2007-07-26 15:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by lavinnar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal and it will pass once Gracie gets older. In the meantime highlight Gracie's traits that make her special and beautiful. Maybe even some mother daughter time might be good. Take her to the mall and buy her a new outfit that she can pick out.
It's just part of the growing process and one day she will have another thing to be jealous of!
2007-07-26 15:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what i think you should do is tell her she is beautiful very very beautiful and tell her shes 10 years old and soon she should develope breasts start wearing make up and start to menstruate.tell her that when the time comes (and mention soon again) you will bye her a bra and till then she is not to use catherines.then make her write some things that make her beautiful down on a peice of paper and you,catherine,and dad will too it should make her feel much much better.
2007-07-26 16:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was "Catherine". My little sis would follow me around everywhere I went. She took things like my make up, shoes, and some clothes to make herself appear more grown up. I never really thought of it as jealousy more like admiration. I loved it. She's grown up now and I'm more or less trying to keep up with her. The bra stuffing is generally harmfull...just reminder her that she'll develop at her on time at her own pace and that she's beautiful regardless. Hope it helps.
2007-07-26 15:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Hmmm? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are just some of the trials and tribulations of being a 10 year old with an older sister. There's not much you can do to convince her of that, only time will do it. When you are that age, your sights are firmly affixed to being grown up, and that's all you want to do.
2007-07-26 15:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her out and get her her own special bras and makeup. Have your 14 year old teach her how to put on (very lightly and light colors) her makeup and do her hair. Let her know how beautiful she looks all the time...with or without makeup. She needs her own "stuff" to feel somewhat equal.
2007-07-26 15:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by PrettyMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give your 10 year old a talk and talk to her about make up and growing up. I think being open to her might make it easier for her to deal with her sister, I have a 10 year old step daughter and she always watches me put my make up on, we got her, her own make up kit and showed her how to up it on and pick colors, now she can put her own on or I will help her if she wants some on, if we are going somewere and she wants some on I just put on a light colored eye shadow and a light lip gloss, so she knows that she is only 10 years old and she shouldnt be wearing alot of make up.
2007-07-26 15:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't convince her of that. But you can lay down a rule of no makeup until 14 yrs old.
2007-07-26 15:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by buterfly_2_lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sibling rivalry it will always be there no matter what but i woud lay the law down about the make up and not wearing until you are such age except for pretending every now and then
2007-07-26 15:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by Lara M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋