My boyfriend and I dated for almost 6 months, he was HORRIBLE to me, 4 the most part. We did nothing but argue. I know I have my faults too, but for example, 1 time I cooked 4 him and I messed something up, well he started yelling at me and blah blah. Another time I was going 2 take him out for a picnic, well I couldnt find the road to get to the place I wanted to go, and I got yelled at. Another time, I picked him up at his house and there are bricks that you can easily hit the car door on, well he hit it and blamed it on me that it was my fault that I parked 2 close to the wall. So this guy I was talking to on MSN, who happened to be a part of my ex boyfriends life told me to do whatever made me happy. Well I couldnt take nemore arguments, so I finally broke it off. A week later, this boy I had been talking to on MSN asked me out. Now we are 2gether & he is absolutely wonderful to me. We werent "talking" before my ex and I broke up. Did I do n e thing wrong? Did I make a good choice?
2007-07-26 08:21:46 · 55 answers · asked by ibleedorange 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am asking this because he says I did basically cheat on him, but I dont think I did. I forgot to say he tried to commit suicide in front of me too. And the last time we broke up, he begged me for another chance. I just thought I had given him enough chances. Am I right or am I wrong?
2007-07-26 08:23:16 · update #1
no
2007-07-26 08:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky&Christopher 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing in getting away from your ex. From what you wrote he sounds like a d***. He is overpowering and he mentally abused you. He has issues and I think you should stay as far away from him as possible. Get a restraining order if you have to but do not allow him back into your life. What he is doing (In telling you that you cheated) is trying to make you feel guilty. He wants you to feel so bad that you take him back. I know a lot of guys like this. They do something wrong and when you call them out on it they automatically point the finger at you for something totally off the wall and before you know it, you are the one apologizing. Good luck and in my opinion, the best thing you could have done is leave him.
2007-07-26 08:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off that bf you had doesn't sound like a good bf at all. I personally wouldn't put up with it so I think you did yourself a favor by dumping him. In some people's eyes it would be considered cheating, but I dont see it that way. To different people there are different definitions of cheating. If you weren't 'talking' before you and your ex broke up then I wouldn't consider it cheating at all. You waited until you were single to do anything about it, nothing wrong with that.
2007-07-26 08:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey- let your doubts end right now. You did nothing wrong at all. Sounds like your ex doesn't know how to treat a girl. You go ahead and have a good time together with this new guy in your life. He's given you the best advice, you know- do what makes you happy.
2007-07-26 08:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Afro Q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal. You didn't do anything wrong on this. You waited until one relationship has ended for going into another one is the correct thing to do. You did that. You ex is saying that you cheated on him just to try to put guilt on your shoulders instead of guilt on his shoulders for being a jerk. Don't play his game and just tell him to split. Tell him that you already broke it off with him, so you have no more ties to him. Therefore, you can do whatever you want.
2007-07-26 08:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by Scott D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats not cheating in any sense, The only thing you did wrong with stay with that asshole for 6 months. You deserve better and should have broke it off way sooner so you could be happy like you are now I hope.
2007-07-26 08:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jake B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your side of the story regarding your ex, it sounds as if he has some severe insecurity issues and if he honestly treated you that badly then what he says now makes no difference. If you only talked to the new guy, then you didn't "cheat" on your ex. Given his issues, I'm thinking he believes that you emotionally cheated on him. He obviously will never see it your way, so cut the cord, ignore him, and hope he moves on with his life.
2007-07-26 08:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by crumb1991 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really did the right thing because if you would of stayed with this guy you wouldn't be happy in a long run you guys just started dating and he yelling at you if you would of waited he probably would start abusing you and you wouldn't of left some guys have a way of making women feel guilty to stay with them GOOD JOB!!!
2007-07-26 08:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by shy_n_secertive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG - You totally did the right thing ! It sounds like you were in a horrible relationship for 6 months. And NO you did not cheat on him by any means. Hold your head up high ... you did the right thing ... take care of yourself first ... life is too short to deal with crap like that in a relationship.
2007-07-26 08:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by XXX123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you didn't do anything wrong. Yes, you made an excellent choice. This guy could've easily become violent. Be glad you got out when you did and immediately cease contact. Get a restraining order if you have to.
2007-07-26 08:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy has an abusive trait...it starts out yelling like he did..the deeper the relationship the worse the abuse gets...then he would've pushed you..then punched you..this dude needs major anger management therapy..YOU DID NOTHING WRONG...YOU PROBABLY SAVED YOUR LIFE AND YOU DON'T EVEN REALIZE IT...most people think that spousal abuse doesn't happen to them...but I've known a few girls that were beat pretty bad...one girl a neighbors sister was beat to death by her husband who behaved the same way...they found her dead months later in a wall...her husband was a carpenter/contractor and hid her body in one of the walls...it was one of the sadest moments....they had one little kid..now she doesn't have a mother or a father...
Enjoy your new man..don't let anyone treat you badly...
2007-07-26 08:29:43 · answer #11 · answered by grammy ss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋