When on vacation with your significant others family, do you let them pay for everything or do you chip in?
Like for food, eating out, if you go to a theme park or something that needs an admissions fee....?
How old is TOO old to let them pay for everything?
2007-07-26 08:21:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If they invited you, they should pay. You should pay for your own snacks and drinks, but if arrangements were not made clear beforehand, whom ever invites you pays.
IF you invited yourself, then you pay your own way. These details should be worked out before you even leave from home. Lasting resentments can ruin a vacation and go on for years. Get it all spelled out before you go.
2007-07-26 08:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by tsalagi_star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With food, up to 21 or finished with college. Full-time graduate students get the break, too. Lots of parents will pay until their grandchildren are grown, but that's a family, not a dating, issue.
After that, sound out the significant other about how the parents are. My in-laws always expected to pay and would have been taken aback if there'd been more than a token objection, but my own parents got resentful even though they offered and would even argue about how they wanted to pay.
Theme park is harder to judge. If you suspect this will be happening, ask if you can get discount tickets through AAA or some other group. You may find out that the parents belong to one and got the tickets on the cheap--this is good because it means there's less pressure for you, esp. if you marry in, to act like you have plenty of money.
On a several-day trip where they've been paying, arrange to take everyone to dinner and leave your credit card or a some cash with the waiter early so that the check never gets to the table. You look very thoughtful and smart that way. If there's a kitchen, you could go shopping for special ingredients and make your prize dish.
2007-07-26 15:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I feel that the person who makes the invitation should be willing to pay for everything. That is, if they said, "Please come on our vacation with us," you are their guest and they should pay. That said, I think that anything that is not necessarily included in their invitation, you should be willing to pay for. That is, if you are all sitting around one day and you say, "Why don't we go to a movie?" you should be willing to pay for that. Perhaps the best thing to do is to discuss it with them beforehand, if possible. "I am so glad that you'd like me to go along on the vacation and I am really looking forward to spending time with you. I don't want to be greedy, though, so I'm hoping that you'll allow me to pay for some expenses." This should hopefully allow you to have a conversation about what they will pay for and what you will pay for. After you've worked it out you shouldn't have any awkward expectations on either side. Have a great time!
2007-07-27 03:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough to have a bf/gf and go on vacation with their parents it means you are old enough to pay for most of the things that need to be paid by you and not wait for them to pay. Even if they pay for most dinners, you need to pay for you lunches, snacks, drinks, admission fees, rides, and even pay for one or two dinners for all of you.
2007-07-26 19:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important to offer to pay, not only to look good to the possible-future-in-laws, but also because it's not cool to free-load. If they are paying for everything and don't seem to mind, and always decline your offer to pay, it's probably because they like you for their child! When this happens to me, I usually buy a little thank you gift and/or card. That way they can see that you really do appreciate their generosity and that you care about their whole family.
2007-07-26 15:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by lovebugbasso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it your significant others parents it means that you are not a child. now did they invite you did the significant other invite you. if they did than it is there treat -- if it is your bf/gf do you normally go dutch treat or what? most adults appreciate the thought even though they may not take the money at least i would make the offer.
2007-07-26 15:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by mister ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if they offer. It's considered a gift if someone offers to pay for your food or admissions ticket, etc. To turn down a gift is rude, no matter what age you are.
2007-07-26 15:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going with them, they understand that you;re part of the package. It would be nice for you to offer to pay your way in something, atleast a meal or two, though they might not let you. Be sure to thank them.
2007-07-26 15:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always offer, but parents like to still take care of their children, and if they are paying for you, then they probably consider you one of the kids. I would think too old would be if you have kids of your own!!
2007-07-26 15:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Liz ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you might consider doing is to take them out for dinner towards the end of the vacation.
Make it clear that the dinner's your treat, that you'd like to thank them for their hospitality.
2007-07-26 15:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by TLH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋