what does it mean when your intimidated by someones beauty and looks to the point your scared to approach them

Question

because you dont feel good enough or worthy of them, and you think ultimatly theyll reject you..?
i have very low self esteem, if any at all..im so scared of rejection im always scared to approach someone to try to make friends, because i think they wouldnt accept or want me...so i often destroy potential frienships without wanting to...
ive survived a very hard life, with alot of victimization, abuse and trauma....i have bpd, and dont think anyone will want me now..im 30 now

Answer 1

Sometimes when were not used to being around "beautiful" people we get afraid of them. It's totally normal to feel like you'll be rejected. It's okay to be scared. You probably destroy friendships b/c you're repeating your past. You have to break the cycle. Somebody will want you, but not until you want yourself. You're still young! Also, BPD does make people feel very sad & lonley, so blame your condition & past on your feelings instead of yourself. You might even have a social anxiety disorder. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 2

Everyone is shy to some extent. The thing is, you never know until you try right? Being this way will never get you want you want. A girl doesn't like an overly shy guy who is too busy being scared instead of being aggressive. But not too aggressive that can be a turn down also. Somewhere right in the middle is perfect. If she was totally rude and rejected you after your approach, then she is a cold hearted person you don't need in your life anyways.

Come on, get out of your shell and make your moves. You are getting older you know!! :) Good luck! Go for it!!! Or her!!!

Answer 3

It means you have low self-esteem. That is bad, but it isn't HORRIBLE. A ton of people are shy, so don't worry about that part too much. Just think about how much more someone would love to talk to a person with a little lower self-esteem rather than extreme pride. In the meantime, work on raising that confidence. Don't feel bad for yourself, fix it! You're the only one who can, even if that means you need help from others, like a therapist or close friend.

Answer 4

You should consider therapy to move past these issues (if you haven't already). In a relationship or not, you want to at least like yourself, right? After all, you are going to have to live with yourself for the rest of your life.

But everyone fears rejection, because even the most stoic of us gets hurt easily. I think you might have a problem with women, by building them up to be more perfect and idealized in your mind, than they actually are. It can make them seem more intimidating, and we all have our own idiosyncrasies and faults.

Be proud that you have gotten through so much, and know that anybody who doesn't appreciate you for that, isn't worth your time.

Answer 5

Look Coop life is to short to worry about something like that. If you asked her out what is she going to say, Yes or No. Am I right or not? Will you die if she says, no? See what you to do is ask, then you will know. If no than look for another girl, beauty is only skin deep. A lot of the 'beautiful people' don't have the personality, they're vain and superficial.

Answer 6

Hi Friend:

Don't put so much emphasis on others.
Instead, focus on the good in you!
When you pray, if you pray...ask Jesus to help you appreciate who your are.
God had a reason for making you...you!
Open your Bible and discover (for yourself) that you were created in God's image.
You are one of his most exquisite designs and He is so proud of you!
Forgive those who mistreated you and purpose (in your own heart) to love yourself!
God bless you!
He loves you very, very much...and I do to!!!

-The MIDDLEFINGER

Answer 7

You are worthy of love and friendship.BPD shouldn't stop you from believing in yourself.I have medical problems too and that doesn't stop me from talking to people.

Answer 8

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