Hey ladies, i just need your honest opinion. Would you be still friends or friendly with someone who once told you "You are fat, so why are you so upset about people calling you fat!"
Be honest!
2007-07-26 07:45:52 · 17 answers · asked by Laura 3 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
the accused person is 5"8 and weighs 150lb... i guess she is chubby looking.
2007-07-26 07:51:19 · update #1
the person who said that to me is actually slim and very proud of her figure... i guess i know she is being honest it really hurt my feelings...
2007-07-26 07:59:00 · update #2
A friend is not someone who would openly say such harsh words like that. A friend will suggest that you jain the gym with her or maybe start walking in the evenings. So no, I would not surround myself with people that are negitive and put down anothers image. Most women that have extra weight, usually are not happy, and already have a blurred image of themselves....they do not need so called friends destroying whats left of their self worth.
2007-07-26 07:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by Miss. American Nightmare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is tough...
if the person were to say it in a manner that is nut just utterly insulting, and they are not saying it out of spite, then i would probably get over it, however if they are truly rude, and underhanded then they are on their own, because no one not even 'fat chicks' (joke) should tolerate degrading behavior.
though i need to say... if this was in the midst of an argument then words are thrown around more often when people are upset... if the argument was resolved but this is still hanging over their heads then this issue needs to be addressed on it's own, hopefully with level heads.
ps it's not The matter of being fat it's the matter of being called fat in a derogatory way. similar to when a chauvinistic man says "you are just a woman!" there is nothing really wrong with being a woman, but it is being treated as an insult in the comment... also similar to calling a blond dumb. blonds may not appreciate this sort of statement, though i realize that from a health perspective being fat is more harmful then being blond ( joke ha ha ha) or being a woman.(still joking) so any how though being fat is a health risk, and more often then not socially frowned upon, it is a choice by each person, and sometimes it is a medical condition... so these things should not be teased of anyone.
talk things through and hope for the best.
2007-07-26 15:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by deep in thought 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it contains the promise for something if u slim down, enjoy urself.
Eat only when hungry and not more than thrice a day. Nothing other than water in between. Include plenty of uncooked vegetables and fruits in each meal, preferably 50%. Chew each morsel at least 32 times to activate ur body to generate signals of hunger/fullness. Obey these signals.
Take light exercises and brisk walks regularly preferably twice a day.
U will achieve what u have not even dreamt and that too in a reasonable time. Do not be in a hurry.
2007-07-26 15:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister did this to me. I hadn't seen her in 4 years and I had put on some weight.She asked me "how did you got so fat", and "why don't you take card of yourself anymore" She hurt my feeling very much. But after about a month I started thinking, what she said was true. So I used her words to better my life. I have lost 40 pound over the last year and I feel great.
I now thank my sister for being honest and up front.
2007-07-26 16:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Laurie love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. I used to be really heavy and people would say stuff like that to me. I would just laugh it off, but the truth is that it really hurt. I lost the weight and now I'm the one who's laughing when the same people are always asking me to hang out and telling me how good I look.
In the end, you have to understand that even if you are heavy, you still have feelings too. How would the skinny girl feel if you walked up to her and told her her nose was huge? Or her complexion wasn't great? She has to know that, but she still wouldn't want to hear it anyways.
2007-07-26 14:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.. I would not..
UNless the friend was fat too and we were cutting up about it. But if the friend was serious and said that to me-NO.. I would be done with that...Cause that aint a true friend...
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2007-07-26 14:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by MeMeCindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE BEEN OVERWEIGHT FOR QUITE SOME TIME NOW. YOU CAN CALL ME ANYTHING AND IT DOES NOT MATTER. I AM FAT, AND SO WHAT? IF IT DOES NOT PHASE ME, IT SHOULD NOT PHASE YOU.
NOT EVERYBODY IS HAPPY BEING HEAVY, AND SO THEY FEEL DISRESPECTED WHEN SOMEONE CALLS THEM FAT.
SOME PEOPLE ARE THIN AND GET OFFENDED IF YOU CALL THEM SKINNY.
PEOPLE, IT IS WHAT IT IS, AND IF YOU ARE FAT, YOU ARE FAT.
JUST BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF, AND LOVE YOURSELF NO MATTER WHAT. LIKE I SAY IF I LOVE ME, ALL THE OTHER LOVERS WILL FOLLOW.
I GUESS THAT PEOPLE JUST NEED TO MIND THEIR BUSINESS, AND DEAL WITH THEIR OWN ISSUES, AT TIMES PEOPLE CALL YOU FAT TO MAKE A JOKE OUT OF YOU, AND FEEL LIKE THEY ARE BETTER THAN YOU. I AM NO BETTER THAN YOU IF YOU ARE SKINNY AND YOUR NO BETTER THAN I AM. LOL!
2007-07-26 14:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by domi_ricana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how it is said. I, of all people, know I am overweight. It doesn't need to be brought to my attention by others. I see myself everyday and see the size of clothes I have to buy. Frankly, I am ok with it. Why can't others be?? Why do people think they can judge others?? When someone is that mean I like to tell them I may be fat, but your are stupid and I can lose weight.....
2007-07-26 14:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by str8talker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If someone who was supposed to be my friend said that to me, she would never hear from me again. Although it may be true that you are overweight, that does not define who you are as a person, so for her to agree and think that is OK for people to call you fat, that is mean!
2007-07-26 14:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it is harsh words buthonest and it really depends on if you can handle an honest friend like the one who said this.
2007-07-26 14:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by Darling-one 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋