How do i change my attitude towards my bf?

Question

He is very sweet he goes out of his way to make me happy and does anything he can to satisfy me. but i always think to myself that he's probably cheating on me or doesnt really even like me and i make myself feel like we should break up. When we hang out im happy one mintue and were laughing and having fun, next thing you know im in a bad mood and start acting like a child i dont know what to do. I know i need to change but when i start to try he does something that bothers me and there i go again back in to my childish moods and i dont want to lose him but i have a feeling he's not going to take it any longer. I act rude like that sometimes around my family too, there are reasons to why but i keep making up excuses for my actions. Please give me some advice.

Answer 1

I'm going to take the leap of faith that he likely isn't cheating on you and you are just being paranoid. So what's the real issue? Sounds like you are somehow unhappy with yourself and are looking to take your frustrations out on an easy target. Maybe you are mildly depressed. Maybe bored, but whatever the exact issue is, you shouldn't resort to "kicking the dog." You can't allow illogical thoughts to sabotage your otherwise healthy relationships. Find something else besides your boyfriend that will give you pleasure. Join a gym, get in shape, take up a hobby, travel, go shopping, whatever it is.

Answer 2

You really need to take time to yourself, relax, and remember how much these people esp your boyfriend...make your a happier and better person. You may have a slight case of Bipolar syndrome. Hence the large mood swings. Or you just might simply have an issue with your diet which makes you express yourself with great anger because the wrong processes are going on in your body. Did you know when a diet is missing magnesium a person can feel very fatigued and depressed?

So try to take a vitamin first then if there is no difference within a month seek other help.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Sounds to me like you are not very happy with yourself. You need to make a conscious effort to change your attitude. At first it will seem impossible to do but then it will come natural. I use to sit and bi. tch all the time and one day I realized no body is going to stand for this and I put a happy face on even when I didn't want it and then it came natural. now I'm known as the last person in the world to sit and nag and life is better. Of course if you have just reason to be unhappy with your b/f or family, okay. But don't just ruin every ones day for the sake of ruining it. You are on the right path by seeing what the heck you're doing and that's a great thing for you. You're going to be fine. At least you see it, some people go thru life acting the meanie and then wonder why every body is steering clear of them.

Answer 4

I did the same thing you did before. He probably really cares about you . His not cheating on you. IF he was he wouldnt bring you around his family. In order to change you have to be willing to change but for yourself. You need to think is he really the one for me or is it just a thing? Sometimes the person you are looking for isnt all there in what you want. Maybe you werent looking for a really nice guy and he happened to be there so you took him. But in reality you were looking for a bad kinda guy and still are. But sometimes guys like that arent very nice. I think you should stay with who your with now and give it a shot and try to change. But only do it for yourself if that is what is going to make you happy!! Good luck

Answer 5

If you truly love this guy then I would be careful that you don't scare him away being this way ! Why would you think he's cheating on you when you say that he does anything and everything for you ? It sounds like you are insecure so you need to find out why this is and get through this problem before you can make a relationship work.

Answer 6

Sounds like you may have had a bad experience in the past? If that's so, you need to not pass judgement on your b/f for things other people have done to you. As for your moods with your family, maybe you need to find something to help you mellow out - like exercise or reading. If you do something you enjoy, you will be happier all around.

Answer 7

It sounds like you need to grow up a little. He sounds like he does care for you and wouldn't do something purposefully to break your heart, but yet, you're being very pessimistic and just not wanting to trust him.

Also, you need to not be so sensitive to little things, and choose to be happy, whether or not he's acting like an idiot. You should be worried about him not sticking around, because most guys won't put up with that, or at least they shouldn't.

Just make a choice to trust him, and be happy and I think that should help.

Answer 8

When I was in high school I had a boyfriend that bent over backwards to please me. He would pretty much do anything I asked him to do. If he got on my nerves I was completely tacky to him. Eventually I got tired of him and we broke up after a year and a half. Later, when I met my now husband, my mother told me she could tell he was the right one for me. I asked her how she could tell that, she said, "Because he stands up to you, he voices his opinion and doesn't let you get away with being a brat." At first I was a little appalled that my mother said that, but I have now been married to this man for 5 years...and let me tell you it is great. My mom was right. When someone is doing everything in the world to satisfy you it kinda starts to get annoying, almost needy. Then before you know it, you get irritated and start to show your irritation. My husband is of course loving, caring and all that great stuff, but he doesn't just drop everything to give me what I want. It might not make sense now, but one day it will. Hope that helps.

Answer 9

when people fight over petty thiings is because something is bigger behind it

ur know the problem
and is because u dont trust so u are acting like this toward him because its a defense mechanism
so u need to dig deep inside ur self and figure out what do u want
if this guys treat u well then why push him away
there are plenty of girls out there that will love to be in ur shoes but ur taken it for granted cuz of ur insecure

fix that about ur self and watch ur relationship blossom

good luck

Answer 10

Okay here goes--you won't like it.

Grow up and act like an adult if you are going to be in an adult relationship.

Don't take your boyfriend being nice for granted

If you lose him, let me assure you, the nice guys are few and far between. But maybe you need to be treated like crap for a while in order to appreciate what you have!