Okay guys.....I cant figure this one out!! I know this guy is not married. I really feel like he is genuine when he expressed his feelings to me. We really have a great time together, we laugh, we cut up, we have great sex and I know there is a mutual interest, but there is just something I cant put my finger on with this guy. He sometimes says he will call and doesnt; he has broken plans but always has a genuine explanation. It just feels like their is something else to this guy? He tells me I am his boo and that I am the only one he is sleeping with. I can tell he is sensitive to being questioned and I dont question him but he doesnt like to even feel like he needs to explain hiself when he breaks plans or doesnt call when he says he will. He is a very busy man, full time father and business man so I understand his time is limited, but something just doesnt feel right. What do you guys think it is? Please Help!! No sarcastic answers PLEASE!!!!
2007-07-26 06:45:20 · 11 answers · asked by stacey_moser2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PAY ATTENTION TO HIS ACTIONS NOT WHAT HE SAYS
Sounds like he's got some baby mamma drama going on.
I'd be interested to know some of his "genuine explanations" for his disappearing acts and you say you can tell he is sensitive to being questioned. You need to start questioning him who cares if he doesn't feel like he needs to explain himself when he breaks plans or doesn't call when he says he will. Breaking plans and/or not doing something when you say you are going to is wrong, he owes YOU the respect and courtesy of a phone call/email/text SOMETHING!
Remember we teach others how to treat us.
Suggest that if his job and kid interfere with your plans so much that he can't even let you know they've changed then perhaps he should concentrate more on them and leave you alone.
If he truly wants to be with you and not just for a booty call he'll make the effort.
2007-07-26 07:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if something doesnt feel right than it isnt right. thats your gut feeling telling you you should ask more questions. maybe he is busy and all that but he has set up this situation to work perfectly for him. listen to yourself you are probably saying what he has says to you about the not wanting to be questioned and all that. the fact is that if you are sleeping with the guy you have a right to ask certain questions. if he doesnt want to answer them than there is probably a reason why. a reason you wouldnt like. so if i was you, i'd start asking those questions you have and if he doesnt repsond, then break it off because that likely means he's playing you.
2007-07-26 13:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a little sarcasm. Dont go out with anyone that calls you his "boo". There I said it.
He may be telling you the truth.
But, if you are expecting bigger things like marriage or living together, it does not seem like you are going down that road together.
There is a possibility that he is cheating, but that goes for all relationships.
My conclusion: it does not seem like you are going down the road to greater intimacy, so you may wish to end this and find a relationship that is more in keeping with what you want.
2007-07-26 17:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by RandallL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly... without knowing him - just by what you've said, I think that you may not necessarily be the only one in his life. He doesn't have to be married to have another female interest. If that is not the case and he is simply inconsiderate, selfish, insensitive to your feelings, etc... you still may consider leaving your options open. There are other guys that you can have the same good times with, I'm sure.
2007-07-26 13:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you make plans because you really want to keep them, but when you finally get a break from work, the kids, and the house, you just want to relax and not have to do anything to entertain anyone. That also means the prelude to sex: talking.
2007-07-26 14:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cat onahottinroof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm
how is ur approach when u ask him these questions
why does he get sensitive when someone ask him a question?
now if he cancel plans he should atleast say why
hmmm i think u just enjoy the attention and the things he has offer u now
but he is not offerin enough for ur appetite
would he//??? maybe or maybe not
i will rethink all of this and ask myself is this what i want
2007-07-26 13:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by simple J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not sarcastic but your sure there is no one else....if he is having sex with you he has the responsibility of why he abruptly cancels plans...its inconsiderate for you when you expect something and then he backs out...does he have another girlfriend.? If you feel something isnt right your probably right there isnt...if hes gonna be with than you and have a relationship he has to involve you otherwise it sounds like he just wants you for sex.when he wants it
2007-07-26 13:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust you gut. You may never know why he broke plans or didn't call, but if you think something is a little off, it probably is. I wish I could tell you that you are just paranoid, but if you typically aren't, then trust your instincts. Good luck.
2007-07-26 13:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by hoopstar231 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your intuitive sense indicates a problem. You are probably right. Protect your emotional well being. As Y. B. Yeats said:
"Never give all the heart...."
2007-07-26 13:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by Baraka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is using you. go figure
2007-07-26 13:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋