Muslim's only Arranged marriage?

Question

If both people are already adults how do you already get into one or is this only for people becoming adults

Answer 1

arranged marriage is a very backward cultural thing, first i think you must understand that an arranged marriage means that both the groom and the bride have never seen each other or only caught glimpses and almost never talked before the wedding night. Islamically a person meets the person and talks to them and gets to know them before they marry them.

Answer 2

You don't need an arranged marriage. Talk to the imam at your mosque or ask muslim friends if they know any girls that want to get married. Then take it from there...Or you can also go the route of the Muslim Matrimonial site --you can even have a close friend or family member post info. about you and help you weed through ppl --you have a smaller chance of being impulsive that way.

Answer 3

you should speak with a Muslim friend of yours or talk to someone at a masjid near you... you don't need to be arranged in the traditional sense of the idea.....

Think of the Prophet's (saw) marriage to Khadijah.... it wasn't his parents or caretakers who suggested the arrangement, but Khadijah's friend. I'm sure the Muslims in your area would be willing to help you if you felt you were ready to be married and wanted to make a good decision

Peace and Blessings,
Sakina

Ps Babak, Muhammad (saw) only proposed after Khadijah's friend suggested the marriage. and you are quite right, arranged marriage is not something that is particular to Islam

Answer 4

Arranged marriages is not part of Islam. Each person is free to choose who they will/want to marry.

If you have seen a sister in Islam that you are interested in then ask around about her to see if #1 she is not married already, #2 wanting to get married, #3 if there is a wali you should approach first to ask to meet her.

Answer 5

Marriage in Islam is very simple and cheap ceremony but sacred..Arranged marriage in Islam is such :
1)You must talk to your will be wife whether she loves you then you will talk to her parents asking permission for getting maried with their daughter.
2)If it is agreed you must visit her parents accompanied by your parents and brother or sister to ask their permission for getting married with their daughter and you must discuss with them when the wedding ceremony will be taken.
3)After it is agreed with both sides you and your parents and she with her parents,then you must decide where it wiil be taken and at what time.Usually the wedding will be taken at the bride's home or at a mosque.You must contact the imam or ulama of a mosque for the wedding.
4)At certain time as has been agreed you and your will be bride accompanied by the parents and relatives and close friends should get together in a mosque for wedding ceremo ny headed by ulama.Her father will be the one who will
give a formal permission in that ceremony by shaking hand with you as the will be bride groom.You must say shahadat or a swear in front of witnesses that no other God than Allah and Muhammad pbuh as Allah'messenger.You swear that you will take care your wife well and gently..You must give the bride a wedding present or mahar just only as a token as has been agreed before by your will be wife.
5)You and your wife should sign the wedding certificate in front of Imam and all of witnesses and finally you and your wife must first shake hand to your wife's parents and then both of you shake hand also to your own parents.and other witnesses
6)After the wedding ceremony finished ,you and your wife accompanied by both parents and families and friends get together for a wedding reception if you like and have enough money it is not a compulsory in Islam..Marriage in Islam is filling one part of your faith.By marriage you must be the leader or imam of a family and you must be responsible to your own family,(wife and children).You must treat her as stated in the holy Qur'an and Hadith.as muslim life guide.
You can not speak rudely to her.You can not make her sad and must treat her gently and politely and respect her well.We are not perfect so you should accept the strength and the weakness of your wife...I hope you will have a harmonious and happy family.May God bless you all.

Answer 6

Arranged marriages are not an Islamic tradition. They are an Arab tradition. Don't mix the two. Muhammad himself did not marry by arrangement. He walked up to a woman 15 years older than him, and told her he loved her.

Answer 7

Arranged marriages are an Arabian tradition,
they also go for love marriages,
In fact some of them refuse arranged marriages
and chose death instead .

Answer 8

You have to know people who know you well. It isn't only for young people, but it seems it is most practical when the parents are the ones making arrangements, because parents generally know their children pretty well, and know what will make them happy.

Answer 9

babek - you are incorrect. Muhammad was approached by Khaijah, his first wife who was 15 years his elder. He worked for her.

and for the Q, marriaged can not be forced Islamically.
Basically, the guy and girl meet in front of the parents and they are able to ask q's in front of her mahram relatives. If she agrees, the marriage goes from there. It may take many
meetings' for this to happen.

Answer 10

you tell your parents that you want ot get married and they find some males or females and then you meet them and choose one. it is kind of confusing some people do it differently becuase of their cultures, but this is the way most that i know do it. and it is usually done when you are an adult, but you are still living w/ your parents, because you aren't supposed to move out until you are married