How has a homosexual ever "shoved" their sexuality "in your face"?

Question

People have used that phrase to complain about homosexuals and how they ought to "keep it to themselves". So... now I want to know what you consider "shoved in your face".

How did they do it?
Did you consider it offensive?
Were you outraged on religious grounds?
Can you think of anything you've ever done that might be considered "shoving your sexuality in the faces of others"?

Answer 1

Funny how Christians say that, but say nothing about the "Jesus AM" stations that litter the radio, or God TV.

Answer 2

Telling the truth about your personal life when asked, exchanging a warm smile with your partner while out in public, and demanding a safe learning environment for our kids all apparently qualify as "shoving" it in their face. Certainly, complimenting a person of the same gender on their appearance qualifies as an unwanted sexual advance. And, to disagree when someone makes a homophobic comment- and certainly, to speak on the subject with anything but contempt and scorn- is the equivalent of waving a rainbow flag in their face. When we simply ask for the same tax and social security benefits as everyone else, since we pay in just as much, we're demanding "special rights". And, when we ask for the same health insurance benefits for a partner that married couples working for the same employer receive, so he or she can stay home to raise the kids we already have, we're attacking the "sacred" institution of marriage and driving up the divorce rate for heterosexuals.

In other words, anything short of lying about our personal life, keeping our mouth shut people demean and belittle others, and ignoring the fact that we're required to subsidize "the heterosexual lifestyle", is flaunting it. Apparently, this is the Religious Right's definition of "morals and values", and apparently only "ideal families" have value and are worthy of society's protection and support.

Answer 3

I'm bi, I make no secret of it, however, I respect the privacy of others and leave them alone. I don't know any homosexuals who force their orientation on others. It's one thing if we're all hanging out with friends and joking around, but it does cross a line when mixed signals get involved and boundries wind up crossed. Straight men and women do it too. It is not something that should be totally isolated or blamed on the homosexual community.
It is offensive to me if anybody crosses my boundries, and I'm sure most people feel the same way. I'm actually more offended by men who hit on me than women. Men tend to be more aggressive and gross in my experience than women. I'm sure it vaires for everyone. However, we must remember this is a subjective question.
People need to take responsibility for themselves and make their boundries clear with their friends or acquaintences. Instead of invoking religion to declare their disapproval or fear of homosexuals, those people need to examine themselves. Studies have been shown and published right down to college textbooks that those who have an extreme fear/hatered for gays are fighting the same desires within themselves.

Answer 4

About a dozen years back I was trying to make my way to UN Headquarters but got cut off by a massive Gay Pride parade. Got flashed by more than a few people of both sexes, but I wasn't permanently traumatized. I'm a notorious prude, but I didn't find it all that offensive (just surprising) and have attended many Gay Pride festivals and parades since (all less flamboyant than that first) in support of my homosexual friends, family, and neighbors. I didn't find it any more in-your-face than other kinds of parades and far less sexually-charged than Mardi Gras celebrations.

Answer 5

I always hear the gay pride parades mentioned when this kind of question arises. Or couples holding hands in public.

What I want to know is....why shouldn't gay people be proud of who they are? Why shouldn't they be able to hold hands or kiss in public? They are fine just as they are. Our desire to force them to conform is what is offensive. Don't we heterosexual people also 'shove our sexuality' in the face of homosexuals daily? Is it okay to hold hands with my husband just because heteros outnumber the homosexuals? Does might make right?

I should get my own question, huh? lol

Answer 6

I'm not at all offended by homosexuals. The only time I've ever come close to being offended by it is once a gay woman told me that she deserved respect just because she was gay. Respect is earned based on the character of a person, not their sexual preference. That would be like saying I deserved respect just because I married a man. I only deserve respect if I have shown myself to be trustworthy and hospitable, and other virtuous things. Not just because I like the opposite sex. Peace.

Answer 7

I hate it when anyone shoves their sexuality in my face, I don't care if someone likes the opposite or same sex. I may be a pervert but if I don't ask you about what sex you had or how you gave it your guy or girl, don't tell me.
A person's sexuality is that person's business, if they're shoving it in your face it doesnt have to with acceptance, they are just exhibitionists. They like to be watched.

Answer 8

I don't shove mine at anyone. I do make it known that I would like to be treated with respect as anyone else would be.

Looking at some of the answers forces me to make a response.
We do have gay pride parades, but it isn't to flaunt our homosexuality. It's to have a voice. For years society has censored our presence and if we were just allowed to share our feelings openly in all parades, then I don't think we would have our own. We don't keep straight supporters out of ours so why keep us out.

Also someone said that there gay supervisor always came on to them and that they would share their experiences. My question is did they ask the supervisor to stop? And if they did and it continued, I'm sorry but there are gay jerks too. It seems the same to me as a male supervisor and a female employee. Jerks exist in gay and straight.

Answer 9

I was helping a couple of gay guys that are friends of mine move. While I was carrying a huge bookcase the guy that was behind me grabbed my left butt cheek. I didn't say anything to him and just kept going with the bookcase, it bothered me but it just wasn't worth a scene. It never happened again and we are still friends! I think that's shoving it.

Answer 10

i appreciate you question especially the last part about me shoving my sexuality in the face of others. hetero sex is shoved in the faces of all americans constantly. well all sex is but more hetero. the gay sex is usually a lttle subversive but i dont think thats by choice. i think thats because its not widely accepted yet. granted it has gotten better but there still is a certain stigma with being gay. (unless its lesbian porn) i dont think there is some "homo agenda" out there to convert straights or bi's to there "cause" people need to chill out and treat everyone as equal. its what jesus would do. im sure everyone will say im liberal and a hippie or whatever but to that i say sit and spin

Answer 11

Never pass out in a gay bar, never.

JK


Actually you have a great point. The only thing that could be construed as being close, would be the Gay pride parades that occur once a year in various cities, but even then, they aren't asking others to join a movement or belief, just stating that they are a part of society just like the rest of us.