How many ppl agree that we shouldn't reveal everything to a man bcoz he will use it against you one day ?

Question

I'm talking about dating/married relationships.

Actually my husband is my best friend and I've never revealed so much to anyone before, not that i have dark secrets. But u know I shared my life and trivial things.

But I have a lot of girlfriends who think otherwise, and the say it is a big mistake to tell your man evrything.

Answer 1

I prefer to think that all people are inherently kind and decent. But I also make it a point to broadcast my "secrets" widely so no one has anything to use on me.

Answer 2

I agree and I say unless it is something that is determental to them - or something that someone else will bring up - dont' tell them. Like how alot of people want to know how many people have you slept with besides me or am I the best etc.

I just say it was more than you and nobody you know and your great. But, I agree because later on when you share your deepest darkest secret - and you get into a heated argument guess what comes up - exactly what you told them.

Answer 3

Not for that reason. But sometimes going into past relationships is not a good idea....he should just know you had some and leave it at that. Not because he would use it against you, but because he might not be able to forget it and it could destroy your relationship,

If you can't trust the guy you are married to, who can you trust?
So if you think he would turn on you that way, you have no business being married.

Answer 4

First off.. if you are with a man that tends to *use things against you* then get the frick outta dodge girl! What is wrong with you? No man that LOVES you would ever use anything against you... so no... I don't agree with you and I just have to say its this type of thinking that has caused our divorce rate to sky rocket because ppl are marrying others that are totally not right for them.....

Answer 5

I'm an open book and I wouldn't be able to keep anything from a husband, especially if they asked. I don't think secrets are good but I guess there are times when it might be the best thing to do.

Answer 6

It isn't really a mature way to handle an argument, though.....it depends what type of person you are, but if he tells you something in confidence, me as a person will just accept it and not use it against him....
because if you do, him and everyone else who has heard what you have to say about this "secret" of his will think you are a fake and pretending person....which I'm not

But I do agree that you shouldn't tell them everything

Answer 7

I think you shouldn't be with the kind of man who'll use it against you one day. My husband knows pretty much EVERYthing about me, some of which is regretable stuff, but I know for a fact that he'd never use it against me. Don't think that EVERY guy will use it against you. Find a guy you can literally bare you mind, body and soul to, knowing that he will never ever use it against you.

Answer 8

who said 100% should be revealed to anybody. There is this 25% corner place in the heart that satay with the person unrevealed until death. Think of it as the blackbox of the heart.

Answer 9

great plan. maybe you should also contruct a big plastic bubble that you live in and then put that inside a WWII bunker underground. that way you can be totally protected from any possible harm.
your other option would be to realize that love is a high risk high reward proposition and learn to deal with it. i'm going to go with that second option but good luck being a reclusive hermit.

Answer 10

it really depends on the guy you said your husband is your best friend- but there should be some things that are sometimes better not revealed. all beings will use the facts that they know about you when your arguing- god forbid you guys decided to part ways he may use something than.

Answer 11

It depends on the person, you should be careful what you tell to anyone. But, I told my guy something I don't tell anyone. He told everyone it was a family issue now everyone who knows my family and his knows. I trusted him he could of ruined someones life, I came to terms with this when i was a teen. But apparently he had the need to hurt me and everyone involved. Don't ever fully trust anyone. Use your head.