here is the dealio, my boyfriend and i broke up on the 4th of july but i can't get over him. at night i can't sleep because i'm too busy thinking about him. the best thing about him is that my parents were about as in love with him as i STILL am. we went to a carnival together and my friends (who are also his friends) oohed and awed over the cute couple that we made and that, apparently, was just too much for him because the next day when i called he told me he couldn't date me anymore. he said that the pressure everyone was putting on him to be with me was just to much... he told me it wasn't me it was my friends.
he said he WANTED to be with me but he just couldn't...
i want him back i miss his company. should i ask him to a movie?
please no stupid or rude answers i'm really hurting
2007-07-26 06:34:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try to straighten things out with him...if your friends are putting pressure on him when they're around...then do things by yourself(you and your bf) hopefully everything will work out!
--good luck!
2007-07-26 06:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you really miss him and that you are hurting alot. But here is the real deal: Your boyfriend was not being honest with you. On what planet is oohing and ahhing at your friends as a really cute couple so much pressure that you break up with your girlfriend? The pressure he felt came from within because he's been wanting to end your relationship and didn't know how. Something about the fourth of july sent him over the edge and he just let you go...but it wasn't your friends. Of course he's going to tell you that he WANTS to be with you but can't, because he'd rather lie than make you cry.
Breaking up sucks! Especially when it's unexpected. But, that's how life is. It's too early to say find another guy and move on because you're still thinking about him. The important thing is to give yourself time to get over him,.DON'T ASK HIM OUT TO THE MOVIES. Unfortunately, you have to respect his decision and leave him alone. He chose to end your relationship because he no longer wanted to be with you so, there will be no getting back together. I know that you miss him but you have to find a way to let him go.
Good luck
2007-07-26 13:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is clear that you hurt and that is to be understood. It is also clear your boyfriend is feeling the pressure. He probably just wanted to take things slowly with the relationship.
First, don't add to the pressure by calling him. Let him have space to think about things. He probably could have handled the respect from your parents but the added oohing and aahing made him feel like he was the center of too much attention.
If you give yourself the time to hurt, it will diminish and then you can think more clearly. Good luck and stay sweet.
2007-07-26 14:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no harm in asking. One of my friends was going out with this girl and she broke up with him because everyone was talking about them and all that, putting pressure on her and all that stuff your ex was talking about. The point is, some people just want to have quiet relationships. Try being friends with him for a while, reconnect with him. Then, if you feel it's right, talk to him about taking it further again. Then, talk to your friends, tell them you both are uncomfortable with the amount of attention give to you as a couple. I hope I helped! Good luck and I hope it works out!
2007-07-26 13:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet thing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could not hurt to ask him. So your friends are his friends too? Were they your friends first? I guess that does not matter as long as they are not there to pressure him. That is going to be important to make sure that does not happen to him again. A lot of ppl can't handle pressure very well,so maybe it can work because he did say that it was not you, SO that sounds good. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-26 13:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by starchild4485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think that's a good idea, because like he said, it was you and not your friends....you have to think that he could just be hurting as much as you, but has made the decision to move on.
Don't ring him, the only chance you have is if he comes to you, because it was your friends that put this pressure on him...so he can't expect you to dump your friends for him, which you shouldn't do anyway
2007-07-26 13:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by lil_munchie_x 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can ask your friends to stop doing that because its hurting your relationship with a guy you love! Tell them he doesnt like it and what he feels and how much pain your going through, they will understand and they will stop hopefully =] If he doesnt go back out with you because he knows that they will start it again after a while then tell your friends to tell him they wont! If you get me :P Gd luk x
2007-07-26 13:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Chillax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i gotta be honest with you (from my pov), seems like he left you for other reasons, and gave that reason as an excuse, you should ask him to be honest with you, give you some words that might give you closure. And, if he doesnt want you back, you must accept his decision, give yourself sometime, find someone who can listen to you grieve and understand, and although it might sound cliche, time cures all, but yeah, he who said love hurts was not kidding.
Blessings.
2007-07-26 13:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by make_it 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to the movies, perhaps group outings should be limited. Your friends should understand
2007-07-26 13:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Greg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he broke up with u for reason...u just gunna make it worse if u keep asking him out. what i would do is to play a game with him. try to make him jealous. what you do is go get another boyfriend and make out with him in front of the dude you like, that will get him jealous and make him want you back...guys like girls they cant have
2007-07-26 13:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sweeetboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋