My father...???

Question

I have been playing soccer for nearly 10 years now, and I have became worn out on the sport and no longer wish to play soccer for my high school. After telling my father that I no longer wished to continue playing soccer and he then threatens me by saying that he will no longer do anything with me and my friends and that i would have to start doing a certain number of chores everyday. Do you have any ideas about what i could say to my father to help him understand that I no longer wish to play soccer for my high school. I am playing on another team, and that still seems to be not enough for him. What are your opinions, thoughts, and suggestions?

Answer 1

I think you need to seriously sit down with your father and explain to him that you are feeling overwhelmed by taking on school, sports for the school and sports for another team. He is probably thinking of you future by wanting you to continue to play soccer for your high school, perhaps scholarships are on his mind.
Other than that you may just want to bite the bullet and realise if you are not playing sports for two different teams you will have more time on your hands to contribute to the chores around the house.
Good luck.

Answer 2

He is trying to manipulate you as if you don't play soccer, he doesn't get to do what he wants to do which is watch you play and drive your friends around to the games, etc. It makes him feel young and it is also something he likes to do and that will be taken away from him if you don't play. Not an excuse for his behavior or reaction, just an explanation.

I would tell him the following: "I have reached a point in my life where soccer no longer is fun." "I wish my decision wouldn't cost me your time and support, as I love you very much and value our time together, but I will live with whatever you decide." "As far as chores, I'll be glad to help more around the house as I am a part of the family."

Then, the ball is in his court.

Good luck. As a parent, sometimes we want our kids to live their lives to suit us, but, as with every kid, they grow up and decide what they should or shouldn't do. You are not wrong for not wanting to play anymore. Your father is wrong for saying "do this, or else."

So, see if "what else" is really what he says it's gonna be. I truly doubt it.

Good luck.

Answer 3

My guess is that your father has his life wrapped up in your soccer. My guess is that you never stopped to think about him in all those years. There is nothing wrong with you no longer having an interest, but you need to talk to your dad about how you feel again. Tell him you will be glad to help out more around the house, that's only fair. Give him some time to come around, my guess is that he's simply reacting badly to an unexpected change. You've given enough time to it, I think its ok for you to stop now. Good luck.

Answer 4

He's abusing you mentally with this, which is totally wrong. What does your mother have to say about this?

Just tell him that it's no longer an interest you have and you'd like to look into something else. It's not the end of the world..don't really know else you can tell him, but ask your mom to help you out with him.

Answer 5

Sounds like it's more about 'him' and not you. This is your desire and your life, not his. Does you playing the sport make 'him' feel important and that it reflects on 'him' if you don't play? He needs to examine himself and ask why it's so important to him. You need to make sure your motive for not playing the sport is for all the right reasons and not because you are going down the wrong path.

Answer 6

Are you really really against doing soccer, because if you are then I would go to the athletic depart. and tell them this. Or you could get help from one of your friends.

Answer 7

Tell him it's your life, not his. Explain to him why you should be able to quite soccer if you want. Tell him you would much rather focus on other things.

Answer 8

thats not so bad, if you hear my story u might cry.