my dad is going to marry this evil woman and i hate her. ive told my dad but he doesnt listen. what should i do about it? please answer seriously, or i will be all like grrrrr. im 13 so i'm kinda helpless in this situation. thx.
2007-07-26 06:32:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell him that you love him very much, but as long as she's around, you can't be around him. I hope that he would then take it more seriously.
2007-07-26 06:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really because she's evil or maybe the fact that you feel she's taking your dad away from you has something to do with it. Think about the real reason you hate her. I don't really know and you could have every reason to hate her but where you are right now is in a tough spot because he is obviously happy enough to want to get married regardless of your feelings so maybe he thinks you'll adjust. And you may or may not but don't stress yourself out about it and don't give her any ammunition to label you as a problem child for having your feelings that your entitled to have..just not out loud in front of her. Just try to be respectful and just focus on your life and work hard to make something of yourself and if your dad is still with her and you feel the same way in the future then you'll be able to get away when your older. Keep a journal get down all your emotions when you feel like your going to explode you'll have something to reflect on one day and it relieves the possibility of you blowing up at everyone else. Most importantly if she does things to you that are mean or abusive don't give up talking to your dad and invest in a voice activated recorder to gain some good evidence... just putting several options out there since I don't have the full story. Good luck hon and I hope things get better!
2007-07-26 06:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you say, there's not a lot you can do to change the situation. Take a long look in the mirror, though, and really think about what is making you so unhappy. Is she actually that bad, or are you angry because you think she's trying to replace your mother?
Do your best to give her a chance. Try to find some way to connect with her. Do you have an interest in common? Does she know something you'd like to learn more about? Has she expressed an interest in something you know about? If you can find some way to make friends with her, obviously the situation will be easier not only for you, but for her and your father, as well. There's a reason your father loves her, so do your best to see what it is.
If you honestly cannot find a way to connect with her, do your best to be respectful toward her. Your father is marrying her, and it's not your decision to make. As you want your father to respect your choices, it's important for you to respect his.
And remember, even if you can't ever find a way to like her, you're in your teens now and will be more independant every year. If necessary, you can tough it out until you turn eighteen. Unless she's actively hurting you in some way, the only thing you can control is your own behavior - but that is completely in your own hands. You can choose to make this situation easier on everyone or harder.
Try to make the adult choice.
2007-07-26 08:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ebayrox. Sad to hear that you don't get along with this woman who will be your stepmother. Fact of live is though that she is not marrying you but is getting married to your father. He must be in love with this woman and obviously she has assets that he finds attractive in her and he must also want to spend the rest of his life with her. You will not be there forever and your dad deserves some happiness in his life also. If possible try and get to know this woman, you never know as strange as it may sound you two might actually have more in common than you realize. Besides that you may grow to respect and possibly love this lady over time and she may end up playing a very important role in your life. It's hard being your age and watching your parents marry someone else but as you age you'll see that he is not marrying her to make you angry, rather he is marrying to make his life more complete and happier. Best of luck.
2007-07-26 06:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad in alone and tell him that he is the most important person on earth and means everything to you (give him importance) then tell him things will go worse by bringing a step mom and eventually you will loose me which I don't want. Tell him we can grab all the happiness together and bringing a step mom will not do any good to me and that you will realize this when its too late.
If he listens to you, that's good otherwise try moving with your mom and if not possible then try to manage until you are grown up to find a place for yourself.
God bless you !!!!!
2007-07-26 06:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by shipdada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh oh! That's not good! Sit down with your dad and tell him EXACTLY why you don't want him to marry this woman.
If it's just for silly reasons like "my life would be so different" or "I don't want her to take my mom's place" then don't bother. That doesn't mean SHE'S evil, that just means that you really aren't mature enough to accept her.
If, though, she's really mean or cold to you, DO talk to your Dad immediately. Sometimes adults can't see outside of the relationship and are blinded to the person they love's personality. Bring up your points nicely and neatly and sum up your thoughts for him.
Good luck!
2007-07-26 06:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear I sympathize with you, but your dad has made his choice and you have to learn to live with your stepmom. Give her a chance. Do not have preconceived notions about the evil stepmother. I am sure she hasn't done anything so terrible to you, as your Dad would not have stood by and let her get away with it. So, try to be grown up about it and give her a chance to be a friend and step mom. I am sure she is apprehensive about the relationship so I would not make it any more difficult for your Dad and your step mom.
2007-07-29 17:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by not referring to her as "evil".
You may not like her, but you can still try to do your best to make the situation better rather than worse. Think and act positive. And keep communication open between you and your dad. You will need him as an ally, so don't punish him for marrying her by cutting him off.
Good luck.
2007-07-26 06:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes her evil? If she is truly evil then I suggest recording her evilness and showing it to your dad. Because right now you are probably considered the daughter who doesn't want her dad to remarry and that is most likely the reason your dad isn't taking you seriously so if you have proof of something that may detour your dad from marrying someone so evil.
2007-07-26 06:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by accebermn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hard spot to be in. Perhaps, the two of you will get along. Try giving it a shot. You have nothing to lose by trying, then if it doesn't work maybe you could live with your mom. I really hope this works out for all of you. Good Luck Hon.
2007-07-26 06:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know your future is going to be important. I know that you are 13 but in 5 years you will be 18 to make a real life for yourself. This won't be forever. You might decide to go away for college. So just be patience.
2007-07-26 06:38:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋