for your children? By sole I mean you are the ONLY one who keeps your children 24 hrs. a day EVERYday, and it's been that way since they were born. You have NO other friends or family to watch them, they are not school age as of yet, and you do NOT get a break ... at ALL. Due to circumstances beyond your control, everywhere you go they go. Everything you do, they do.
I often hear people say this, but I mean in the literal sense. I'm trying to find people who can relate . . .
2007-07-26 06:18:39 · 11 answers · asked by ♥ justbnme ♥ 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
no i have been very luck,i have a very close family.i wish i could help you,i really mean it.some of us take things for granted like my self.God Bless you
2007-07-26 10:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do have a husband who helps in the evenings and weekends. However, I have no family around. The thing that has saved my sanity is JOINING MOMMY GROUPS!!! You should do this immediately.... Go to playgroups - Yes, your children will still be with you, but they will be playing with others and you can get a little break AND you can commiserate with other mommies which is super important. Also, if you are comfortable leaving your kids with someone, there are nanny services where you can just hire a babysitter for a few hours and the YMCA has a drop-off program during the week where you can leave your kids for 3 hours for around $18 on a Wed. afternoon.
You must look for ways to get a break. It is not healthy to go it alone - not for you or your kids. Just start searching the internet for resources..
Also, what about neighbors?? I have a nice elderly couple who live down the street who would watch my baby for an hour so I could nap or grocery shop every once in a while. Do you have that option??
2007-07-26 14:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ramona G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not that i have met. of course the reason for that is that if i had met them I would not let that situation stay that way. I would help relieve them somehow, ( i have teens to volunteer). I have an 11 month old and when we got pregnant the family decided that I would be with baby and not work away from the house so that she would not have to be in daycare. This doesn't mean I always have her though, as I mentioned earlier, two teens, a loving husband (he tries), and my dad. I haven't trusted anyone outside of those mentioned yet but I am possibly overly protective.
I will say that sometimes I feel like the person your question is about but then someone near and dear will see my crazy coming out and give me a break... it is a choice i make to stay with baby and work here but it is because I love her and want her to have a safe upbringing and no one else forcing their morals or vices on her, she is too precious for society's twists.
2007-07-26 13:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by scsspace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my children were very small ( before school age) I was the only one, I also baby sat with others..sometimes I had 8 or 9 children under the age of 5...I had 3 children of my own under the age of 3..2 of them within a year of each other.
I did change diapers, warm bottles, feed babies all day long...know what a person goes through,,,I told myself daily " This too shall Pass"..and it did, and it was all over too quickly ( looking back on it)..I wanted those kids to have a warm loving place to remember...I was committed to them, my time came later in life...and I'm enjoying every minute of it..and have good memories of their babyhood...
2007-07-26 15:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Boopsie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get about 1 hour break once a week when I'm doing an activity that would really put a baby in danger (dog training). But I consider myself sole caregiver.
I am lucky, I know my husband will start to help out when my son is older. My husband is really good with babies over 9 mo old, but totally uselss with the little ones. 5 months to go!
Join a Mom's club! Try taking your kids to a library storytime. Or a "head start" early preschool one or two days a week.
You need to take care of yourself first. Otherwise who will take care of them?
2007-07-26 14:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by buterfly_2_lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you be the sole caregiver and not put your children in daycare or school? How do you survive? I was a single parent for nine years, and had my ex husbands parental rights terminated (he was a drug addict). I got no child support, but made a good living all by myself. It was actually harder on me and the kids once I got remarried.
I had a vast support system, since me working was our living. My parents, friends, co-workers, church members, sisters, etc. I don't see how people could make it without them.
2007-07-26 16:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by nita5267 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate...I left a bad marriage with two boys...vowing they would not learn that way of life that my ex and his family had. I have never lived with my daughter's father. I know having family and friends near by made me one of the lucky ones. Just remember that no matter how hard it gets or how crazy your mind thinks it is....You are doing the right thing by your child and that is what matters...Vent to me when you want...I am here for you.
2007-07-26 13:41:18 · answer #7 · answered by Madam Naka 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I have always had the support of my family, I have had this experience. I chose to do it that way for a while. It was very hard and the emotional toll was immense. I had nothing for myself, even my time was not my own.
2007-07-26 13:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by twinkie.2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have no family one friend but she never helped due 2 her mum being ill so i brought my kids up from day one always with me there 8 9 now its very hard i felt like killing myself at times due 2 being plus my youngest is seriously ill hole in heart other stuff she died 2 so u can see ive had a bit rrr at times
2007-07-26 13:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Tilly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I do it majority of the time. I am the one who take care of my children their father does it every blue moon nobody else watches my babies until they able to at least talk
2007-07-26 13:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by Latisa H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋