If you have been married for about five years and all of a sudden you check your e-mail, and Bang! there she is, asking how you are doing, and if you are married or have any kids, what should i do?
a. Ignore tha mail, and delete it
b. be polite and answrer back with an update of my life
c. E-mail her asking her to please stop e-mailing me 'cuase my wife would not like it?
2007-07-26 06:03:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stt 123 i like your answer, you know the worring part is? She was a psycho girlfriend! Thta is why I don't know what to do, what if I ignor her, she gets fueled, answeer her? she gest illisioned, I ask her not to e mail , she gest scorned? Oh help heavens!
2007-07-26 06:17:25 · update #1
email her back. she just wants to know what's up with you. you don't have to be too specific; just give generalities and let her know what's up with you.
2007-07-26 06:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
B.
Chances are that you ran across her mind and she is just wondering how you are doing. Send her a very polite email with a general update of your life, emphasizing that you are HAPPILY MARRIED to the most beautiful woman in the world, that you have amazing children if you have any, you job/career is going well and that you are the happiest you have ever been in your entire life. In the conclusion of your email thank her for writing and wish her well. This should let her know that you don't wish to correspond with her and she will leave you alone.
IF however, she sends another reply, delete it. Don't respond because she wants something. OH!!! Don't forget to tell your wife. You know we are kind of sensitive when it comes to things like this and you don't want to have to get caught up in trying to explain why you're sending secret emails to your old girlfriend.
Good luck.
2007-07-26 06:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say Hi - How ya doing? - Hope all is well - I'm happy - Doing well - Happily married - And what's new with you?
I contacted an old girlfriend once via e-mail, after 20 years. We exchanged a couple of e-mails, caught up to date... end of story...
Unless the ex stole all your money, or stabbed you in the back, be polite... once upon a time you two had a lot of fun together and cared for each other... be nice...
2007-07-26 06:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by aspicco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since I'm a girl (haha) I'll just change the "girlfriend" scenario to "boyfriend." I'd actually choose a. The reason for this is because if you were polite to her and emailed back, she may start wanting to see you or start some drama (depending on her personality) and do something stupid like try to come between you and your wife's relationship. The other reason is if you did indeed tell her to stop emailing you, she may start emailing you MORE and then throw insults at you and your wife. That just wouldn't be good, would it?! So the wisest chioce is a. If she calls you up, ignore her phone calls, too. And on the slight chance you meet her one day...ha ha...pretend you don't know her. ;)
2007-07-26 06:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it was nothing more important than that I would delete it.
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It's so obvious now that you're just enjoying this and it's going to backfire on you. The absolute obvious thing to do is just delete it ignore it, and enjoy your life with your wife but you just can't do it. You're enjoying the little melodrama of the ex still wanting you and you're willing to risk your marriage over it. I have no sympathy at all for you because a blind man could ee it coming a mile away. But you're just too excited by the game.
2007-07-26 06:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay tell your wife that your ex just emailed you and ask her what she wants you to do!!! my husband did this and i told him he could update her on his life and than that was it once she and he where both updated they have never talked again. everytime she would send him back an email he would tell me to come here so that i could read it and see what he was writing back to her. i trusted him but he wanted me to see everything so i guess he wouldn't start a fight or something but you should definitly tell your wife and get her opinion and if she says to just delete it and don't respond than you should do that also.
2007-07-26 06:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by stt143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she only emailed you once, so option C wouldn't be appropriate.
to be polite, i'd go with B and end the note saying something like "...it was nice to hear from you and to let you know how things ended up for me. I wish you the same luck for your future".
i'm assuming she's single if she is emailing you.
2007-07-26 06:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore and delete, you seem to still be thinking about it. None of your options included letting your wife know, just delete it.
2007-07-26 06:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by Never fear, for I is here....... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just politely email her back and when she sees you have a wife and what not she'll probably back off a bit bit she wont know unless you tell her what your up too...wife and kids if u have them.
2007-07-26 06:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
email her and be polite..i think she'll get that since you have a wife you dont want her to talk to you because youre wife wouldent like it
2007-07-26 06:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats totaly up to you ask your wife how she feels about it and go from there but if i were you i would e-mail her back and ask why shes so interested after all these years.
2007-07-26 06:07:14 · answer #11 · answered by kayla s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋