He and I have similar backgrounds and interests but he is 14 yrs older than me. I'm 31 he's 45. We have been seeing each other for about a week and a half. Now he has to leave on a business trip for a couple of days. I messaged a pic of him to my best friend of 20 yrs and she said that she was surprised that he looked like an old man. He and I can have long intelligent conversations and he is very attentive and polite. Up until now I have really enjoyed myself. But if my best friend says this what are other people namely my parents and brothers going to say? Is this too much of an age difference? Should I cool it off for a while or suck it up? I don't want to hurt him.
2007-07-26 05:56:23 · 8 answers · asked by Katie 76 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lets see; older, wiser, more mature, wild oats sown, financially stable, with the way females and men think you and he are about at the same mental development level, yadda. Methinks you had better keep an eye on your "best friend" as it sounds like she is trying to ease you out of the picture. Anymore age is just a state of mind; and, you should quit worrying about trying to please the rest of world as it will just give you an ulcer. It is your life so why not live it yourself?
2007-07-26 06:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were 18 and dating someone that much older, I'd say rethink it. But you're not, you're a grown woman. If you enjoy each other, have a physical attraction, and find a common ground, go for it! Speak with your parents about it if you feel that you'll continue to date. If they see that he treats you well and you're happy they should look past the age difference.
2007-07-26 13:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age has very little to do with a relationship once you are at the age you are at. At least it shouldn't. I am older (46) and don't limit myself by age. It seems most women do (like your friend) If she was your friend, she should accept the fact that you found someone that makes you happy. all the luck in the world.
2007-07-26 13:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by mark019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you're in your 30's and 40's i don't think age is such a big deal....you're just trying to find someone that u can relate too and have a relationship with and 14 years isn't that much apart. i don't think you're friend knows what shes talking about soo yea just do what u think is right for you.....good luck!!
2007-07-26 13:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should trust the opinion of your best friend more than random people on the internet that you've never even met before and know nothing about. Plus, nobody on here knows as much about you or your situation as your best friend does.
2007-07-26 13:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by asig33882003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're worried what other people think of you then dump him and get a trophy boyfriend that everyone will approve of. Because, of course, approval is more important than happiness.
2007-07-26 13:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by suz665 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but ewww. Date some1 your own age.
2007-07-26 13:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by Clueless4209 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are all jealous and full of b.s. ....
2007-07-26 12:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by mnencefront 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋