I was on the bus and I saw what appeared to be 2 girls kissing just in passing you would have to have been watching them to see that their faces had not just bumped while they were hugging, and it took me a second to realize they were both girls. Then one girl got on the bus and was standing near me, and these to people started talking about if they had been in their own country, they would have been killed, and how nasty and disgusting that was. I mean, you can have your own opinions as to what is right or wrong, but I think speaking about it as if the girl wasn't right behind them was disgusting and rude. I mean, they weren't trying to be very public about it, you could see it was a hidden movement. What do you think? I don't care what your view on homosexuality is, it doen't matter for the question.
2007-07-26 05:31:13 · 16 answers · asked by Rainy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Rainy...I think you are right. Anymore, people feel like they have a "right" to share their opinions whether or not anyone else wants hear them. What happened to kindness and gentleness...compassion? Although I don't agree with the act you are in reference to, it isn't my right to openly or publicly humiliate them. GREAT QUESTION!!!
2007-07-26 05:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sunny Girl♥ 5 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Each society has their own mores, moral codes, laws and religious traditions, so for these people (I take it they are foreigners visiting your country from what you said) they applied what they knew to be a violation of those mores, morals, etc., and spoke up. You took that as disgusting and rude, but in their country they have a right and a duty to speak up when someone violates those laws to try to get them to correct their bad behavior. You did mention they said "they would have been killed" for doing that in their country. Sounds like a pretty serious violation to me to get killed over it, but I didn't make their laws.
It's simply a matter of perception, they perceived the two girls to be wrong and you perceived them talking about it as if the girl was not even there to be wrong. See what I mean?
So let's take a quick look at the degree of wrongness -- killing someone for exhibiting that kind of behavior in public (or private, who knows) in their country observed by foreigners visiting your country where you think what & how they said it was disgusting & rude. What no death penalty for that? You catch my drift?
2007-07-26 13:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I feel that the public display of affection was inappropriate - it doesn't matter who's doing the kissing in public. However inappropriate the kissing was, the person saying ugly things about it was way out of line. Some people feel that they are entitled to offer their opinion whenever they feel like it and they are usually quite loud. There's no point in saying anything to the rude person as they evidently don't understand decorum and could possibly react violently to anything that you say.
2007-07-26 14:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by Susan G 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't fall into the category of rudeness, but insensitive Yes. On the other hand, it is a free country and people seem to always find a need to let others know how they feel. I personally go about my own business and pay no attention to people who are arrogant like this.
2007-07-26 12:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Angelina N 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There are lots of people that really need to mind their OWN business. What those two girls did is between them and their higher power and wasn't necessarily meant to upset anyone at all. I am not that way, can't say I really condone this behavior but to each his own and we are not to judge. It is not our job.
2007-07-30 11:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by nanatoseven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. It's not right for people to speak that way about others, especially if someone is right there. It's none of their business anyhow, and if it was a hidden moment, they should have let it be.
2007-07-26 13:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Alana 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Once some stranger started that when I was out with my daughter. My daughter was 16 and I was 38 and this person thought we were lesbians when we gave a peck on the lips to one another and then held hands for a minute. So, some people are just sick individuals because how did they know these girls were not sisters, mother and daughter, cousins, or just good girlfriends? Why was it sexual? You see? Sick...
2007-07-26 12:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
You are right. They were rude. When have we ever convinced someone that what they were doing is wrong according to Christ's teachings when we make fun and criticize? It goes back to the "one without sin, cast the first stone" story. Most people don't learn it until they are the one's being hurt by someone else's words or actions.
Like someone once told me--if you're not part of the solution, then you are the problem.
2007-07-26 12:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Well if they had been straight(man and woman) they wouldn't have even batted an eye. But yes to sit there and talk loud enough for them to hear but not address them directly is cowardly. They should have just kept their mouths shut.
2007-07-26 12:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am no advocate for homosexuality, however, I do not believe in intimidating people like that.
This is why we have so many Americans in prison today because people cause you to whoop their asses for small things.
2007-07-26 13:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would have turned around and told them to go back to their own country if they couldn't handle it.
then again, if i were one of the girls i probably would have kissed the one talking about me kissing my girlfriend - wild and open mouthed to gross her out even more.
2007-07-26 14:48:27 · answer #11 · answered by ohmy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋