i feel so ******* depressed?

Question

i can't believe i am in this stage again . She left me cuz of her family . Ofcource the reasons were, cuz i didn't trust her enough .
She's under the control of her parents . Emotional abuse , what not . i found all that out . she's 21 . i m 25 . Now i feel so ******* alone . She was my everything .
I don't know . I LOOK outside , and i see the sunniest day ever . i look inside there is no body home here. i don't know where my parents went . i haven't talked to them in a year ( in a normal fashion ) . Me and my cousin and planning to move out in 2 months . But i have no motivation to move out .
We are discretely planning to move out because we both had been abused ( mentally and him , more physically ) when we were young , when we raised our voices . We were called crazy , he was put in a mental institution , and as for me ,my bro called the cops on me cuz he said he's so scared to live with me , and my parents

they just stood there watching .

if only i could move out of this hell i will be even a little bit peaceful . But for that i need a job . for a job i need to forget everything and start applying . I can't seem to move on , and everyday i am getting more and more depressed since she left

what can i do ?

Answer 1

Please go to your Dr and tell him how you feel. You got nothing to lose.

Answer 2

It seems like you need to start thinking about your self and getting yourself straightened out first before you can worry about anyone else. You need to go talk to someone one. Counselor, therapist whatever. You need to work some things out that happened to you in your past and maybe the can help you figure out why that girls parents don't want her with you. I am sure they are not as you say they are. They are probably just very protective of her and want the best for her. And there is some reason why they have a problem you. My guess would be the fact you have no job at your age. You need to go out get a job, get counseling for your past and prestent self, buy a house, and then a girls parents wouldn't be so protective over there daughter being with you because you are able to provide her emotionally and financially which yes matters. Speaking from a very young mom with 3 girls. Oh and get your cousin some help to. How loud exactly did you get. Sometimes when your young situations seem more extreme than they are.

Answer 3

I say stop thinking of all the bad things.. Think of good things to motivate you worry about moving out and bettering yourself. You don't want to be stuck in that hell forever right so that should be your motivation. As for the girl t here must of been a reason why you didn't trust her.. If it was just you in the wrong then I have no comment on that but if it was her then you can't necessarily blame yourself. Stop acting like you don't want the things you really want. Getting abused whether it is physical or mentally it is abuse. You need to get out of that situation.

Answer 4

Yes it is a good idea to move out. Talk to a psychologist would be good to help you get over your depression. Even though you lack motivation, you need to force yourself up and out the door. The fact that she left doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, it just means you weren't meant to be with her for any longer than what you were. Force yourself to focus. It's hard when you don't want to that's why I say force it. Nobody can help you until you get off your butt and start helping yourself. The psychologist can also help you deal with the abuse you and your cousin endured. Now consider yourself led to water, now it's up to you if you're going to drink or not. (Metaphor) Good luck!

Answer 5

Such a long expression of anger, confusion and treachery. this seems that you are really lost and you have lost control over your life. You need to do meditation. Just start with a simpler count down method (Famously known as Jose Silva method) I've listed its simplified method on a blog you can go there and learn the method. gopaaldhussa.blogspot.com Start meditation and soon everything would be normal. Take care

Answer 6

Look, this is what you need to do. Stay focused. Start something new in your life and devote most of your attention to it. I know it is hard to focus when you feel the way you do, hell I've suffered from depression most of my life (just no one really knows how bad, cause I keep it to myself). The main thing is to not think about all those issues you have and focus on something new, like a job. Start out small, go to Mc Donald's or something, basically a job with small amount of responsibilities. Once you feel better move on. Take small steps, I know it's hard to stay focus and concentrate on things, but if you want to move out and move on with your life it is something you need to do. If I can do it, so can you.

Answer 7

Please get some type of counseling to help you deal with your feelings,and start doing things that get your mind off your ex. Maybe you scared her too and didn't realize it. You need some help to rid yourself of anger and you have to know that your abuse you received as a child contributes to you anger as an adult and you need to stop the cycle. You are in charge of your life and I know it is hard to get over somebody you love but you have to know that you shouldn't want somebody that doesn't want you. You will find somebody who is right for you and then you will be glad you had to travel down a road that was once painful to get to your true love. Have faith that things will get better it's the only way to make it through the day. Take it one day at time. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

hey bud... im sorry to hear all that but just try to keep your head up.... maybe talk to this girl and let her know how much she means to you..... as far as your family, i dont know what to say.... i know its easier said than done but look for your happiness by trying to change... what needs changing on your part... or on the things arond you..... try to find something that will make you happy and pursue it ..... yea just make yourself the best you can be... your reward will benifit yourself AND might get down a better road with the whole girlfreind thing..... just keep your head up and have faith that everything will turn out good... everthing happens for a reason... and Gods timing for everything is perfect.... i know from the experiance...forgiving is hard.... but do it anyway... believe me youll feel a lot better... if you hold on to it its just tearing YOU up....do it before it's too late. Forgive but never forget, never ever forget... because that's what makes you who you are!!! well i hope everything turns out for the best!! =]....

Answer 9

Go to counseling at a church they normally will give you a certain amount of hours for free. I was depressed for long time but I woke up and decided to be in control of my life and me being what they think I am is letting them win. So they are now on my "fu** you list" and I have proven what they thought of me was totally wrong. There is a point in your life where you need to stop blaming others for your problems. I know this is not easy but it needs to be done. When your depressed at home doing nothing your not hurting anyone but yourself.

Answer 10

Pain and trouble is temporary. It WILL get better as time passes. When you're going through a trial it seems like it goes on forever. I know what it's like to look at a beautiful sunny day and not feel anything. What worked for me was forcing myself to accomplish tasks REGARDLESS of how I felt....you HAVE to get up and get moving. This world needs you to make it a better place.....My daughter went through so much growing up (divorce, fighting, a wicked stepmom, loss of loved ones etc...severe depression....anxiety.)....she struggles with the blues from time to time but she turned her struggles into strengths.....she's in college and is becoming a counsellor. It takes time and effort to change anything in life and change is NOT impossible. All of this will pass.

Answer 11

Check it out dude. You need to man up and get your **** straight. Quit being so pitiful for yourself. You can control what other people do but you do control what you do. IF your sitting around waiting for people to change they are probably doing the same thing for you. So what are you going to do? Feel sorry for yourself, or getting off your butt, do something you can be proud of and live the life you want?