She still has her mom to help, but to make things less weird is there anything I should do to help her through this time or just let her mother deal with it. Never had to deal with this before? Serious question no dumb answers or smart A** ones please.
2007-07-26 05:26:36 · 18 answers · asked by blublazx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dont get me wrong I understand its weird that I know. I know because her mom told me. I just want to help her out. The answers are great and I completly understand what all of you are saying. I will respect her privacy and only help her out if she comes to me. Otherwise I will ignore it. Thanks that was a lot of help.
2007-07-26 05:53:24 · update #1
First, I want to commend you on being a good dad! But 12 year olds are VERY sensitive. She probably does not even want you to know! Let mom handle this one. You can help by being understanding to her mood swings and attitude right now! :)
2007-07-26 05:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is very thoughtful of you and I don't think most dads would even care, and if they did they wouldn't try to find out what they can do. This shows that you are a very caring parent. Your daughter will always be close to you.
When I started the first time I was 13. I begged my mom not to tell my step-dad. She did of course. She said honey I have to tell him. I am going to be buying more pads and everything.
My suggestion is to understand her and help her. Don't talk to her about this. It will only embarass her. My dad still tells us girls (when seeing a used pad and mom's not on it) that we are being overly emotional and we need to be more like mom when she is on it...he gets rude sometimes...he has no idea what it is like...anyway just be supportive don't throw her actions up in her face. She is dealing with a difficult side of being a girl. It's hard enough but when you get critisized it is really hard.
~Been there, Done that~
Again You're a great Step-dad
P.S. Don't get me wrong I have a great step-dad. We have a good relationship. So good that I call him dad. He has been there for me since I was eight and I really love him for that. She will love you to.
2007-07-26 15:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is how old i was when i first started , i'm sure my mom told my stepdad but i was unaware of it.I think that is the best way to handle it just act like u know nothing of it and only help her if she asks which i really don't see happening.The ages between 12-16 are very fragile stages in a girls life b/c SO many changes are going on and u look goofy and everything is misproportioned and everything seems to embarass u.Don't take anything personal it will pass, i'm 19 now and i think back like"Damn, i was such a little *****!" lol.
2007-07-26 12:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by lindz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didnt want my stepdad knowing that I just got my period. I think it is for the woman to explain to her daughter what this means and how to handle the situation that will come every month.
You stepddaughter would probably feel strange talking to you about it, since you never went through it, and she feels more comfortable talking to her mom and being able to ask her questions about it.
I say just ignore it and let her be. Let her mother deal with it, it will be the best for all of you.
2007-07-26 12:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mami 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first let me say i think it's so sweet that you want to help her. that can be a very trying time for a 12 year old. but the best thing you can do is just act as if nothing happend. don't change your routine. you don't want her to feel awkward (because you're a guy), and you don't want her to feel like everyone is making a big deal out of it. but also keep in mind that if she asks you for help (like buying pads for her) be there to help her. so the next step is to go to mom also and let her know too if there's anything you can do to help you're there!
2007-07-26 12:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by keimari2007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is go to the store. make sure you know exactly what type and brand and size is necessary. you could also send the two women in your life out to dinner so they can celebrate your daughters new womanhood. let your daughter know you are there if she needs you .do not say the word period or anything similar to your daughter. she is going to be embarrassed about you knowing she started to begin with. she is one very lucky young lady to have a dad that cares enough to ask . good luck dad. i don't believe in step and it does not sound like you act like a step. you are going to be good at this.
2007-07-26 12:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by busted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're very sweet and sensitive to want to help, but dads are supposed to ignore this phase of a young woman's life, unless asked specifically for help.
If she complains, mom's not available, hot pad or hot water bottle, ibuprofen up to 800 mg or midol and encourage her to sleep.
My bet is that you'll be the daddy walking her down the aisle.
Debbie
Not medical personnel
TX Mom
2007-07-26 12:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First have your wife discus with her your knowing and willingness to help if ever needed. That way if your wife isn't around and she needs anything she won't be as embarrassed if she does need to turn to you. That is something major in her life and it shouldn't really be handled like a secret. On the other hand just don't push to hard. if your wife lays the ground work on this subject and you are there for the "just in case you need me times," she should know that and if she needs you she will come. Just handle maturely.
2007-07-26 12:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by bbygyrl_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not to do anything. As she is having her mother let her handle everything. Even real fathers shoul not involve in this matter and as a step father involving yourself in this thing may result into entering your daughter's (step) privacy. That may raise an iota of doubt in your wife's eye towards your integrity. So to avoid such a weird and confusing state of affair just let they hanle the situation.
2007-07-26 12:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Gaps 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok yes it is a women's issue but some girls don't have their mom's and for a dad to know and understand is a little hard. 1st don't get close and wanna talk about it DON'T. we hate it. just take her out for dinner DON'T talk about her period. if her mom hasn't already gotten everything she needs then take her to the store and buy them for her. LET her pick them out and don't suggest the cheap ones we know you dad's. let her buy some make up or perfume or body gel. MAKE HER feel good.
you'll catch on evenatually AND don't talk about it with your friends & definatley don't tall your daughters friends.
GOOD-LUCK HOPE I HELP
WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE!
2007-07-26 12:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by єנg (ѕσмєвσdу тσ lσνє] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋