well me and my b/f have been with each other for over 6 months now, but have liked each other since last year, but waited until we knew each other better to go out... his birthdays next month, im getting him a new U600, he doesnt know about it, but some of my friends say that i shouldnt spend so much money on him, it hasnt been long enough, and what if we break up, but i really want to get him it, becasue i know he'd really like it, you think i should get it???
2007-07-26 05:10:50 · 20 answers · asked by jess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jess if it feels good then go for it. Why worry about what other's have to say. Sounds like you believe that he will appreciate it so if you can afford it then go for it.
2007-07-26 05:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel this question is not so much about the gift but more about how committed it might make you seem with him too. If your birthday hasn't come up yet, I think it's best that you shouldn't spend so much on him because well, it'll put pressure on him as to how serious the relationship is becoming. On the other hand, if after knowing him now for almost 2 years, you think he won't think that way, then go ahead and give him the present and NEVER, EVER use it to your convenience in future arguments. A gift is a gift and unless you made the gift you can't exactly say that a new U600 was a proof of your love towards him!
2007-07-26 12:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by JD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When we like someone we want to spoil them and make them feel like a million bucks. That is normal but we need to excercise restraint in some cases. Personally, I would only do that for someone I had been involved with for a much longer time.
But if you feel you must then go ahead. However, be prepared to not even bat an eye when he calls someone you feel he shouldn't on his new U600.
Are you reciprocating for something great that he did for you? That's not to say you can't do what you can afford but what if he can't afford to do something like that for you? Giving a gift like that is sometimes intimidating and the other person really doesn't feel it is necessary. What about giving him something less expensive and taking it slow?
Love, support, understanding and respect are free and are the best gifts you can give. Now that along with a gift certificate for some music might just get you over.
I say don't do what you are planning. Your friends are right.
2007-07-26 12:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what a u600 is. If you bought him this and lets say 2 months from now you broke up(his fault of course)would you regret this gift. If not and you can afford it then I say its your money do as you please. My best friends boyfriend broke up with her after 3yrs and she had just bought him a $900 dollar computer and a $300 dollar recliner. So when he went out of town she took those items and moved them into her new apartment
2007-07-26 12:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by kokoqt74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U600 is a phone right? If you think and feel that it will show how you feel for him then go for it. But if you think he will just think of the phone as a gift and not the meaning behind it id think of a more meaning full gift. Good Luck!
2007-07-26 12:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think, do you think he will spend that much on you. If he is really worth it and you think he will spend that much on you then it is your money. But think do you honestly think that being with him for 6 months is going to tell you if you will be with him forever or if in a few months he is going to take off with an expesive gift?? THink about it before deciding
2007-07-26 12:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Libby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For love I don't think anything is expensive. There is no question that you should get it if you must.
However what I believe in is that you are the one who should be showered with love & expensive toys, flowers and gifts. I don't think a guy should deserve anything at the point of boyfriend & girlfriend stage.
If you guys are married... then I'd say go for it if you think he deserves it. but at this point.. I really don't think it is a good idea....
But the bottom line is.. it really is your choice..
2007-07-26 12:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by kitakits.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-07-26 12:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by tara9smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wrong. Men are supposed to pursue women. Women should not be the pursuers!!! To do this is like buying his love. Let him pursue you. Men are meant be the hunters. You are making things too easy for him. He will lose interest in you if you chase him and shower him with gifts. Life is intended for it to be in reverse of this pattern...
2007-07-26 12:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by ruthie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL WHY U THINK U GUYS WILL BREAK UP???? SO IT JUST MEAN THE FOUNDATION THAT U GUYS BUILD IS NOT THAT STRONG......OTHER WORDS U HAVE A BIG DOUBT IN THIS RELATIONSHIP
nope....don't do it......i used to be like u buying stuff for the bf.....then later on if we broke up....u will remember giving thingS to him THAT SEEMS THAT HE DIDN'T APPRECIATE....trust me things that u give them they will like it BUT THAT DOESN'T COUNT FOR THEM TO FALL INLOVE FOR U...
if u really want your man to fall for u....U SHOULD JUST NEED TO RESPECT HIM, BE NICE TO HIM PLUS DON'T SHOW HIM THAT YOUR WORLD EVOLVED ON HIS...OTHER WORDS OBSESS ON HIM.....
girl just save the money.....u need that....if u really want to give something to him....get him something that it is cheaper......also think about it...DO YOU THINK HIS WILLING TO SPEND THAT MUCH MONEY FOR U??? GOOD LUCK
2007-07-26 12:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋