So I met this guy at a concert and didn't really like him too much, but my friend said he's a good guy and i should give him a chance...so hey I did it and had a lot of fun and it went on from there.
Hung out a couple times a week, but we both are the type to have our own lives and spend time with just friends and everything was going good for almost three months and then he randomly says someone came back into his life and it's not over like he thought so he can't date me anymore but he still wants to hang out and be friends....
I started really liking him cause he's a great person, but a big part of me just wants to win him over...I just don't know how to...or should i just move onto the next?!?!!?
2007-07-26 04:52:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the line “something came back into my life” is a clear sign that an old flame is back in the picture. And since you admitted that you too had relations, I can see where you now have an attachment to this dude. Now when it comes to this kind of stuff there is a huge grey area. He now has to decide between two women, and you have to wrestle with the thought of him with another woman, and him rejecting you after you too were intimate. The best approach here is to be blunt with this dude. Tell him exactly how you feel about him, even it’s not madly in love, but very interested. This way he knows exactly where you are coming from and there is no guessing on both of your parts. Hope this helps.
-Ty
2007-07-26 05:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he probably broke up with an ex a little..or maybe a long...time ago and then was moving on and met you, you guys hung out etc...And then she came back and he still loved her a lot. And from what you wrote it sounds as though you both weren't all that close....I don't know if you can win him back if he's in love with someone else..think about it...would you really want to stay with someone who's in love with somebody else?
Sadly...things happen, and people break of for all different reasons, the best thing to do is try and move on and find someone better!!
~good luck
2007-07-26 12:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Nifty_250 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he comes back into your life, that means he want you more than the other person. If he doesnt, it wasnt meant to be. You will find someone else eventually. Dont get stuck on one guy. Its a big chance that you might get hurt if you do.
2007-07-26 11:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by granberry56789 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on a date w/ another guy @ the same place he is and try 2 hava good time. he'll c how much he misses u and want 2 get back w/ u. he should've broke up w/ his previous girlfriend but he didnt so maybe he's like, not worth it.
2007-07-26 11:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by On-a-Boy-Fast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still wants to hang out, find out whether he likes you too or not. If the indications are there , go for the big move.
Better to have done it , rather than never done it.
2007-07-26 11:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Professor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to make this kind of decision. but you dont want to force him to choose you over her. let him know how you feel about it. ask if he could reconsider but dont try to win him back. let him know that if things dont work out for him you will be there if you are willing to wait for him. otherwise it might be good to move on but thats always a painful process.
2007-07-26 11:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rhaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, you can't compete with an ex or previous relationship. If he really wants you, he'll figure it out and let you know. He knows where to find you.
2007-07-26 11:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by David B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy is going back with someone he had a former relationship with, you can't force him to break it off.
it's best to live and let live.
you have to decide if being "friends" and hanging out is healthy for you. if not, maybe you might consider staying away from him.
2007-07-26 11:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont try to win him over, guys like that. he will use you.
stay friends, if he leaves her, go for it.
and every time he has a problem with her, remind him of how he should have stayed with you.
do not have sex with him while he is with her. you will get hurt.
(yes i know what your thinking, even though you didnt mention it)
2007-07-26 11:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to win his heart back. he threw you away for another girl. what makes you think he won't throw you away if he found another girl? find a new a guy, girl.
2007-07-26 11:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by IamherewhenIhavenothingtodo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋