What mental topical do you use to keep from getting emotional scars?

Answer 1

Well, that's a better way to put it than "emotional crutches".... but unfortunately, "emotional scars" tend to come from your response to other people and typically, you can't prevent yourself from GETTING them (same way that you can't prevent a child from being physically hurt)..... but you can help to heal them once you get them.

Different people deal with pain differently. Some are able to cope quickly and easily, and some take some time and effort to cope. My best suggestion is to get someone who will listen to you that you can just talk to. If none of your friends/family are able to just listen without giving lots of advice and/or trying to fix it right away, you may need to talk to a counselor.
I've been to a few different counselors... some are very helpful, and some are less helpful. The most important thing is to find someone to talk to so you can verbalize and work out your feelings so that "emotional damage" can heal easier and not become a deep "emotional scar".

Yes, it will take time and effort to heal once you've been hurt, but it's more than worth the effort you put into it as it's better to work through the pain and get rid of it than live with the pain for the rest of your life.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Well, I developed a forgetting trait when I was young which I didn't recognize until I was about 21. I cannot remember many things about my childhood, but also my teen years and now going into adulthood I still do it. If something bad happens it is literately a fog the next day, and gone by the third. I have also become quit emotionless when it comes to other people's feelings.

On the positive note any break up I've ever had has only made me upset for a day, a fog the second, and forgotten on the third.

Answer 3

Hello Eye:

Since I was a little girl I believe that I have built a brick wall that totally surrounds me and is much taller than I. Each brick represents a time in my life that I was either hurt and learned I had to protect myself or I realized that it was a situation I would be hurt so I quickly would place another brick in the wall (no Pink Flyod pun intended) as fast as I could for my own protection.

I still do this today. I realize that I should not build the wall still, that I should be tearing it down. I am still learning how to do this as it is extremely hard to loose the protection and to be vulnerable to pain and hurt again. But again, it is a process and I am working on it however so reluctant I am. Each brick I can remove represents an accomplishment toward my goal of not living with this wall or better name is fortress I have built.

Be safe and be well

Answer 4

As I approach life, I go at it with the attidude of "The Golden Rule": "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" and "Love your neighbor as yourself"
That places me in the frame of mind to "do no harm" As far as my emotional well being from my own actions, it leaves as little possibility of wounding on my side of relationships as possible.

For the most part I am a calm and easy-going person, but I will stand up for myself or another person if someone does harm or wrong against us.

I have learned both patience and forgiveness.
I do my best to step back, take a moment, and look at the situation from the point of view of "The Big Picture" and, "Will this matter 5 years from now?"

This is not to say that I have not experienced emotional scars, because I have. Since that time I have learned to not "take it" when abuse is pointed at me. I will stop it, or get out of the situation or the relationship, using Tough Love if necessary, minimizing the emotional scarring.

AND, when scarred emotionally, I seek to resolve, to forgive, to continue to live my life, to turn to my faith in God, and seek healing through a counselor, if necessary.

Where did I learn to practice life in such a way? In Church.

Answer 5

You can't avoid getting the emotional scars unless you are a "Dianetic Clear". Thats the only way.

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Answer 6

Everyone has emotional scars, there is no way around it, its all in how you deal with it.

Maybe therapy would benefit you greatly, you will be able to cleanse and purge all the toxic emotional scars with direction from someone who is impartial.

Answer 7

Scars are unavoidable.
So...I take Zoloft; it keeps me from obsessing over the severity of the scars.

Answer 8

I sit down and I ask myself, "Can you control this or change this in any way?" and if the answer is no, I don't worry about it. If you can't control something, it's not your fault and whoever it is needs to control their own lives. If it can be changed, chances are, it's partly your fault that things are so messed up and you can change it. My sister is a drug addict and my older sister has tried to kill herself. My father never wanted kids and my Mother thinks God is going to swoop down from heaven to save us all. None of this is my fault, none of this is in my control. So I document everything and one day I'll write a book. I'm active duty navy, going to college, and happily married. I've overcome my trailor trash family and you can escape whatever it is that is hurting you.

Answer 9

i just repeat it's could be worse and look at my goals and make sure they are close to me!
and start to focus FOCUS on what is important reather then emotions!
that way i can brush the little stuff off easer and go into a large problem or emotional battel with a clear head!
that and i meditate!

Answer 10

Mental topical? Lexapro and therapy. Takes much time and effort, but it works. Good luck, my dear.