this guy i have reconnected with recently (who i have known for 5 years now) is always asking me to stay over his house. He knows Im a virgin, and I won't give it up that easily. He hasn't told me he's attracted to me, but I can tell he is by the way he always wants to get pysical with me. Lately, he has been the one to call me more ofter, where as before I was the one calling. (I stopped calling as often b/c he told me he was talking to other girls too but not sleeping with then). What does he want from me exactly. I know that everyone is going to say SEX...but is that all he really wants? Im just tired of the 'cat and mouse' game here. I've told him before that I like him and he told me something about "we cant just be BF and GF like that. Thats not how it works." Was he turning me down nicely, or implying that we need to get to know each other better? This is giving me a headache, and....another pain in my ***. Can someone help?
2007-07-26 04:48:12 · 7 answers · asked by thatwasme_then87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and yes, before anyone asks....we are over 18.....both 20 yrs old. He always intiates the physical contact by the way. When I was in his car once, i kept changing radio stations and i got a lil too hyper.....we joked around and then all of a sudden he is wanting to hold my hand.....is he flirting? or playing games......or genuinely actually is liking me more...?
2007-07-26 04:48:41 · update #1
Wellll I'd say that he really is interested in getting to know you better and maybe really wants to become friends, flirt a bit and maybe lead into something serious....except for the thing where he keeps asking you to stay over at his house...i mean if your not dating him and he hasn't even told you that he likes you then the only reason to stay over at his house WOULD be for sex....so honestly he could just be looking for a one night stand... and maybe likes the fact that your a virgin and that you provide a "challenge"
If you really like him, and you want it to be something more, next time he asks you to stay over at his house, ask him why? and tell him that your looking for a serious relationship, so unless he's willing to become bf/gf then nothings happening at his house.
~hope that helps!
2007-07-26 05:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Nifty_250 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to have sex with you. But that's how all guys work. Even if they don't show it, they're thinking it. That may not mean that he doesn't want to be with you in an emotional sense too, Personally, I think that once people have reached a certain age (the age in my mind is a bit older than 20, but anyway) every relationship is sexual. If a guy wouldn't give it up after at least 3 months, I probably would stop seeing him. Maybe I'm a jerk, but I can kind of see where he's coming from too. After your virginal status changes you'll understand what I mean.
2007-07-26 11:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by misanthropic_cynic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some possibilities:
1. He could be playing a game just to get you to think about him often (it is obviously working -- you are getting a headache from all of your thoughts about him). Some dating books recommend this strategy, in moderation, as a way of building attraction with the opposite sex.
2. Maybe he is trying to use you for sex, and he is too ashamed to admit that all he wants is a one night stand, because you will say "no". So he is hoping that something will happen spontaneously if he just hangs around you enough.
3. He is confused and doesn't know what he wants.
2007-07-26 11:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only after 1 thing and you already know what that is. If you give it to him, then you'll find he won't be so attentive anymore and then YOU will feel like crap. If that's all he wants, then look at him and say "Don't let the door knob hit ya where the good lord split ya" !!!!!
2007-07-26 11:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes talking to other girls, but not sleeping with them. and not getting any from you. riiiiiiiiiiight. dump him
2007-07-26 11:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by c dyan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants you
2007-07-26 11:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea.
2007-07-26 11:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by IamherewhenIhavenothingtodo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋