there is a high school Girl/friend that lives up the street 4 houses and rents of of his mom and dad. she is a pest,a pain, she used to come here and just hang out but before i moved in with him i caught her kissing him. i put an end to it all and i am sure it will never happen again. now i know they e mail each other and that is my problem. i find it unnnecessary. what do i do??
2007-07-26 04:33:06 · 22 answers · asked by i_am_sure_48 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok i need to elaborate on this. i am 49 he is 53. he treats me like gold.we met thru an internet dating site in januasry 2006. i moved in august 2006. the kiss happened before i moved in. nothing has happened since and the e mails are infrequent. i even have gone on his web email and read them with out his knowing ,i know that isnt right, no lectures please .......the emails are nothing, no sexual inuendos, just every day stuff.i love this man with all my heart and soul,i am a very insecure person with low self esteem. he knows this and really puts me on a pedestal. i came from a very abusive marriage where my husband ended up committing suicide.basically i am very happy and wish i could get over being so insecure. anyhow i just wanted to clarify all this. we wont get married due to the fact that i am on disability and i can collect my dead husband Social security when i turn 50. plus i have a child still in college and she can get more help with it if i stay single.
2007-07-26 05:38:24 · update #1
I would'nt worry about it.... besides he love's you not her ! why do women think cuz a guy talks with or to women its all sexual ? do you realize most guys could talk with women 60% of the time all day long... at work . Lunch ! The bigger question ! Why would we.. hello their isnt enough time in the day to listen to most womens problems why would we guys waste the time on our free time... work . Lunch !! And i mite add reading his email hello ! thats really private dont do that anymore..... good luck !!
2007-08-02 22:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be a little more trusting. Yes you said that he kissed this person, but that was in the past and you mentioned that you are sure that it will not happen again.
I am a Christian so I have to tell you upfront that I do not agree with this premarital relationship but its your call.
Anyway, you should not try to control his life because of your insecurities, but on the grounds that you caught them kissing before, you should convey to him that you are not comfortable with the relationship that he shares with this woman.
However i do believe that you should realize that you cannot keep on punishing yourself for something you obviously had no control over. Your ex killed himself and this was a very selfish and cowardly act. You should not waste the rest of your life paying for his mistake. He took his life, you didn't.. It was his decision not yours OK. so move on with your life as you deserve it.
All the best
2007-07-26 07:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are both Catholic you could go have pre-marriage counseling with the priest. Tell him the flirting has got to stop and make a solid decision and stand by it. You should have enough self worth no matter your financial situation to demand faithfulness. If there is no faithfulness or trust there will never be a marriage.
2007-08-02 07:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I know that is a tough sutuation. What you can do in this case is to show the ex-GF that she is the LOSER in this case by being extra sweet to your BF whenever you see her watching you and your BF. This girl wants to WRECK your relationship by doing these things. Show her that you are not affected by her flirtings on your BF. Don't show the other that you are upset , but be extra romantic to your BF. On the other hand, if you think your BF is a born cheater....still do the above suggestions but start thinking if you can live with this man for the rest of your life.
2007-07-26 04:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by pinaytechie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends had the same problem, if he is still emailing her and talking to her he may be cheating on you. If he kissed her then it is a yes. Not to be a downer, but he is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Seperate yourself from the situation, or just tell him it is bothering you...if he loves you then he will listen.
2007-07-26 04:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend! You say you caught her kissing him, how do you know he wasn't kissing her! A man like that can not be trusted! And considering they still email, its like a giant red flag just waving itself in your face, you man is not respectful to you, so move on and find one that is!
2007-07-26 04:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by MT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's her or me and that's that first she was a pest,then they are caught kissing, now their e-mailing somethings going on they are going through to much to stay in touch with each other you better find out what's playing out in his head because he is who you are involved with not her and i guarantee you that he's more of the problem than she is because he is letting it go on.
2007-07-26 04:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really think that nothing will happen between them then why should he have to give up one of his friends?
sounds like they use to hang out together a lot and that they are good friends.
It may be just me but ive always had a problem with girls who think that its their right to choose who their boyfriends friends are.
2007-07-26 04:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by xxx P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... let's see, YOU put an end to it? You're never sure it will happen again? But they are emailing. You, my friend, are sadly deluded. YOU may have put an end to it, but THEY apparently have not. He's still messing with her.
2007-07-26 04:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what your worth lil mama. No one should have to put up with that. If he doesn't appreciate what he has then the next man will.
2007-07-26 04:37:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋