if a girl cheats on you and tells you she was sorry and it was a mistake and you know she means it?

Question

This girl i really liked cheated on me and i know she means it when she says she sorry and it was a mistake, but i cant trust her for anything now, even though i still have verrryy strong feelings for her. Are these just left over feelings?
Also i want to tell her how i feel but i cant bring myself to tell her anything. Is our relationship over?

Answer 1

Screw that fricking hag. She cheated on you man! Accept your negative feelings for her and go with them. If you want to tell her something... tell her she's a ho!

Answer 2

It depends on you.

Can you forgive her and hope that someday you will be able to trust her again? Will you become paranoid or anxious and wondering if she's out fooling around on you behind your back? Will you worry or become full of jealousy when you can't talk to her or see her when YOU want to? Can you let go of the past and move forward without constantly worrying that she will do something like this again?

True, she has to earn back your complete love and trust and you're a good dude for wanting to her a second chance. Some people DO change. Even some "players" will give up their ho-ing lifestyle if they find someone they truly connect with and who has most of the qualities they like. So, under the right circumstances and depending on the line-up of your stars, she could be a woman you might not want to let go. Your soulmate. BUT...

She's gotta earn the RIGHT to be back with you. If the shoe was on the other foot, you would have to prove your love and regain her faith in you, so she must do the same. Now, the best way to this is rebuilding your friendship and working on giving her what she needs... And vice versa. Both of you have to strive to make and effort to make each other happy if this thing is to work. So, don't try to hold a dark cloud over head but let her know cheatin' ain't cool and that you don't appreciate being "played-out" like that.

Now, if you can't get over the past and every time you look at this girl, you think of what she did to you, then let her go. You'll be miserable and angry at her for a while 'cause just like they say, "There's a thin line between love and hate." But it's best that you endure that anger alone (I mean not with her) because you don't want to be with her and you two are fighting and arguing all the time. You'll make yourself look bad and you'll add nothing but madness and confusion to your life.

So, think about it. But work on rebuilding your friendship. That's the most important thing. If you can be at least be friends, then maybe things will grow from there - a peaceful friendship or loving relationship.

So, it depends on you. How do you really feel about it? Can you let it go?


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Also know that peer pressure can play a part in this too if your friends and family know about this. Some will advise you to break-up with her and forget about her. Some will say that she is playing you for a fool or that she is this or that and a player, blah, blah, blah. But you should know more about this girl than them IF you have really been paying attention to her and getting to know and letting her getting to know you. That could be a reason why this happened - you didn't get to know each other well although you've been together for so long. You have yet to discover each other's true wants and needs - and rules too - and so it has come to this. But if you truly love the girl, don't listen to what other people say or care what they think when it comes to your relationship. If you want the girl, give her another chance. If you don't, just be friends only and leave it at that. But YOU need to make the choice. It's YOUR life. Not your friends or family and nobody else can live it but you.

Answer 3

It's all for the best mate. I know how you feel - belive me. Leave her.

She cheated on you. That is the end of any true relationship. Ppl should not do what they are sorry for - it's nothing like a mistake, its a delibarate act. You just don't go out with another guy and mistakenly have sex with them - it's deliberate - it's planned, leave such ppl, coz they are like murderers , they murder your heart - it's all premeditated.

Sometimes, the right thing is the hardest to do, move on. There is a better person for you out there who is the best and the right one for you.

What u r having is a hangover - it would come to pass. Belive me. Belive me - TRUE LOVE WILL FIND YOU, AND WHEN IT DOES - IT WILL NEVER LIE OR CHEAT, MAKE YOU CRY OR HURT. IT WILL BE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING YOU HAVE EVER KNOWN. Give time it's chance.

Good luck mate & God bless!

Answer 4

I think you answered your own question when you said you still have very strong feelings for her. You can't just turn those feelings off because you think maybe you should. You want to forgive her so do it! Start fresh and try not to dwell on it or throw it in her face. Trust will return in time if she doesn't make any more mistakes. If she does, you need to tell yourself that you are worthy of more and walk away with pride.

Answer 5

dude, in a relationship, both of you will make mistakes. you need to expect that the moment you decided to be with her because no relationship in this world is perfect. if you really love her, forgive her and accept her as who she is. give her another chance. i know she had hurt you, but relationship is about trust, love & forgiving. I'm sure she wouldn't do it again if she really regretted her mistakes and she would love you even more after this because you showed her that you love her more than anything. all the best in the future, mate.

Answer 6

The relationship isn't over until you make it over. If you feel like you want to be with her and try and make things work then maybe you should give it a try but if you really feel like maybe it's best if the two of you go your seperate ways then that also could be the best thing to do. You just have to follow your heart and decide weither or not it's worth another try. Good Luck

Answer 7

Most of the answers you are getting are saying it is time for her to go. Listen to them. Tell her it is over because she violated trust and no matter how sorry she may be. A mistake like that is unforgivable because you will question her intentions for the rest of you life. Time for her stuff to move to the curb.

Answer 8

Why would you wnat to put yourself in that kind of situation again. I think there are a lot of other women out there that wouldn't do this. She probably got rejected by the other guy and is running back to you, figuring that you will always be there, and if you take her back then she is most likly going to keeo on doing the same thing, b/c she knows you iwll forgive her. find someone that is good for you.

Answer 9

The relationship is over because she threw away the trust you had in her. You need to leave her and not look back. I bet you anything that she is just sorry she got caught.

Answer 10

thats up to you. if you think its something you can work past and regain her trust then go ahead and try. but i'll let you know its REALLY hard. i tried to do that with my ex. i caught him, humilliated him and then tried to let it all pass. we went on about 2 or so more years, but i resented him so badly and i never again trusted him, but he was a habitual liar so that didnt help. but yeah, people make mistakes and you cant just cut everyone off who accidently hurts you. otherwise you'll be alone forever.

Answer 11

I run away from cheaters...that feeling just aint there for me after that

without trust what is there.....that will turn you into an ****** trying to keep track of her because you can't trust her