how do you move on from a long, healthful, and a used-to-be-happy relationship?

Question

we grew up together, we like memorize each other already, you know what i mean? and we both know that what we had was strong, unique, and real. but then he has a girlfriend now. i had a boyfriend too. but he really is different. he keeps on haunting me... im afraid that i'll never be able to move on...

Answer 1

Well for one your still acting like the relationship was great when well you guys are not together anymore so something failed. IF you really felt everything went on the up and up well you wouldn't need to move on, you would of already let go. Which I'm afraid to say is what you not doing, letting go. See humans can't "Move On" thats just a cute cliche' saying people have that always leaves both parties quite and in slicents because its a bs statement. People usually follow that one with your better then him, you'll find someone else, o get over it, just basic emotionless bs comments. Ether way until you let go of the hope of having him again, or starting a relationship with him again, you get to suffer! Yep! I know because I've been there and so has so many people I know! Which is bad because your with a boyfriend which makes me think you might also be dealing with the sting of comparing the old to the new, which will depress you everytime, that too I know. Ether way the sad, sad, SAD truth of love, let go, and (cough, cough)"Moving On" is that its not going to happen unless you find/have/make a relationship that is deeper, more meaningful, more intense, and lack of a better word more right... sorry those are the breaks kiddo, you do have one little trick thou...... LOVE YOURSELF!!!!! That makes it so much easier, just don't get arrogant, know the balance, and expand that mind! Also sorry hunnie but love is something we give ourselves, not given to us, so its all in your head, all your mind game, its your universe! Control thy self!