Pls help me...?

Question

I'm turning into a very bitter person nursing a very bad 'loathing' of people.

I think it all stems from home. My mum is crazy. I just got hit by her because I didnt comb my hair. She hit me with her towel and my face stings.. That is not the only thing she's done to me..

Whenever she's angry, she throws everything of value to me, my handphone, my ipod (which I am using as a thumbdrive to store THREE years' worth of school documents - i'm still schooling) she nearly broke my ipod, which I spent $500 on five years back..

Pls take a look at my other question - http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ak9EJkuxiDbrAddbQUMvKunty6IX?qid=20070722015433AAGFB7Y

I'm sick of this, and I'm sick of cringeing badly whenever she comes near me. I hate her. I just taunted her with: "you want to hit me, come on, hit! every time angry always like that" and of course, she hits me.

She's menopausal. Are all menopausal women like that?

Answer 1

It is up to you as to what you deal with. You can always turn it in as abuse and that would end it.
If that isn't an option for you then start putting your valued things where she can't find them right away.

Being bitter is your choice. It will ruin your life as you get older. We can't blame our choices on the things others do or say to us.

There maybe things in your moms life that get her stirredup. Learn to see the signs of this happening and opt out before it is full blown.

When she gets like that you could take off to a safe place and then call her later when you figured she has calmed down. Let her know you love her and you will be home as soon as she is ready to calm down and stay that way.

Answer 2

Sweetheart you do not need to suffer abuse like this. Is your father around if he is does he not intervene. Do you have a family relative that could help you? You could always call child services for help with this. Your mum maybe menopausal but she should not act like this with you. Many women have been through the menopause but did not hit their children. She needs to see a doctor and get help. I hope things improve for you, I will pray that they do.

Answer 3

Well I am so sorry you are having to deal with this horribly insensitive person. I grew up with 2 abusive parents, and it was very hard. At 17 years old my father put his hands on me for the last time, I packed my car at 5 in the morning and I moved out I had my own job, my own car and luckily my boyfriend at the time his parents let me stay in their spare room. I worked 2 jobs and eventually moved out on my own, it wasn't easy but it was very rewarding no one will ever treat me that way ever again.That was 23 years ago and I think I am a very strong person, I have 2 children of my own and I would not put my hands on them ever. Try and put a plan together and be strong it won't be easy but it will make you a much stronger person. Because my father has not respected my bouderies I have not spoke to him in 2 years, I still love him and wish him no harm but I do not have to tolerate his crap GOOD LUcK

Answer 4

Hi Hon... i answered your other question.....

Your mother seems to have emotional issues which she's not handling... or dealing with....

Instead she seems to take it out on others... you can't force her to feel better about herself or to behave more appropriately.

i'm sorry you're having these problems... all menopausal women aren't like this, no. there are hormone replacement medications (prescription and over the counter) which are helpfulfor some people.

if your mom is angry, avoid her.... there isn't anything else you can do when it comes to her moods.

i hope you get some good answers here.

Answer 5

Regardless of whether she is menopausal or not, it is no excuse to hit your child or anyone for that matter. She needs help. You should find someone at your school, church, or in your family you can trust, that can help you either a) get out of that situation or b)get your mom the help she needs.

Answer 6

i don't blame you its not your fault your turning into an angry person, easier said than done i know but you need to try speaking to your mum tell her what she is doing isn't right, ask her why she gets so angry she sounds as if she has problems.menopause is a hard time for a woman but this does not condone her behavior towards you. peak to someone close that you trust if she doesn't listen to you maybe they Will be able to help. all the best

Answer 7

she needs help talk to another family member you trust and let them know what is happening and you cant take it anymore if there is not a family member that will help see your councilor at school if you dont get help now it might go to far and someone will get serious hurt and you want be able to go back. good luck!

Answer 8

How old are you? tell a teacher maybe they could get DHS in to help or get you two to a counselor or something...man I hope things get better..Remember what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and God doesn't give you what you can't handle!!! Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

Family SErvices!!! This is abuse and NOT OKAY! Menopause is not an excuse to beat your kid.

Answer 10

dude wtf ... am i the only person reading this !!! Wouldn't u rather tell this to a very close friend.. instead of telling the entire yahoo network .. which incidentally is about 6 ml people.