I'll try and keep this short... My fiancee and I are building a new house and our possession date is two weeks before the wedding. He is going to move into our new house right after the possession and i'm not allowed due to my families beliefs...) His sisters are also going to be staying at our new house before i get a change to move in...
My fiancee wants to have the rehearsal dinner there, and I said i don't want to because it's a new house and i haven't had the change to live there before we have 40ish people over for dinner. I'm also worried because we will have NO lawn down yet and I don't want people walking around the house with food and wine...
Am I being selfish for not wanting to have a huge party at our new house before i even get a change to move in...?
2007-07-26 03:28:41 · 16 answers · asked by stephanie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
His sisters are staying at our house because they don't want to pay for a hotel when they come down to the wedding...so it will save them $$ if they stay at our house...but it just bothers me because i won't even be living there and then it won't feel like a new home when i move in...
2007-07-26 03:35:06 · update #1
we had a place booked and then they told us on saturday that they won't hold it for us anymore and we can move it into their lounge if we want...but then we won't be allowed to have our flower girl or ring bearer with us..so that's why he wants to have it at our house..and now i'm getting all stressed...ahh
2007-07-26 03:40:26 · update #2
well....did you discuss it thoroughly with your husband about how you really feel? its all about compromises and making do with what will work in the situation....of course you are entitled to your own feelings and opinion but also you also have to consider about the impact of your decision on other people.
it is also all right to take a stand for you...just make sure you fight the correct battles.
2007-07-26 03:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by m m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask yourself a couple of questions. Do you feel as though the people you have over will mess up the house? And is there somewhere else you can have the rehearsal dinner? If you have answered yes to both, then you are not in the wrong. People need to understand that this is your house and you have yet to add your personal touch. Just tell them that you do not feel comfortable, because the house will not be fully ready for a party yet. Enjoy your wedding and have a happy life as husband and wife.
2007-07-26 03:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Hannahs Mum-one on the way 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, I dont see a problem with having his sisters stay there as it does make more sense then them getting a hotel and wasting money when you have a whole house to live in, but if you have a problem with the house feeling not new becuase its being lived in them maybe you and your husband should have decided neither of you moves in until after the wedding. thats what I would have done. its only 2 weeks. as for the dinner....I do agree with you on that one. thats kind of rushing things becuase with finaly wedding things to do and setting up your home, the last thing you want to be doing is cooking for a bunch of people in your new home, especially before you get to add the final touches to it. I would have it somewhere else if you can.
2007-07-26 03:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would be feeling the same way. It's your brand new house and his sisters will be staying there before you do? No, wouldn't happen. Has your fiance already told them they could stay there or was this something he just ran by your first?
I also don't know if I'd want to have the rehearsal dinner there either.
2007-07-26 03:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't being selfish. It's wrong for him to move in there before you anyway. You guys should wait til the wedding is over and move in together. You are starting a new life together and it's both of your home. I would not be ok with my fiance moving on before me. It's supposed to be a special moment for the two of you to share together. Good luck!
2007-07-26 03:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by mommyoftwo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are right on. How can you be a good hostess when its not your home yet? Plus, its still going to be in a "moving in" state, and it wont be ready to hold all those people. Your fiance hasnt hosted a party before, right? Its better to get a big room at a restaurant or something.
2007-07-26 03:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so. It doesn't sound like your house will be in good enough shape to have company yet. I felt the same when we moved into our new house. I didn't want anyone over until it was decorated and felt like home. Have the dinner at a restaraunt instead.
2007-07-26 03:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiancee is being selfish not you. As far as his sister's staying at your home before you do, that's wrong and shows disrespect towards you. You need to sit and talk with fiancee about this and let him know your feelings. You don't want to start a marriage feeling resentful towards him or his sister's.
2007-07-26 05:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jones S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its your house to put your foot down have it at the other place lounge but make them compensate you for the trouble I'm sure the children will understand maybe that afternoon you could take them out for a special treat good luck
2007-07-26 04:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I don't know why your family would want to put you through that. Renting a room or hall would be so much less hassle for no more than what it costs. You might even be able to use the church social hall for little or no cost.
2007-07-26 03:37:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋