I've been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and he's still going on dating websites looking at profiles (mostly of half naked women). I've come to the conclusion (he doesn't admit to it) that this is his "porn" since it is free (he's a "frugal" person). I do have proof that he doesn't contact these women, but is this considered cheating or should I just blow it off and not be concerned?
2007-07-26 03:07:14 · 54 answers · asked by whenwillthelambsstopscreaming 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not cheating
maybe you should dress up half naked or him
if he wanted porn he would get it, not some dating profile things. jsut as k him why he looks and what you can do to be more of the woman he wants
2007-07-26 03:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by James 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Since there are plenty of non-dating websites with half(or more)-naked women, it's curious that you would think this was his Porn. I also haven't the foggiest idea how you could have "proof" that he is NOT doing something. An old understanding in Logic courses is that it is impossible to "prove a negative."
I'm not trying to tell you is IS trying to chet on you, but by beginning participation on a dating website IS a first step toward active interaction with another woman, and each step makes the next step just a little bit easier.
I don't have anything against on-line porn (many of which are just as free as the dating websites), and don't think that should worry you. I don't believe that is cheating, though other people present a reasonable "case" that it IS a form of cheating. But any activity on a dating website is definitely sign of the potential to get in real relationship trouble.
I'm sorry. It is NOT a good sign.
2007-07-26 03:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's not technically cheating, but I don't think that it's right. I'll admit that every now and then I go to dating websites to see if there is anybody I know on there (yes I'm nosy), but it's never been on a site where people are in various states of undress. It is kind of like porn, so that can be harmless, but the fact that these women are attainable (and willing) isn't so harmless. The temptation is there to meet these women. I wouldn't blow it off if I were you. Tell him that if he wants to look at porn then fine, but leave the dating sites alone. Heck, go buy him porn so he doesn't have to spend his money on it. Definately make sure that he isn't contacting them. If he is contacting them, I consider that cheating.
2007-07-26 03:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating when he is looking at naked women. Now, if he was looking up naked women to get with and do something, then you should be concern. Just as long he doesn't take it to the next level (as in starting to get to know these naked women), try not to stress over it.
However, if this is going to be affecting the relationship you two have, then you need to sit down and have a serious conversation with him on his obsession.
2007-07-26 03:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by fallenxangel2o9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating. He is trying to make you jealous, or to "put out" more, because you might worry.
Looking at "porn" is one thing, but looking at personal ads is another. It's kind of like this. Looking at porn is sort of like fantasizing over a celebrity -- they are "untouchable" to him. But looking at personal ads is like fantasizing about being with your friends -- the women in the ads are not "untouchable," they are available!
Real dating sites do not have half-naked women. The sites he is looking at are generally married women looking for affairs, or women who only want a sexual relationship. If he was seeing any of them, you would not want to ever be with him again.
I'm not sure why you say you have "proof" that he has not contacted any of them. You could have proof if he did, by finding emails, but you really cannot prove that he has not had contact.
I hate to say it, but even if you tell him he has to choose between you and the websites, he will not stop looking. He will do it more secretly, and you won't know until you catch him again.
Good luck!
2007-07-26 04:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a tip for you honey. There are many free porn sited he can go to and look at fully naked women, they are all over the Internet and is common knowledge for any guy but he has decided to go to dating websites and look at half naked women. He's lying and if he's not cheating yet, he will be soon.
2007-07-26 03:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn sites are one thing....and dating websites are another. He's considering his options and flirting without cost to the relationship. I wonder if he'd think it was cool if you did the same thing. You are making lots of assumptions--all for his benefit. It's amazing what excuses and justifications girlfriends come up with in order to hang on to the relationship. Put your own profile on the websites you know he is going on and see if you get a hit. You may be in for a surprise. I'd be concerned if I were you. Does he have a profile?
2007-07-26 03:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not considered cheating. He is a man and one day he will grow out of that. People who think that this is considered cheating need a reality check. What's the difference between looking at half naked women on the internet then looking at half naked women in the streets? It is not considered cheating he is just being a man.
2007-07-26 03:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's cheating.
However, I wouldn't like it if my husband was doing this because there are other websites that a person can watch porn for free. Try www.uselessjunk.com - there are some pretty gross videos on there but also plenty of porn.
Talk to him about it. Don't freak out and go all psycho but do let him know it's making you uncomfortable and steer him towards some other sites.
2007-07-26 03:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Hokie_Pokey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating! Looking at half naked women is normal for a guy! The singles sights sometimes have the best pictures because there are so many desperate women. remember hes just looking, he still is with you and i bet he adores you, I bet he enjoys touching you more then he does looking at those pictures. Muah!!
2007-07-26 03:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by stephanielovesmitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh that's a tricky one. What I would do personally, is set up a profile on the sites he uses and see if your husband will cheat with one of them.
Or you could go down the less devious route and just ask him straight out on the spot if he is thinking of cheating ect. If he's to defensive, avoids answering the question or plays the "im so insulted" card, then i'd be worried.
2007-07-26 03:11:22 · answer #11 · answered by Brightonboi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋