Should i try to make up with her or should i just walk away?

Question

Well, my fiancee (ex fiancee now) is 26 years old, and she lives in TX. I am 31 years old and live in SC. We have been engaged for a year now (well a little under). I called the whole thing off this past Friday for two things that she did that were the final straws in many. The two things were that i called her cell phone saying that i really missed her and needed to hear from her. Well that was Tuesday before i broke it off, and she hadnt called at all that week. The second one was a day after i called, i gave her a text message saying i DESPERATLY needed to hear i love you. Nothing came from her the whole week. So, midnight Friday i gave her a text message asking for my ring back. The whole time i thought it was her that didnt want to message me or call, but i just found out from her mom that she is the one that told her not to call or message me, and that really hurts and makes me mad. I know what im leaning towards, but could i have some input from other people out there

Oh and she wanted to call me the whole time

Answer 1

If I'm reading this right, your girl's mother told her not to answer you? What that tells me is, your girl can't think for herself. Momma still calls the shots. If that's true you need to move on and find a girl that's old enough to make her own decisions.
If momma is calling the shots, think about what kinda mother-in-law you'll be getting. Better find a nice gal in SC.

Answer 2

If you believe this woman really has any feelings for you at all then you need to find a way to talk to her, even if it means you taking a trip and paying her a surprise visit.
You then need to lay things out to her. The main thing being that the relationship is between you and her not her and her family or you and her family. She has to decide which she wants. Whether she wants you or whether she wants to be dominated by her family.
If she can't think on her own without parents getting in the middle then your relationship is doomed before it even gets off the ground and you might as well forget the whole thing

Answer 3

Are you saying it was her mom that told her not to call you or text you? You say she is 26 years old? This sounds strange to me, does her mom hold her phone hostage? Is your girl not an adult or what? You might want to have a talk with her mother and ask her why she would do such a thing. Then you need to talk with your girlfriend about acting like a grown woman. After doing all of this you need to sit back and take time to think if you really know what your future will be like with a girl who listens to mommy all of the time. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

She is 26!! Why is her mom telling her what to do? If she really wanted to be with you or talk to you she would. Would you really want to be part of a family like that anyway? I think you should move on and maybe find some one local. Long distance is to hard anyway especially if your engaged. Well good luck :)

Answer 5

Don't you feel that she should have a chance to explain herself, that would be the fair thing to do, i mean i understand that your upset, and how you feel,

But sometime things are out of our control, and to get mad and run off or get mad and want things back that's not really cool. she could of been sick or hurt or working or anything, and as you found out it was not her at all, it was her mom,

Maybe you need to speak with the mom and find out what the hay going on and why don't she want you speaking to her daughter, i mean she is not a kid she is 26 years old, it should be her choice of who she sees, maybe the problem is not with your women but her mom,

which is not cool at all, hope it all works out with you and her, take care :)))))

Answer 6

AWWWW you can tell your a sweet man<33

Get her back you love her don't you.!

Well yes you do and she does too..the only reason she didnt messsage or call back was becuase of her mom..Dont tht stop you at all you hear me!

If she loves you she will understand why you took the ring...Dont let her go...get her back asap...Becuase Im sure she doesnt want you to go...your her shining armer...Go get your princess..=]

Hope you two work out and best of luck !

Hope if you get married tht your wedding will be fantastic <33

Answer 7

It's sad to say, but I think you should break it off. Everything screams shaky about your relationship.

I'd say break it off, if you want to continue the relationship it might get better. If she can't stand up to her mom and answer an e-mail, then what does that say about her committment to you?

You have to make sure before you marry her that she will be by your side through tough times as well as good, just like you would be for her. This is a sure sign that she wouldn't be there for you.

Answer 8

Mom doesn't want her little girl moving away.

Ask her does she live you? If so, marry her as you planned.

If she loves her mom more, sadly, you are done, her family won't let her go.

Been there. It was tough, but i had to move on, the gal's family had her locked down like a dog chained in the yard.

I moved on, and married someone else that the family really liked me. But your deal, It happens, it's sad. Typically from Dads, but sometimes moms.

Good luck.

PS knock off the desperation. It's unmanly.

Answer 9

drop the hammer...1. its long distance which is hard enough. 2. a 26 year old that obeys her mothers absurd request to not talk to the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with...is not really in love.

Answer 10

if there's a will there's a way..if she really wanted to , she could have found a way to text you or call you despite her mom's objections ,but she did not.it seems that she is not that interested in your relationship.she is no longer a teenager, so i dont believe that her mom could stop her...but whatever your decision would be , its better to talk things out with her , for your peace of mind.