opinions wanted?

Question

I originally missed my mark with hooking up with this girl i met back in january. She has a long distance boyfriend (everybody knew it wasnt a good idea). Now I think I may have another shot. She complains that he doesnt visit enough and would rather spend money buying a truck rather then buying plane tickets to see her. So my question is, should I wait until they are completly broken up or make a move now? Serious answers only please. not because i think this is important, because i really don't, but because imature answers tend to get on my nerves

theyve only met face to face twice for a total of 5 days. see how rediculous this is?

jthrall,

I'm not a chick magnant or a stud muffin, just really unsure of what i want

Answer 1

Make yourself always available to her, call her just to see if everything is OK, Offer to buy her lunch (not in a I want you kind of way) Just be very attentive to her and eventually subconsciously she is going to realize that you are everything she is looking for. Pay close attention to how her attitude toward you changes(hopefully for the better). After you have some indication that she is feeling you, then make your move.

Answer 2

The best relationships start out as friends. Be her Friend, invite her to a movie or something. Ask her to help you with something. Do something to spend time with her. If you hit on her she might back off but, if she gets to know you and see your a nice guy you have a better shot. Also don't bad mouth the other guy just say she has to much to offer to be sitting around waiting for him and if you were her boy Friend you would buy several plane tickets in advance to see her.

Answer 3

Hey KC: - Man you are a chick magnet! I have a few observations and questions for you to take a closer look at, and ponder over:

1. Is she in a lot closer proximity to you than her long distance BF? (By this I mean does she live in the same town or county as you? - so your not putting your self in basically the same situation - with just a shorter drive?)

2. It kind of bothers me that she expects him to spend his money all the time on plane tickets to come see her - rather than saving money to buy a truck, - when if purchased, he could probably drive to see her more often, - if not move to where she is at. (Also - and this is sarcastic and meant to be - those planes fly both ways, and they have buses that go both ways too, - meaning that in this day and age - what is stopping HER from going TO SEE HIM ONCE IN A WHILE - instead of always expecting him to make the trip to see her - I mean if she realy loves him . . .)

3. She is obviuosly growing dissatisfied with him, and this relationship with him has been a relatiionship of convience for her anyway. I mean she gets to ahve fantasy phone sex with her long distance lover, and every oce in a while, - when he can afford to he gets on a plane - and they are together for a weekend of romance, and then he's gone off gaing for what? 8 Weeks or so? And in the mean time she can e-mail him, phone him, as she feels like it - and also go out with other guys on the side, - and he's none the wiser.

4. So while I may be being grossly unfair to her, and wrong fully painting her as a shapley, beautiful, little sex-pot, who likes to "play" her lovers for what ever she can get out of them, (and if that is the case - I heartedly apologized), I am warning you to go into this thing with your eyes wide open, - that is to say, use the "big" head to think with, and while I can not say do't get involved with her , - I have to say that of you want to pursue the opportunity with her - now is the best time to make your move.

Be supportive, be funny, be a shoulder she can cry on. LISTEN to her, don't judge, and DON"T go on about what a butt-head you think this guy is, - it's too easy to try to make yourself look good by making the other guy look bad - and remember, she may still have feelings for him . . ." Be sensitive to her moods, and how far she want's you to take things, and how fast - and if shes says or signals you "NOW" then be there "NOW".

Good luck you Stud-Muffin.

Answer 4

Keep in touch with her until you're sure they have broken up, then go in for the kill. OR you can give her more incentive to break up with her boyfriend. Plus it is a long distance relationship? They usually don't last, I think its about time for you to be with Miss. January(because thats when you met her)

Answer 5

You said you missed hooking up with her in January. I would make a move(slowly)to test the waters.see how she reacts.If you get the green light make the move. She may need a shoulder to cry on,,,and you have that shoulder available.Show her she shouldn't be tied down to one person and especially one that isn;t around.

Answer 6

Let me get this straight. She's complaining because her boyfriend doesn't want to spend money on her? If she is so in love with this dude, why doesn't she move to where he is or why doesn't he move to where she is? Something doesn't make sense. And if she's complaining about him not spending money on her, you had better be prepared to have your checkbook handy at all times if you are with her.

Answer 7

Life is short. Ask her out, have a great time and see where it leads. She's talking to you and telling you all this stuff, she is letting you know it's ok to ask her out.... just take it slow so that she doesn't feel bad about seeing another guy without officially breaking up with her long dist. bf.

Answer 8

I would wait until she is broken up with the other guy first. You don't want her bringing baggage from that relationship into yours. In the long run, I think it would be better to wait a while.

Answer 9

If she is giving signs that she likes you than go for it now. I got the guy who was dating someone across the country and we were together for 4 years. We're just friends now.

Answer 10

Dude,

Move on her now because there are probably 3 other guys thinking the same thing.