Who in your life has it been the most difficult to forgive?

Question

Question for everyone, I am well aware that chrsitians aren't the only ones who forgive.

nondescript: I assume no such thing. My question is objective and unbiased.

Answer 1

my dad, for cheating and leaving after almost 30 yrs and then committing suicide, I'm not sure if I forgave him yet, it's been 3 yrs now.

Answer 2

Myself

Answer 3

An ex-girlfriend from several years ago. I allowed her to manipulate me and use my feelings for her to her advantage. I was CRAZY about her, and she rode that as long as she could. Love really is blind.

By far, she was the most selfish individual I've ever encountered. I will never forgive her, I've simply let her go. And it took *years* to get to that point.

Guess what? She was a Christian. My experience with her made me hate the religion that much more.

Answer 4

My ex-husband who is also the father (non-existent) to my child. I had long ago forgiven him of his transgressions against me, but then for a short time (like 2 months) he entered my child's life - only to disappear and have zero contact with her ever again almost 2 years ago. That's been harder to forgive him for - Momma's don't do well when their children are the one's hurting.

Answer 5

My grandmother. She doesnt know I harbor hard feelings toward her, so she doesnt know it. My grandmother has always treated my mother as the black sheep of the family. She didnt raise my mom till she was a teenager. Her mother raised my mom. Now that I am older I see things that I didnt see as a child. I tried to borrow money one time from her to help pay for my bible college and she said she didnt have it. All I needed was like $160.00. Well I found out just prior to that she loaned out 6000.00 to her other grandchild and after I asked she loaned out 300.00 to another grandchild. Then there is other things that happened that has made it hard for me to get over.

Answer 6

My bestfriend/adopted brother has been the most difficult to forgive because of lies he fed to my late husband, which led to a divorce. I have forgiven him, but it took me a very long time. He does know, that I will not ever trust him again, and he does know that he was in the wrong.

Answer 7

By nature, I am unusually merciful and forgiving...but have been tested serverely, in the past...

I liked both Jibba and Pangel's answer!! Good for you both!!

Jesus said: "If you will not forgive men their sins against you,then neither will the Father forgive you for your sins"

For me,personally,this provides even more inspiration and further evidence of the seriousness and importance of forgiveness..

Answer 8

waaay back in high school, something of value was stolen out of the class. A "friend" told the teachers that he saw me do it (I didn't) so I was grilled for hours, the thing escalated, until finally the guy came forward and says he didn't actually see it.

But in recent years, I've been mild and forgiving I think.

Answer 9

You seem to assume that forgiving is always a good thing, or even a possible thing. We should be honest to ourselves about how we feel about the actions of other people. Judging is OK as long as the judgement is fair.

You shouldn't obsess about people who have done something wrong, but you don't have to like what they did. Instead, just realize that one action does not define a person and people do change over time. Some people don't, though, or become worse. You have to take each person as an individual and really think about what value they have in your life and how much effort you wish to spend in building a relationship, of any kind, with them.

If all of us were just more straightforward with each other and didn't harbor grudges long past their due, then we wouldn't need to artificially try to throw a blanket "forgiveness" over everything. We could start treating each other as fellow humans making their way through life like everybody else.

Answer 10

Good question.

I think that if you truly care for someone, you naturally want to forgive them when they make mistakes, even if they hurt you in some way. It also depends on what their intentions were when they hurt you. If you truly care for someone and they truly care for you, they would not intentionally hurt you, in which case it is easier to forgive them.

There is one person in my life who has wrong me, deceived me, and used me to get ahead. I thought he was a great friend and I honestly cannot forgive him for his selfishness, hurtfulness, lies, and deception. I would never treat a friend that way and I expected the same treatment.

Sometimes I find it difficult to forgive myself for allowing myself to be treated badly.

Answer 11

Myself.