i have a boy freind that in fact we were just freind like other my freinds.but after some month he said me that he love me & ask me 4 marriege him.i ddn't accept bc i don't love him & he don't have necessery things 4 start living.in fact i can not love him.so some days after (that i said him my negative answer) i heard that he want 2 kill himself if i dd'nt back.i saw him when he was crying so hard.i couldn't beleive that so i was mixed.he said me 2 kill himself.i do'nt love him.also he was my best freind he dd 4 me every thing that a freand can do 4 me .EVERY THING.he is great but i can not feel relax near him & i can not love him.but i afraid.plz help me i need ur help.what shall i do?tks
2007-07-26 02:55:24 · 14 answers · asked by paras2 s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Speak to his parents or any relatives about what your fears are about him killing himself. Hopefully they will be able to get him the professional help he needs. Do not blame yourself for this, you were being honest and reasonable about your true feelings. He has to learn to accept disappointments in life for we all will experience at many times in our life many disappointments. It might help for you to tell him that you love him as a friend but that for now you feelings are not beyond that, that you also are not ready or willing to commit to marriage. Best of luck to you!
2007-07-26 03:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he does for you but you do not do for him. Try for one month doing lots for him and see if you create love in your soul for him, If not, tell him that you want to take a break from the relationship, because of personal matters you can't discuss at this time. Stay friendly, but do not date anyone for at least 6 months. You have to realize you were not authentic and could have ruined two lives. Read about what real love is, and it';s not organizing and sex.
2007-07-26 10:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry...but your communication skills are very poor. Secondly, I suggest you read books on 'co-dependency'. You are not responsible for anyone other than yourself. You can't guilt someone into being with you. He sounds immature and emotionally unstable. Ask yourself if you really want to have a life partner like him. You have as many options as you allow yourself to him. This is america...you can be alone & independent if you choose to be. Good Luck
2007-07-26 10:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, its a nice feeling when you know somebody loves you. Anyway, just tell him this, " You know, I've always liked you.. because you wouldn't be my friend if I don't. And I value our friendship. I don't want to lose you, but I couldn't force myself to love you more than a friend." Then, just add, " But who knows what the future holds for us.. But until that time comes, can we still be friends?"
2007-07-26 10:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kaye Bennette 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hand him a piece of paper with a number for a therapist and maybe a suicide hotline. tell him that even though you two can't be a couple, you can still be friends. let him know that you aren't completely abandoning him.
2007-07-26 10:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is trying scare tactics to make you feel bad. if you don't love him, you don't love him. why put him through a lifetime of pain, when you can just put him through this one. he'll be fine eventually. however, do not let him scare you into loving him, that will only leave you scared to leave him.
2007-07-26 10:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by big d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave him and help him as a friend b/c y b in a relationship if your never gunna end up with them in the end
2007-07-26 09:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by zack_attack. so original right? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
crazy people that kill themselves is a good thing as long as they don't kill anybody else first
2007-07-26 09:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by dick_ache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try to talk him and tell him that you're still willing to be his friend. . .
but explain to him that you better hurt him honestly than mislead him with a sweetest lie. . .
and explain your sight, why you couldn't you love him back. . .
2007-07-26 10:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by emi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when you say may you.. we dont control you.. if u feel you need to leave then do so.. if not then stay.. but only you can make that decision
2007-07-26 09:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Carrolyn <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋