So my broyfriend and I have lived togther a year and his family is having a family camping party this weekend. We are in our twenties. My boyfriends parents will be there and they are VERY religious. They told my boyfriend to bring two tents for him and I. How would you feel about this whole situation? He told me he is going to sneak in my tent. What if they see him leaving my tent in the morning? I have a 6 year old and I feel like a child having to hide. lol
2007-07-26 02:30:40 · 13 answers · asked by Sales Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do not worry about it. combine the tents together, entrance to entrance when you both finally get in them, if you know what i mean. then you have two tents, one big one really. bd
2007-07-26 02:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would bring two tents. While living together has become an acceptable substitute for marriage these days, you are not married. Frankly your lack of respect for his parents values and feelings is an indicator that your not mature enough for marriage anyway. Seriously, a weekend would kill you to be separated a few feet? Also wondering where your 6 yr old is in this scenario. Maybe you should be take a 2nd tent for the child so you and your bf can have some privacy and really show your disrespect to everyone. I am not offended by a living together situation, I myself have lived with my bf for the last 10 years. What bothers me is the fact that these aren't some strangers that you should care less about what they think. This is your bf's family. I would feel honored that they accept me as a family member and invited me to a family camping weekend! Just saying, while you don't need to feel ashamed of your choice to live together, you don't have to make an issue out of a simple request that would make his parents feel more comfortable. Best of luck to you and hope whatever you decide everyone has an awesome camping trip.
2007-07-26 10:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd take the two tents, and tell him no. you know how they are. if he sneaks into your tent, they will side with him. and your new name will be harlot, sinner, and jezebel. Or it will be a big fight, and they will say look we told you to bring two tents.
Especially since you aren't married. They are telling you BOTH up front.
Even though his dance might be the bad little kid, going against mom and dad's rules. He needs to grow the hell up, or not go.
You want to have sex? walk to the lake, and use the bushes. Come back, separate tents, sleep, eat breakfast, everyone is happy. Go home.
What if it wasn't parents, and it was a church group with a priest and a nun there?
If they are religious, there's little difference. See that clearly.
Ask yourself is the fight in the morning worth the 5 minutes of groaning and sweaty sex? Your rep will be lost in their eyes.
By doing the separate tents you show discipline, and respect to the wishes that they ASKED YOU IN ADVANCE. so they are thinking about it, already. ...Perhaps they know their son.
But being cool and respectful typically appeals to religious folks.
Good luck.
2007-07-26 09:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should just go along with the family's plans. It's their trip, and although they know you live together, it is still probably hard for them to accept. It's just a weekend, 2 nights. Have fun, and enjoy his family, then return to your shared home and continue like you normally do. It never hurts to humor the in-laws a bit, to a certain extent.
Maybe you'll get the chance to get to know sisters, cousins, aunts through sharing a tent with the women. Who knows...it could end up being a lot of fun.
2007-07-26 09:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to try to be with this guy for the long haul you're going to have to come to some type of compromise with his folks. Tell them you only have one tent. If you guys live together they should respect you enough to understand the choices you and their son have made. Don't cause a fight but be firm in your believes as well. Forget all that sneaking crap you're grown ups they just need to deal!
2007-07-26 09:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by katy_zpb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you couldn't get two tents. If this doesn't work, use reasoning, his parents are in a tent together, so why can't opposite sexes in their 20's be in a tent as well? You guys are adults, freedom. Be a lookout, if he is going to be in your tent, what they don't know won't hurt them. You guys are b/f and g/f, his parents should get used to it.
2007-07-26 09:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. 3.14™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going on their trip then you should respect their rules. It is only for a few days. Surely they suspect that the two of you have been bumping uglies already but they don't want that thrown in their faces. When you get married you won't have to worry about it anymore. Before my husband and I married I went to visit and had to stay at his parents but even though he wanted to sneak in my room I sadly declined out of respect.
2007-07-26 09:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worrie about the parents sleep in his tent thats what bf andgf are supposed to do
2007-07-26 09:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to piss off. If they are so concerned then they need a reality check. not ragging on religion but on how "very religious people" seem to think they have the right to rule every aspect of ones life.
2007-07-26 09:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should respect his families wishes, it's only a weekend. It's not like you're going to die from lack of sex. My in-laws expected us to sleep in different rooms while we visited (while we were dating). Out of respect for them we did.
2007-07-26 09:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋