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my son is not going to the potty even when he is beside it,he sits on it ok but wont go to it if he is away from it and needs the potty,he is 3yrs and 4 mths can anybody help?

2007-07-26 02:21:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

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He is ready...you can train at any age really. It's all in the trainer, though. Do not make the bathroom aversive, though (i.e., do not "make" him sit on the toilet because he will never want to initiate it).

Take off the diapers during waking hours!!!

1. lay out a plan and explain it to him... take him through a dry run if necessary. (he should always know what is expected of him>)

2. Then, take him on a schedule...let's say hourly at first... regardless if he needs to go or not.

3. Then, maybe keep preferred edibles (candy) in the bathroom. And, do not let him eat these any other time. At first, when you take him, just bring him to the bathroom, have him sit for say, 15 seconds. Have him pull up his pants, and give him the preferred edible. (The importance of this step is to show him the process and to make sure he understands that when he comes to the bathroom and sits, he gets reinforced. Obviously, this is not your overall goal.

4. Then, you want to increase the time he sits (remember not to make it aversive, ever!) I would do this for like 2-3 days. Remember, he will get a piece of candy just for coming and sitting. Do not ever punish or not let him have candy if he pees his pants. Just tell him its ok and you will keep trying.

5. Give exaggerated praise everytime he does sit.

6. Then, after 2-3 days, keep him on a schedule, but try to just tell him to use the bathroom instead of taking him.

7. Any time he does actually pee in the toilet, give him exaggerated praise, and maybe a little more candy.

8. Hopefully, you can then fade out the hourly schedule, slowly, and all that candy, slowly. Eventually, maybe you want to get to a point where he can get something for each day that he uses the toilet with no accidents when he gets reiinforced.


The overall idea is to first get him on the toilet when he is not near it and reinforce him immediately. If it is a potent reinforcer, he will make the connection. That's why you want to reinforce him just for sitting (at first). Then, you need to systematically fade the schedule and reinforcers until you arrive at a reasonable program.

And, never show disappointment when he fails... just use it as a teaching opportunity and explain that it happens, but we still need to work on it... and you will work together.

2007-07-26 03:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Blasters 3 · 0 0

All kids take their own time. Don't try to force it on them. My son was 4 before he was totally potty-trained. My daughter is three and has been potty-trained for almost two weeks. It has been such a blessing to not have to buy pull-ups anymore. I think that they just need time to warm up to the idea, so just make sure you have them sit on the toilet throughout the day to get used to it. Let them pick out some character underwear. My daughter was thrilled with the idea of choosing her own underwear. I think that helped her to want to use the toilet more. With my son, since he was four, I told him that he could not start preschool unless he went to the bathroom to potty. That was all the motivation he needed. It does take some time, so hang in there. Good Luck!

2007-07-26 02:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by roberts1102 3 · 0 0

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2016-06-02 16:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This worked for me. Try bringing him around other kids his own age. These kids must be potty trained or is practicing potty training. Make sure he sees them in the act. This should make him want to give it a try. Then follow suit. 20 mins. after each meal. Nothing to drink after 8 p.m. No brow bashing and plenty of praise.

2007-07-26 02:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by YVONNE M 1 · 1 0

He may not be ready, but one thing that helped at least partly with my son, was turning peeing into a game of "shoot the cheerios". The idea of pouring a handful of cheerios into the toilet just tickled him and a box of cheerios later we were potty trained for peeing. The pooping part took a few weeks longer and a really good bribe, but looking back, the Lego train was well worth it.... Good luck!

2007-07-26 02:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Use the big potty and not some plastic kid thing... and take away daytime diapers completely. When he goes in his pants as he will plenty at first, correct him sternly and say "this is where we potty" and sit him on it for a few minutes.... yes even if he has just gone in his pants. It won't take long before he gets the idea, just stick to your guns about it.... no one said it's easy being a parent, but I can assure you this is one of the easiest parts of parenting!

2007-07-26 02:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kishauna_P 3 · 0 1

i tried for months to potty train my daughter when she was 3, she would not have any of it. then one day i just thought 'you know what, sod it' and i put pull ups on her. and do you want to know something? that very week she just walked up to the potty, sat down and did her pee pees.

don't nag her. she will do it when she is ready and not a second before. after all, how many people do you see going to work everyday in a nappy?

2007-07-26 02:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly 5 · 0 0

Hi, i had trouble with my son who is 2 and half now, your son will use it when he is ready. Do get him to sit on it and always keep it in the same place so when he goes to th etoilet he knows it wont come to him. Look out for signs when he needs to go such as, holding himself, cross legs and then make him sit on it, and tell him what he needs to do. He will get there and when he does he may still have the odd accident, just praise him alot when he does. Good luck, it does take time and patients.

2007-07-26 02:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

My son loved to sit on his potty, but wouldn't use it to save his life. Here's what we did:

We started putting him in big boy underwear. I picked out Cars for him and told him that once he kept them dry and clean he could pick out his very own. (He was working towards Spiderman). That was part one.

Then, to sweeten the pot, I promised him that if he kept his pants dry and clean for one week, he'd get bubblegum on Friday. (It was sugar free chewing gum, but he didn't know the difference).

This worked like a charm, and he was completely potty trained by 2.5 years.

2007-07-26 09:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by skydivemommy 3 · 0 0

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